More often than not, it’s the lack of positive involvement that causes women to talk shit.
Speaking for myself, if I were to have kids and something were to happen between their father and I, I know I’d never keep them from their father unless it’s an extreme case. However, statistically speaking, I already know the odds he’ll place that same level of importance into a relationship with them is low. Just look around you (Somali or not). I honestly think men are just like that on average. It seems they can disassociate easily from their kids once the mother is out of the picture.