The rise of the unmarried late 20s - early 30s Somali diaspora woman

[Jake from State Farm]

Hey, I fks with Hunter X Hunter, One Piece and other anime/manga. But having it as a dp is a different ball game bro.

Sxb if your not up to date with one piece get up to date with it. Wallahi its in an important part of the series right now.

Also nothing wrong with having an anime profile pic. Especially in a forum like this where you will probably never meet the people on this forum

 

[YourBroMoe]

Sxb if your not up to date with one piece get up to date with it. Wallahi its in an important part of the series right now.

Also nothing wrong with having an anime profile pic. Especially in a forum like this where you will probably never meet the people on this forum

HYPED AS FK BRO!!! My nigga Luffy is up right now boi!

 

[Jake from State Farm]

HYPED AS FK BRO!!! My nigga Luffy is up right now boi!

Wallahi this latest chapter was greatness. I couldn't even read the chapter without geting hype.

 

[mrlog]

Women can choose to be single you know? This is 2018. Maybe some want to be alone and don’t want to have children. For the ones who can’t find a man, maybe they waited too long and the pool got smaller, at that point just marry a good Muslim man. I know you guys are against shisheeye marriage but if she is saying she can’t find a guy from her race she should be open to others. I know a few friends that have been married to ajnabi (Albanians and Bosnians) for 8 years now.

 

[World]

I know cases of educated, religious and beautiful somali girls marrying guys who haven't gone to post-grad, and/or are working dead-end jobs.

So, my advice for Somali girls who would like to get married is to be proactive. Go out to events and be seen. At least then maybe if you have your name and face out there, your chances of scoring a decent Somali guy goes up. Not only that, but make sure you look good. I'm not that old, but I remember back in the day how hijabs/abaya styles were not that appealing. Now with the expansion of modest clothing, you can still look beautiful and be modest.

In addition, I would encourage Somali girls to be more physically active, because yes although we wear modest clothing, at the end of the day, it is quite obvious whether someone is overweight/obese or slim.

Almost every single Somali girl in my uni is studying bullshit like women studies, LGBT studies, sociology, psychology, African studies, history, etc. The few exceptions are some nursing students and one law student. All the Somalis guys on the other hand are studying STEM subjects like Computer Science(the vast majority) and Engineering. It's not about quantity, but quality. It was the same thing in my sixth form, there was only one Somali girl who was studying A-Level Maths, whilst there were like 10 Somali guys.

 

[Emily]

There is more to life than marriage. Somalians get married young and get divorced within months. Kudos to the girls who chose their school and career over marriage.

Gone are the days when marriage was some sort of accomplishment.

 

[MadMax]

There is more to life than marriage. Somalians get married young and get divorced within months. Kudos to the girls who chose their school and career over marriage.

Gone are the days when marriage was some sort of accomplishment.

You just want us to lower our numbers

 

[Emily]

You just want us to lower our numbers

Y’all been having too many since the beginning of times yet your population never pass 7 million

 

[MadNomad]

What are the odds you'll find all the qualities you are looking for in one Bosnian guy but not in all the somali guys u have come acrossed? explain that one bal. ma sixir baa? It doesn't make sense to me.

You'll find that in some girls the issue isn't not being able to find a decent Somali guy, although that's what they tell themselves, the problem lies in their own subconscious bias. Standards are simply lowered for ajnabis, which is why they can find someone "compatible" after two or three tries, while not finding a single compatible faarax in a sea of thousands. Somali guys are lacking, but let's be honest, they are not lacking that much.

Why this subconscious lowering of standards? Who knows. Maybe they view it as a status boost, or maybe they are simply more attracted to non-somalis. Whatever the reason may be, it's not the usual "i can't find a decent Somali guy" trope. Because if you try, you'll find one.

 

[Bohol]

The other reason is some of the farahs in the west developed marriage phobia. They don't want to commit.

 

[PhaedrusHunt]

This problem is only going to get worse. Women, in general, tend to have an easier life when starting out in their teens than men. They have an inflated sense of self-worth via an over abundance of attention from men and social media creating the financially independent “I don’t need no maaaann” woman we bear witness to today. These successful and educated xalimos because of the “you gooo grrrllll” mantra chanted in the West feel entitled to men of equal or greater value, and will ignore any men she perceives is of lower value. But when they start to hit the wall - biological clock tick-tocking - suddenly now they want to lower their requirements. He doesn’t have to be over 6 foot tall, he doesn’t have to make over 80k per year etc


Some of these women even had a promiscuous past. They think that wearing the jilbab and “looking within” will absolve her past of all her wrong doings. We call that the Madonna- complex. Now what sane man would marry a woman in her late twenties, who most likely had a past, her reproductive potential at an all time low, a whole slew of other problems such as narcissism and entitlement when he can just grab a younger girl in her early twenties from the market?


Enjoy the decline.

 

[Hilaac]

It is some of these anti-female sentiments that turned Somali girls off. It is not wise to rush into marriage and people have their reasons. The world is not black and white

 

[landheer]

Marriage is a scam I'll die fucking hoes no will ever tie me down!

 

[PhaedrusHunt]

It is some of these anti-female sentiments that turned Somali girls off. It is not wise to rush into marriage and people have their reasons. The world is not black and white

Yeah, okay. Sure. Random comments on a Somali forum is the cause of this marriage phenomenon. That’s totally believable.

 

[Hilaac]

Yeah, okay. Sure. Random comments on a Somali forum is the cause of this marriage phenomenon. That’s totally believable.

It is indicative of a broader misogynistic mentality that Somalis never gave up

 

[PhaedrusHunt]

It is indicative of a broader misogynistic mentality that Somalis never gave up

So I hate women now? Wow. So you’re not going to blame feminism, you’re not going to blame these women for having unreasonable standards, you’re not going to blame social media and Western influences such as “party now then start a family! you got time!”. You’re not going to blame the women who look down on being housewives, cooking, cleaning and starting a family.

Yup. Pack up everyone. If you don’t want to marry a woman who hit the wall, you’re a misogynist. What a copout.

 

[Hilaac]

So I hate women now? Wow. So you’re not going to blame feminism, you’re not going to blame these women for having unreasonable standards, you’re not going to blame social media and Western influences such as “party now then start a family! you got time!”. You’re not going to blame the women who look down on being housewives, cooking, cleaning and starting a family.

Yup. Pack up everyone. If you don’t want to marry a woman who hit the wall, you’re a misogynist. What a copout.

I didn't say that. I'm speaking generally, no one is putting a gun to your head and asking you to do anything. Some of these girls are out here achieving great things, give them peace instead of suggesting they are flawed for singledom. All people are flawed married or not and to ascribe just being married with some kind of superiority is where 68 IQ estimates come from. It's very easy to get married but it doesn't mean you should marry just anyone. I equally look down on western influence btw, that's not my point.

 

[World]

I didn't say that. I'm speaking generally, no one is putting a gun to your head and asking you to do anything. Some of these girls are out here achieving great things, give them peace instead of suggesting they are flawed for singledom. All people are flawed married or not and to ascribe just being married with some kind of superiority is where 68 IQ estimates come from. It's very easy to get married but it doesn't mean you should marry just anyone. I equally look down on western influence btw, that's not my point.

Why do people keep mentioning the 68 IQ figure when it's totally false? It's just Kenya + Ethiopia(which is also false) divided by 2.

 

[PhaedrusHunt]

I didn't say that. I'm speaking generally, no one is putting a gun to your head and asking you to do anything. Some of these girls are out here achieving great things, give them peace instead of suggesting they are flawed for singledom. All people are flawed married or not and to ascribe just being married with some kind of superiority is where 68 IQ estimates come from. It's very easy to get married but it doesn't mean you should marry just anyone. I equally look down on western influence btw, that's not my point.

Achieving great things? You mean a career, right? Again, I have no problem with what these women do, just don’t cry when the gravy train passes you, your biological clock is tick-tocking and no man is willing to settle down with you. That’s all.

 

[Hilaac]

Achieving great things? You mean a career, right? Again, I have no problem with what these women do, just don’t cry when the gravy train passes you, your biological clock is tick-tocking and no man is willing to settle down with you. That’s all.

Maybe a weak person would be phased by that. I will never fear stupid stigmas.