Sspot who would you listen to?

[Toriye]

I can get another wife

 

[Samaalic Era]

I don't know what I'm talking about or are you just a follower of this stupid feminist ideology? If you want a husband to smack around or step over then marry a simp. No real man would allow you to disobey him without a perfect reason. To be a perfect wife you have to be submissive and I quoted a hadith and can't quote more to back me up. Obedience to one's husband comes before anyone.

The Quran and Sunnah indicate that the husband has a confirmed right over his wife, and that she is commanded to obey him, treat him well and put obedience to him above obedience to her parents and brothers. Indeed, he is her paradise and her hell. For example, Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means”

[al-Nisa’ 4:34]

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “It is not permissible for a woman to fast when her husband is present except with his permission, or to allow anyone in his house without his permission.”

Narrated by al-Bukhari, 4899.

@Saredo @SilverL

@Samaalic Era kkkk these feminists are triggered.

Nothing but truth sxb

 

[Factz]

The husband is the leader in the relationship but the mother is the leader of her son.

Also, it's not cool for anyone to disrespect their spouse parents. Arguing with elders shows a bad sign of character and must be avoided. I wouldn't want to be with anyone that doesn't get along with my parents and alhamdulillah, my wife respects her elders. She sees my parents like her parents. That's a real wife there. Avoid toxic women that don't respect your mother.

 

[Cilmi-doon]

If it ever gets to that point, you’ve failed both your parent and spouse.

 

[NotMyL]

Some of these men talking about the wife being replaceable, just another woman, hoe, etc no wonder this place is full of bitter basement dwellers. A real man wouldn’t disrespect the mother of his children or the woman that birthed him, instead he finds a way to diffuse the situation.

 

[Saredo]

Some of these men talking about the wife being replaceable, just another woman, hoe, etc no wonder this place is full of bitter basement dwellers. A real man wouldn’t disrespect the mother of his children or the woman that birthed him, instead he finds a way to diffuse the situation.

Exactly. tbh i would be ashamed if i argued with my mother in law ( and on top of that asking my husband to pick sides lool). She deserves respect just like I expect my husband to respect my parents. Conflicts with elders should be avoided anyways.

 

[Factz]

Some of these men talking about the wife being replaceable, just another woman, hoe, etc no wonder this place is full of bitter basement dwellers. A real man wouldn’t disrespect the mother of his children or the woman that birthed him, instead he finds a way to diffuse the situation.

There were even women saying "the husband is replaceable but the father isn't" and yeah, I didn't agree with any of that since I love my wife too much. However, I believe a respectful person would never argue with their elders. I feel like anyone that says pick a side are toxic. The husband/wife should know better and treat their parents in law as their own parents.

 

[Cilmi-doon]

For all you girls who are reading this thread and want a happy marriage.....you see where the majority of Abdis stand..... fear the wrath of thy mother-in-law.

 

[Muji]

lol I don’t think partners should ever be speaking to the parent directly if they have an issue. It should be mediated through the husband or wife.
Also, to the men here saying I would choose my hoyo women can be replaced. What if the mother is picking on her unjustly lol doesn’t this call for calm mediation? Grow up.

 

[Mahacagalla]

Mommy dearest of course what kind of a question is this

 

[Mahacagalla]

People make it sound like an in laws mom can’t be a total or an in-law father being a stubborn asshole.

this is why newly weds should move cities away from sabotaging parents.

 

[Mimir]

I don't know what I'm talking about or are you just a follower of this stupid feminist ideology? If you want a husband to smack around or step over then marry a simp. No real man would allow you to disobey him without a perfect reason. To be a perfect wife you have to be submissive and I quoted a hadith and can't quote more to back me up. Obedience to one's husband comes before anyone.

The Quran and Sunnah indicate that the husband has a confirmed right over his wife, and that she is commanded to obey him, treat him well and put obedience to him above obedience to her parents and brothers. Indeed, he is her paradise and her hell. For example, Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means”

[al-Nisa’ 4:34]

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “It is not permissible for a woman to fast when her husband is present except with his permission, or to allow anyone in his house without his permission.”

Narrated by al-Bukhari, 4899.

@Saredo @SilverL

@Samaalic Era kkkk these feminists are triggered.

Saaxib

First change your custom title before speaking about the deen.

'Qumayo lover' kulaha

 

[Veteran]

I can have 4 wives, so I would listen to my mother.

 

[Daacad90]

My mum duh

 

[Mckenzie]

If my Mrs Father told her to sit down, then we're both sitting down lmao. Repsect the elderly always. Rarely does a man and his father in law ever collide, it's always the women.

 

[Dharbash]

Ladies

Your dad and your husband get into an argument, your husband tells you get up we are leaving, and your dad tells to sit down and don't go anywhere. Which one are you listening to you?



Guys.

Your wife and your mom get into an argument, your wife tells you let's go we are leaving, your mom tells you to sit down. Which one are you listening to?

My mother, frankly I think the wife should know her place and not try and be better than the woman who birthed you.

 

[Samaalic Era]

If my Mrs Father told her to sit down, then we're both sitting down lmao. Repsect the elderly always. Rarely does a man and his father in law ever collide, it's always the women.

A large portion of Somali women tend to not get along with their mother in law.
They view them as rivals instead

 

[Mckenzie]

A large portion of Somali women tend to not get along with their mother in law.
They view them as rivals instead

Any Mother will be careful to not want their son being used and abused for his money sxb. I'm sure every female here will be the same for their son. Ppl need to be adults and understand where others are coming from.

 

[Abdisamad]

@Gibiin-Udug
It depends on the situation, if it's something trivial I won't take my mom serious as I don't want trivial stuff to ruin my marriage.. I would carefully evaluate the situation and the issue they are arguing about and based on my evaluation I'll talk to both of them and make them resolve the argument, then take my wife home..

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[Gibiin-Udug]

@Gibiin-Udug
It depends on the situation, if it's something trivial I won't take my mom serious as I don't want trivial stuff to ruin my marriage.. I would carefully evaluate the situation and the issue they are arguing about and based on my evaluation I'll talk to both of them and make them resolve the argument, then take my wife home..

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You had to turn this into shaxaari post didn't you.