I'll take your argument seriously when men stop using women for free labour.
If a woman raising kids is biological, then so is a man providing. Nice try.
Spend his money and save yours
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I'll take your argument seriously when men stop using women for free labour.
If a woman raising kids is biological, then so is a man providing. Nice try.
Contribute?
Give birth to your kid
Clean your home
Cook your damn food
Raise the kids
But now she also has to take on YOUR role as well? Nice try.
If she actually does all that you mentioned above then the man has to pay the bills on his own.
Raise the kids
Cook me a meal
Clean my clothes. Etc
And I will gladly provide.
You men don't know anything about love.
You want a glorified maid who also goes out and helps you pay half of the rent.
She cooks, cleans, pays half of the rent, awake in the middle of the night with the baby, running after the kids.
Man: pays half of the rent, and complains like a little .
>clean your home,
> Cook your food,
Do you live in the 21st Century, in the West? What girls can cook and clean your home? None.
And i agree with the feminists.
It's should be 50/50 in the home as well as the money.
I'm replying to the girls in this thread who want all without contributing.
> giving birth to your kid,
SHE IS NOT ENTITLED TO MY MONEY.
That's it.
She's a strong, independant and liberated girl.
She can have her money.
Complains like a little ? Where do you live in the West, for real?
They can't cook shit, they are loud and they think they are entitled to our success.
The princess syndrome is strong with those. If she's a traditional one, as i said, i'm okay. Because she will do what she thinks it's traditional.
But if she's another hypocrite, who is feminist when she wants and thinks she will get my money...She can still dream :D
Hypocrites are a bliss.
I'm not against traditional gender roles but those girls who want to spend the money of their husbands for their personal pleasure, that's not my thing. I hate it.
So until a woman has children, a man has no obligation to provide?
Who said she has to take my role? That's like saying men shouldn't be involved in raising their children. They should input only input fiscally and just pay child support to the mother of their child. Oppressive
If modern women have princess syndrome then men have a mommy syndrome in which they think any woman they get with is like their mother.
Women are the primary caregivers in reality. Wake up.
Yes, and men should primarily be providers. Doesn't mean a woman shouldn't contribute financially where they can. By your line of thinking it should be ok for a nigga to come home after work, eat, get changed and go out to friends. Everyday. As long as he pays the bills ofc
Anyway bun this. You have the Islamic right to their money and I won't argue against that. I don't see any enjoyable or lasting relationship forming like that, but rules is rules
Look marriage is a partnership, if the husband is struggling then of course. If the wife needs help then he should also help and vice versa.
Lets be real in reality, when a man has proper money, he will have no problem providing solely. Its usually the ones struggling that have issues with this concept.
Caraweelo
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You are overreacting here. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and even if you disagree with them. let's be honest here almost 99% of somali household women are the ones who run it and doing most of the house work but i did not see you being angry at these men abusing women with all the house work.
For @TheShinning she is speaking from experience and she and her husband reached to deals that suits both of them so who are you to judge them. I may not agree with many things @TheShinning said but I can't force women to accept 50/50 deal because we come from different background and different way of thinking and sadly many women normalize this abusive treatment and many don't have the power to change it.
@Inquisitive_ is a liar that is determined to tar all Somali girl raised abroad as being lazy. It is a fact that we are raised by our mothers to cook and clean.
What Somali mother who is unfortunate enough to have a daughter that is lazy is going to admit this to him? You do know in Somali culture that it is shameful for mothers to have daughters that do not know how to run a household?
The only girls from my experience that seem to be clueless are the ones that are the youngest. The baby of the house.
@Inquisitive_ because of xishood a Somali women isn't going to expose her own daughter to the likes of a grown man. You are telling fibs.
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Caraweelo
President of the Secular Republic of Somalia
I strongly support this feminism too. In future if i got the chance I would love to join Somali national army and shot some alshabab terrorists or these abusive sheikhs/men.
But many men and women are against feminism and they use religious and cultural excuses to prevent women and men being equal in everything. feminism is very useful it will balance the society and it will reduce crimes and discrimination against women and men but the problem is how to convince the majority of Somalis that feminism will improve our society and country.
I'm somehow reminded of the Stepford wives.
Let's all be washing machines.
Let's all be washing machines.
You have to understand abaayo that there are stressful jobs men work into that last 12 hours or more. They're soley doing this to provide.
Raising kids is not only the mothers job. I think you meant getting the kid up, telling them to brush their teeth and put on their clothes and get ready for school. Make them a breakfast. Yeah, a housewife is like a job and everyone should know that by now. The minute you marry a man and have kids. You've signed up to be a mother. I believe weak women who are complaining about basic gender roles should not get married.
Besides, if you want the man to provide then who will look after the kids? I'm glad you're understandable in some ways and like the traditional partnership.
For a rainy day.
Every family needs an emergency fund.
Also, what if your wife needs to support her family?
A normal woman would not be selfish and would plan for the future of the family, husband included.
These people talking about wasting money are not thinking straight.
Imagine having a good man who provides for you and you make it rain at the mall?
Nope.
Spend some on yourself and invest the rest for your family and in case your husband dies or gets sick.
You know...you can work?
Jobs are there and you can have a job. If the kids are old enough, you can work for yourself.
If you read the topic, many halimos want to have their money only for their pleasure while throwing away the money of their "husbands".
Immatures. Who will marry a princess mentality? We are in a feminist region ; Europe and North America.
Women can work and do work.
Don't spend "your money" on yourself if you are married. Otherwise stay single and spend it on yourself.
I agree with what you are saying, but in 2019 women work alongside men in fact many of the jobs that you are talking about with 12hrs+ employ women, some who are mothers as well.
I know married women who are doctors, teachers, engineers ect. They are all tired and drained. They provide 50% of the household income but do most of the housework. That is the reality. It has completely changed my outlook on working after marriage btw. This is the reason why I have no issues with being a housewife after I have children, despite being educated and a full time employee currently.
Women complain because alongside the job of raising a family and being the primary caregiver they are also expected to play the role of provider as well. Our mothers did not have this problem.
Relationships are rarely ever 50/50. So now you have women biting off more than they can chew. They have every right to complain.
It takes a strong women to take on not only the outside work, but also indoors.
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