Sspot who would you listen to?

[Marsh]

I didn't buy you to disrespect my mother, of course family over hoes, but once you go as far as disrespecting my own mother, then you have proven to me that you are less than trash

 

[Saredo]

I'll obviously listen to my mom. I can never disrespect the woman who gave birth to me and raised me.

Also for the ladies here, your Husband is your male guardian and your number 1 priority. If your husband tells you to do something that contradicts your dad, you should choose your husband instead. If shirk wasn't haram, you would have to bow to your husband. You should obey your husband more than your parents or anyone.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet said, “If I were to order anyone to prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered a woman to prostrate herself before her husband.” [At-Tirmidhi]

Look at this one. Please stick to threads about liyah mai. You're giving bad advice here.

 

[416]

What’s mehr then????

 

[HanadR6]

What’s mehr then????

You can quite literally buy a Somali woman if you've got cash kkkk

 

[Ayubi]

@Ayubi doesnt know what he's talking about.

I don't know what I'm talking about or are you just a follower of this stupid feminist ideology? If you want a husband to smack around or step over then marry a simp. No real man would allow you to disobey him without a perfect reason. To be a perfect wife you have to be submissive and I quoted a hadith and can't quote more to back me up. Obedience to one's husband comes before anyone.

The Quran and Sunnah indicate that the husband has a confirmed right over his wife, and that she is commanded to obey him, treat him well and put obedience to him above obedience to her parents and brothers. Indeed, he is her paradise and her hell. For example, Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means”

[al-Nisa’ 4:34]

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “It is not permissible for a woman to fast when her husband is present except with his permission, or to allow anyone in his house without his permission.”

Narrated by al-Bukhari, 4899.

@Saredo @SilverL

@Samaalic Era kkkk these feminists are triggered.

 

[Marsh]

What’s mehr then????

makes sense

 

[bluebird]

I don't know what I'm talking about or are you just a follower of this stupid feminist ideology? If you want a husband to smack around or step over then marry a simp. No real man would allow you to disobey him without a perfect reason. To be a perfect wife you have to be submissive and I quoted a hadith and can't quote more to back me up. Obedience to one's husband comes before anyone.

The Quran and Sunnah indicate that the husband has a confirmed right over his wife, and that she is commanded to obey him, treat him well and put obedience to him above obedience to her parents and brothers. Indeed, he is her paradise and her hell. For example, Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means”

[al-Nisa’ 4:34]

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “It is not permissible for a woman to fast when her husband is present except with his permission, or to allow anyone in his house without his permission.”

Narrated by al-Bukhari, 4899.

@Saredo @SilverL

@Samaalic Era kkkk these feminists are triggered.

again, that's in matters regarding the marriage. Your husband can't compel you to do haram acts so why would it be okay for him to disrespect your dad? and have you follow his lead. you have to enjoin good and forbid evil even with your husband and set him straight, let him know that elders need to be honored, this includes father in laws

 

[Luciddreamer]

Exactly why are we assuming they dont have speaking capabilities.

Comparing sides and loyalty, why even put yourself in that position?
You being there further escalates things.

Just calm them down, make them sit next to each other and simply leave the house
for 30mins and come back to them giggling and drinking shaah together.

 

[MI]

I’m gonna be real with you guys pretty sure my mom has bpd or something so depending on what they’re arguing about I might just deadass leave with my wife before she starts throwing shit

love her to death tho lmao

 

[416]

Comparing sides and loyalty, why even put yourself in that position?
You being there further escalates things.

Just calm them down, make them sit next to each other and simply leave the house
for 30mins and come back to them giggling and drinking shaah together.

You really are a certified bucktee

 

[Ayubi]

again, that's in matters regarding the marriage. Your husband can't compel you to do haram acts so why would it be okay for him to disrespect your dad? and have you follow his lead. you have to enjoin good and forbid evil even with your husband and set him straight, let him know that elders need to be honored, this includes father in laws

True, even in halal acts you should always choose your husband over your parents or anyone. If your father says, please fill out these papers for me or go get me ice cream and your husband forbids you to do so, you are obligated to obey your husband instead, the end.

May Allah bless the patriarchy and male dominance Ameen.

 

[Nostalgia]

@Ayubi
Yes women are supposed to obey their husband but that hadith doesn't mean literally prostrate it's just to show obedience to emphasise how important it is to respect one's husband but which guy will tell his wife to disobey her dad?

I have heard about wives and mothers fighting and the mother telling the guy choose me or your wife and vice versa, which is really sad.

 

[?????]

Sorry a husband is replaceable and my dad is not

 

[Ayubi]

So now we are "feminist" because we don't want our fathers to be disrespected.

Nope, you should be neutral but if it's halal decisions you should always choose your husband over anyone including your family. It depends on the situation though, if your husband is being the aggresser then you should always choose what's right. I quoted hadiths and I'll quote academic Islamic fiqh books to back me up (I don't have it with me rn). All you women did in this thread was bring emotions and strawman arguments. No wonder people say Men think with their rationality while woman think with their emotions.

May Allah bless the patriarchy and Male dominance Ameen

 

[Saredo]

Nope, you should be neutral but if it's halal decisions you should always choose your husband over anyone including your family. It depends on the situation though, if your husband is being the aggresser then you should always choose what's right. I quoted hadiths and I'll quote academic Islamic fiqh books to back me up (I don't have it with me rn). All you women did in this thread was bring emotions and strawman arguments. No wonder people say Men think with their rationality while woman think with their emotions.

May Allah bless the patriarchy and Male dominance Ameen

yeah yeah male dominance until your daughter leaves you too.

No one will disrespect my abo warya. And my futur daughter better not disrespect her dad ( my husband). Anyways the man I'll marry will have good akhlaq al hamdoulillah and we will do our best to not upset our parents.

 

[Gambar]

I'll obviously listen to my mom. I can never disrespect the woman who gave birth to me and raised me.

Also for the ladies here, your Husband is your male guardian and your number 1 priority. If your husband tells you to do something that contradicts your dad, you should choose your husband instead. If shirk wasn't haram, you would have to bow to your husband. You should obey your husband more than your parents or anyone.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet said, “If I were to order anyone to prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered a woman to prostrate herself before her husband.” [At-Tirmidhi]

Your wife has rights over you. As a waali, you have a responsibility to her even moreso when you are the father of her children. Don’t use the deen for your wicked agenda.

 

[Marsh]

May Allah bless the patriarchy and Male dominance Ameen

 

[Figo]

Listening to moms. I’m sure the wifey would understand my choice.

 

[Gallant]

 

[Cilmi-doon]

Ladies

Your dad and your husband get into an argument, your husband tells you get up we are leaving, and your dad tells to sit down and don't go anywhere. Which one are you listening to you?



Guys.

Your wife and your mom get into an argument, your wife tells you let's go we are leaving, your mom tells you to sit down. Which one are you listening to?

Provide some background information. What are they fighting about ? Most situations can be resolved in the beginning without having to choose between your parent and spouse.