Spend his money and save yours

[NotMyL]

You are overreacting here. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and even if you disagree with them. let's be honest here almost 99% of somali household women are the ones who run it and doing most of the house work but i did not see you being angry at these men abusing women with all the house work.

For @TheShinning she is speaking from experience and she and her husband reached to deals that suits both of them so who are you to judge them. I may not agree with many things @TheShinning said but I can't force women to accept 50/50 deal because we come from different background and different way of thinking and sadly many women normalize this abusive treatment and many don't have the power to change it.

@Inquisitive_ looks down and belittles women every chance he gets. You can’t take anyone with that type of views serious. Sad thing is he comes across level headed until you read what he thinks of women, a lot of the men on this thread with the exception of few are ciyaal who have never been in a relationship and are in for rude awakening.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

You know...you can work?
Jobs are there and you can have a job. If the kids are old enough, you can work for yourself.

If you read the topic, many halimos want to have their money only for their pleasure while throwing away the money of their "husbands".
Immatures. Who will marry a princess mentality? We are in a feminist region ; Europe and North America.
Women can work and do work.
Don't spend "your money" on yourself if you are married. Otherwise stay single and spend it on yourself.

You are an atheist so you have different values.

I believe one of the parents should be at home full-time to raise children to make sure they are raised well and with morals.

It does not matter which parent.

If both parents work, who is watching the kids?

 

[Factz]

I agree with what you are saying, but in 2019 women work alongside men in fact many of the jobs that you are talking about with 12hrs+ employ women, some who are mothers as well.

Women complain because alongside the job of raising a family and being the primary caregiver they are also expected to play the role of provider as well. Our mothers did not have this problem.

Relationships are rarely ever 50/50. So now you have women biting off more than they can chew.

You remember my first comment? If the woman is providing and paying the bills then I believe the man should should contribute taking care of the kids and do the chores. Automatically, this is a modern relationship that feminist push for in the west but I've literally seen women who want traditional husbands and expect them to split the chores. They basically want a slave husband and that is my only problem and I can see where you're coming from and it's the same thing. It's hypocrisy.

 

[4head]

You are an atheist so you have different values.

I believe one of the parents should be at home full-time to raise children to make sure they are raised well and with morals.

It does not matter which parent.

If both parents work, who is watching the kids?

You have a solid point and i try to live up to reality, walal. If for example want to get married, i know for a fact that many women want the milk and the honey without contributing. Let me explain;
many young girls sub to the feminist agenda. But whenever it can profit them.
And when they get tired of it, they become "traditional/old school women". What a joke! I don't respect this behaviour, it's disgusting. Wish i could be a man old school but it's rarely possible because saying to a woman to stay home and taking care of the kids -> it's sexist and they will tell "we are in 2019, not the 50's". lmao but when they need men and their ressources, they forget about the current year and they love the old system.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

You have a solid point and i try to live up to reality, walal. If for example want to get married, i know for a fact that many women want the milk and the honey without contributing. Let me explain;
many young girls sub to the feminist agenda. But whenever it can profit them.
And when they get tired of it, they become "traditional/old school women". What a joke! I don't respect this behaviour, it's disgusting. Wish i could be a man old school but it's rarely possible because saying to a woman to stay home and taking care of the kids -> it's sexist and they will tell "we are in 2019, not the 50's". lmao but when they need men and their ressources, they forget about the current year and they love the old system.

There are a lot of women who would not mind being a housewife, it is a difficult, full time job.

Once the children go to school, she can get a part time job.

Marriage is a partnership and as life gets more expensive, people cannot afford to waste money.

Find a like minded woman instead of dwelling on the ones who are incompatible with you.

 

[4head]

There are a lot of women who would not mind being a housewife, it is a difficult, full time job.

Once the children go to school, she can get a part time job.

Marriage is a partnership and as life gets more expensive, people cannot afford to waste money.

Find a like minded woman instead of dwelling on the ones who are incompatible with you.

Yep!

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

You remember my first comment? If the woman is providing and paying the bills then I believe the man should should contribute taking care of the kids and do the chores. Automatically, this is a modern relationship that feminist push but I've literally seen women who want traditional husbands and expect them to split the chores. They basically want a slave husband and that is my only problem and I can see where you're coming from and it's the same thing. It's hypocrisy.

I feel that if the husband or wife works, they should expect a clean house and food on the table. The working partner can do things like prepare their work clothes and lunch etc whilst the house wife/husband does other chores.


For example, arrive home at 6 from work, relax, eat a family dinner. Talk to the kids, help with homework and then relax some more as the house wife/husband puts the kids to sleep.

During the weekend, let the house husband/wife have a day off in which the working partner spends time with the kids.

Discuss this before getting married and eveything should be fine.

Selfish, lazy people should not get married, male or female.

 

[Gambar]

I feel that if the husband or wife works, they should expect a clean house and food on the table. The working partner can do things like prepare their work clothes and lunch etc whilst the house wife/husband does other chores.


For example, arrive home at 6 from work, relax, eat a family dinner. Talk to the kids, help with homework and then relax some more as the house wife/husband puts the kids to sleep.

During the weekend, let the house husband/wife have a day off in which the working partner spends time with the kids.

Discuss this before getting married and eveything should be fine.

Selfish, lazy people should not get married, male or female.

Most of these men are just control freaks ruunti and nothing is worse than a control freak.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Most of these men are just control freaks ruunti and nothing is worse than a control freak.

Compassion and nice language goes a long way walahi.
A lot of marriages would not fail if people just had that for their spouse.


For example "buy bread, we ran out"

OR

"Gacalo/Haji (any nice nickname), ilaahay ha ku barakeeyo, rooti noo soo qabo"

Or

"Iron my shirt"

"Would you please iron my shirt? (Preceded or followed by kind gesture"

A few minutes of kindess and kind words would make a relationship stronger.


I once heard "make time for your relationship or you will have a lot of time to think about it, once it ends".

 

[NotMyL]

Most of these men are just control freaks ruunti and nothing is worse than a control freak.

The you need to be my slave if you are not sharing your income rant is hilarious, no way they will have an adult relationship unless mother brings maaskin girl from the village for them lol

 

[Gambar]

The you need to be my slave if you are not sharing your income rant is hilarious, no way they will have an adult relationship unless mother brings maaskin girl from the village for them lol

They’d get a rude awakening from a village girl ileen she expects a man.

 

[Inquisitive_]

You are overreacting here. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and even if you disagree with them. let's be honest here almost 99% of somali household women are the ones who run it and doing most of the house work but i did not see you being angry at these men abusing women with all the house work.

When did house work become abuse? everyone that has spent some time living alone would have done this by default, it's part of everyday life for those people, were exactly is the abuse in this?

@Inquisitive_ looks down and belittles women every chance he gets. You can’t take anyone with that type of views serious. Sad thing is he comes across level headed until you read what he thinks of women, a lot of the men on this thread with the exception of few are ciyaal who have never been in a relationship and are in for rude awakening.

It takes a lot to be a good a husband but very little to be a good wife, we are not measured by the same standards, for this reason a bad wife is worse then a bad husband.

For the vast majority of male's if the female looks after herself physically (no fatness or obesity as is common now among our women) and appears somewhat feminine, she is considered good quality by the vast majority of males.

To the handful of religiously inclined brothers if she has piety on top of this, she is gold dust! all of this is very easy to achieve and you are already biologically predisposed to it.

A male with exactly the same characteristics is considered a failure, he has to bring a lot more to the table to be of equal footing, and a result toil and labour hard in life to be financially well off to be able to buy/rent house, have a car while looking after you and the children.

Yet you will find her in the UK, despite the low entry bar, the vast majority of female's failing on the physical criteria alone (obesity pandemic) and the worst ones are the university educated ones.

Males don't care about your degrees, the number of hours she works or how much money she makes, in fact it usually works against them because these things inculcate masculine characteristics which is undesirable.

I don't know how things are in America/Canada, but her in the UK having lived in two of the biggest cities for many years and being avid walker, it's very rare to come across a Xaalimo that looks after herself physically, let alone looking at her character, intelligence and piety.

 

[World]

A woman has 2 options

To serve her husband, being his personal maid, a housewife who looks after the children, the household, cooks, and cleans.

Or work and split the bills 50/50. And the husband can help out a bit around the house.

There is no third option.

 

[Inquisitive_]

The you need to be my slave if you are not sharing your income rant is hilarious, no way they will have an adult relationship unless mother brings maaskin girl from the village for them lol

People are pointing our your intense selfishness and greed, you contribute absolutely zero and on top of this, you have to nerve to brag about it on this thread.

This is the epitome of shamelessness, what's even worse is that despite the fact you work 20 hours less then him, you still complain about him not doing enough house chores even going as far as dissing his mother for being soft on him despite him working 60 hours a week and paying all the bills while you contribute zero.

You need to count your blessings before you have a rude awakening, I work in the same industry and the majority of male's that I know would never sign up for this.

Sooner or later this brother will wake up to this con job and you will be in for a rude awakening, when male's like these wake up from their slumber, their level of viciousness from experience scares me.

For a rainy day.

Every family needs an emergency fund.
Also, what if your wife needs to support her family?

A normal woman would not be selfish and would plan for the future of the family, husband included.

These people talking about wasting money are not thinking straight.

Imagine having a good man who provides for you and you make it rain at the mall?

Nope.

Spend some on yourself and invest the rest for your family and in case your husband dies or gets sick.

What's your take on the 10-35k that is wasted on weddings which the majority of Xaalimo's and their degenerate mothers demand?

Precious money that is spent to further enrich Asian/Arab/White Businesses ? by first generation immigrants from refugee parents.

 

[East side]

Being a housewife for 1 baby is not hard. Lets be honest with each other now. If you have 3 or 4 I can understand. But 1 is nothing

 

[Ferrari]

it's gonna be the other way around for me.

she'll be contributing more money to the house than me.

I'll save most of my money, and take solo vacations while she stays behind.

My money ain't leaving my hands because of some unwritten rule that men should provide.

Your husband gives me @Mercury vibe @TheShinning , sounds like the type to call sex 'making love'.

 

[NotMyL]

People are pointing our your intense selfishness and greed, you contribute absolutely zero and on top of this, you have to nerve to brag about it on this thread.

This is the epitome of shamelessness, what's even worse is that despite the fact you work 20 hours less then him, you still complain about him not doing enough house chores even going as far as dissing his mother for being soft on him despite him working 60 hours a week and paying all the bills while you contribute zero.

You need to count your blessings before you have a rude awakening, I work in the same industry and the majority of male's that I know would never sign up for this.

Sooner or later this brother will wake up to this con job and you will be in for a rude awakening, when male's like these wake up from their slumber, their level of viciousness from experience scares me

I count my blessing every day for being married to a man who’s respectful, caring and takes care of his family. Bums who are making minimum wage are the ones having anxiety-attack of the thought of a man paying what Allah made his responsibility. My savings aren’t just for me, I have mentioned it here how I spent it on us. We are lucky enough we both make good income, we travel, splurge and have savings that we can live comfortably for a long time if we were to lose our jobs.

 

[Gambar]

it's gonna be the other way around for me.

she'll be contributing more money to the house than me.

I'll save most of my money, and take solo vacations while she stays behind.

My money ain't leaving my hands because of some unwritten rule that men should provide.

Your husband gives me @Mercury vibe @TheShinning , sounds like the type to call sex 'making love'.

It’s an Islamic rule.

 

[Ferrari]

It’s an Islamic rule.

it's my money.
come with your own money.

 

[East side]

I count my blessing every day for being married to a man who’s respectful, caring and takes care of his family. Bums who are making minimum wage are the ones having anxiety-attack of the thought of a man paying what Allah made his responsibility. My savings aren’t just for me, I have mentioned it here how I spent it on us. We are lucky enough we both make good income, we travel, splurge and have savings that we can live comfortably for a long time if we were to lose our jobs.

Why are you calling people making minimum wage bums? Thats a rather arrogant view. A lot of these people do jobs that make society function better. If you have it so good dont look down on people who makes minimum wage?