Should a man always pay for dates?

[Man with a garuun]

I agree to disagree with you, but you keep repeating points and attacking Angelina personally instead of defending your pov logically.

If you were objective, you could see that I argued my points logically and wasn't the first to get personal.

 

[Man with a garuun]

If a woman wanted to dig for gold, she'll go for a rich one. Not a low class man who complains about simple dinners.

And rich men are taking every girl on the street?

I never asked for your promiscuous dating history. It seems to me the reason why you dated so many is because you kept on getting dumped. Let me give you a hint, most women aren't going go give a man that makes them pay a chance, it makes you look cheap.

Those women were chaste and decent. You're the only suggesting promiscuity here. You don't attack people whom you don't know and who aren't here to defend themselves. It takes a decency not to attack people that you don't know of.

Most young Faraxs who haven't been polluted by Xaliyo and Andrew Tate do. Look at this very thread most said they would, especially if they like the girl. What on earth are you talking about.

Xaliye is for the fob fellas in East Africa. and Andrew Tate was for the large Western audience. Both of them are a new phenomena. What I described preceded both of them.

Genuine question, do you think Mehr and the man paying for the aroos is out dated?

Again, we've had the conversation. If my husband isnt Somali, then you're not Somali as well. You too were accused of being an ajnabi for sticking up for madows.

Mehr is a religious obligation and can't be outdated. It is designed to help the woman in the event she finds herself in a divorce where she is not getting much help from her prior husband. It is basically desined to rescue her in the event of adversity.

Aroos is based on a family choice.

Fyi, overwhelming majority of Somalis in the West meet their spouses through acquaintances, schools, work and masjids. The number of Somali couple from dating sites is very minimal. As a matter fact, I've never seen one. And UK in particular has a huge Somali diaspora. Not sure why one needs to go to a dating unless one was desperate!

 

[Velœcity]

Split it until we married

 

[Angelina]

And rich men are taking every girl on the street?



Those women were chaste and decent. You're the only suggesting promiscuity here. You don't attack people whom you don't know and who aren't here to defend themselves. It takes a decency not to attack people that you don't know of.

Why would you assume I was talking about the women. Do you only associate promiscuousness with women? Did I not say YOUR promiscuous past. So why on earth would you think I was talking about them?

Xaliye is for the fob fellas in East Africa. and Andrew Tate was for the large Western audience. Both of them are a new phenomena. What I described preceded both of them.

Well your Guru Andrew Tate believes the most Beta thing a man can do is make a woman pay. You'll probably listen to him as your brain has been rotted by redpill. In this instance he is right.

Mehr is a religious obligation and can't be outdated. It is designed to help the woman in the event she finds herself in a divorce where she is not getting much help from her prior husband. It is basically desined to rescue her in the event of adversity.

Men providing in general is also a religious obligation. The man is the provider in Islam. Dating is haram anyway. May Allah forgive. But what happens in a situation in which you go out with a woman's mahram, would you try and split it? Real question. I’m sure you went out with your wife’s family like mum and sis ect, what did you do in that situation, make them pay?

Aroos is based on a family choice.

Family choice or not in Somali dhaqan the groom and his side of the family pay. Trying to get her to pay is ceeb.

Fyi, overwhelming majority of Somalis in the West meet their spouses through acquaintances, schools, work and masjids. The number of Somali couple from dating sites is very minimal. As a matter fact, I've never seen one. And UK in particular has a huge Somali diaspora. Not sure why one needs to go to a dating unless one was desperate!

People are very anti-social these days. Work, social media and meeting up with only their friends. I would say finding a spouse in your days when people had lives outside their phone screens was easier. Anyways, I was out of the country.

 

[Qahwe]

Farah--if a Xaliimo volunteer to pay for your dates-- run for the door.

Yeah, it makes sense since you are in your forties or even fifties

 

[AllStarSaciid]

And rich men are taking every girl on the street?



Those women were chaste and decent. You're the only suggesting promiscuity here. You don't attack people whom you don't know and who aren't here to defend themselves. It takes a decency not to attack people that you don't know of.




Xaliye is for the fob fellas in East Africa. and Andrew Tate was for the large Western audience. Both of them are a new phenomena. What I described preceded both of them.



Mehr is a religious obligation and can't be outdated. It is designed to help the woman in the event she finds herself in a divorce where she is not getting much help from her prior husband. It is basically desined to rescue her in the event of adversity.

Aroos is based on a family choice.

Fyi, overwhelming majority of Somalis in the West meet their spouses through acquaintances, schools, work and masjids. The number of Somali couple from dating sites is very minimal. As a matter fact, I've never seen one. And UK in particular has a huge Somali diaspora. Not sure why one needs to go to a dating unless one was desperate!

Anyone who goes on a dating app to find a spouse is just a weirdo.

ka qalee qabadha she’s just a young child.

 

[Taij4an]

Angelinas point relies on the fact that a man and women are living together and have kids and the women is contributing to the households bills with her working.
If you are in general dating, do not live with the girl, have no real responsibilities towards her, no kids, and you guys are both working, then in the modern world I would not see it as a problem for modern people to go halves on a date since life is expensive now and women are working anyways so why not split
Now if you are a traditional man and the person u are on a date with is ur future or current wife then you should pay for her food since it is the right of a women that a man feeds her and clothes her and treats her will.
now if you are struggling for money and can't afford dinner dates all the time and the women is insisting on it then u will have to make a compromise with her and tell her she has to pay

 

[Qeelbax]

Me? Paying?

 

[Qeelbax]

The same niggas that want you to go half on the bill, want you to go half on all bills, yet don’t want to go half on the cooking/cleaning and child rearing.

 

[Qeelbax]

What kind of women do you d

You're writing paragraphs but women always ask to go half on dates these days ...they want to be independent. I havent paid for a full date since I was 19

You are a gaal that dates white feminist h0es, actually you are a h0e too. believe me when I say nobody was asking for you opinion.

 

[Qeelbax]

Yeah, I can't see what he's getting at when Somali, hell Muslim men in general, don't take care of the children, like at all. I was once asked to take care of my newborn niece one afternoon and it physically exhausted me, and that was with my younger sisters help, I couldn't imagine years of going through that.

Mothers go through hell, give me a 9-5 anytime.

I’ve seen somali dads that won’t even change THEIR babys diaper because it’s a womans job.

You can’t even leave these men alone with a child to go grocery shopping or else you’ll come back to your child with a diaper rash and an empty stomach. So you have to take them with you.

The shit I’d see when I worked with somali families

A sperm donor would’ve sufficed.

 

[Qeelbax]

the post says women not somalian women....second of all none of my friends exclusively date somalian women...we dont discriminate its 2022 nayaa

1. Gaal
2. Says somalian
3. Never proved they were somali
4. Only dates ajnabi
5. Gaal
6. Gaal
I think we got a sheegato on our hands

 

[Qeelbax]

Just shut up, weirdo. Aren't you the fella who was advocating for Somali men to be uncircumcised?

You're either woman hiding behind a man's nick or one hella of a "khaniis" boy. Hell no way that a Somali man thinks about other men's 'ceeb' and then tells them to be "buuryaqab". You have no shame.

Why even discuss courtship between men and women when you're fixated on discussing men's ceeb and how they shouldn't be circumcised? All of the weirdos have found a home in the Internet.

What did the sspot faraxs do to you? Why have you become like this? One by one, y’all are turning into this wierdo MRA niggas. First @Bundasliga and now you. @Keep it a boqol 💯 im counting on you lil bro.

 

[Qeelbax]

What do you know about the Somali community? Youve admitted to sleeping around with so many gaals. Your pool is different. No self respecting woman would go for you.

I think he’s a double dipper

 

[Bundasliga]

What did the sspot faraxs do to you? Why have you become like this? One by one, y’all are turning into this wierdo MRA niggas. First @Bundasliga and now you. @Keep it a boqol 💯 im counting on you lil bro.

What's MRA ?

 

[Man with a garuun]

What did the sspot faraxs do to you? Why have you become like this? One by one, y’all are turning into this wierdo MRA niggas. First @Bundasliga and now you. @Keep it a boqol 💯 im counting on you lil bro.

MRA ==> Meal Ready to Eat?

 

[Al-Ma'mun]

A woman must pay for her half untill marriage.Spending money on a woman you ain’t married or atleast engaged to is simp behaviour

 

[Peache]

Had a little debate about this with a friend. I have a more traditional view where I think a man should pay for most of the dates if not all. Like if it’s his birthday or something like that yea go ahead and treat him but I just think a guy should pay most of the time as a way to show his appreciation. My friend has a different view where she feels they should split the bill or he pays once she pays next time. She says that way she doesn’t feel like she “owes him anything”. And she feels like it’s more equal.

What do you think?

I wanna feel like a lady sorry. I’ll do the fake hand rustling in my purse and if he doesn’t say shit it’s the last time he’s seeing me.

I’ve always thought that a man isn’t truly taking you out, if he still makes you pay. That’s not romantic and not courtship.

I understand if you all are in a deep serious relationship, then yes there may be times we take turns and I’ll pay in my share. But in the courting stages ? Making a woman pay ?

And lmaooo with the fake hand rustling. Doesn’t your heart pound when you see he ain’t stopping you lmaooo ?

Thats why I always advised to bring your wallet anyways if he is that type.

 

[Peache]

A woman must pay for her half untill marriage.Spending money on a woman you ain’t married or atleast engaged to is simp behaviour

Can I ask … a girl you genuinely care for and like … you’ll make her pay in the beginning of the courtship ?

And don’t get me wrong ! I don’t think men should be taking random women to expensive ass restaurants just to be expected to pay and probably never hear from her ever again. That’s truly simp behaviour and I’ve seen it happen Miskeen.

I’m just saying a woman you are taking seriously may be turned off that she’s made to pay for everything in the courting process. And maybe some don’t care and prefer it.
I hope I made sense.

 

[Angelina]

I’ve always thought that a man isn’t truly taking you out, if he still makes you pay. That’s not romantic and not courtship.

I understand if you all are in a deep serious relationship, then yes there may be times we take turns and I’ll pay in my share. But in the courting stages ? Making a woman pay ?

And lmaooo with the fake hand rustling. Doesn’t your heart pound when you see he ain’t stopping you lmaooo ?

Thats why I always advised to bring your wallet anyways if he is that type.

I know that even the guys that were debating with me would mostly agree, well the honest ones.

If the woman of their dreams walked into their lives, they’d pay in a heart beat. This wouldn’t even be a conversation.

For that reason, as a woman you shouldn’t be okay with paying as it’s his way of illustrating that, you’re not that great in his eyes. Men settle and marry women they don’t love everyday. As a woman be a bit savvy and try to to find a man that truly thinks you’re his dream woman.

Even guys that don’t have much will try to take you to places within their means. Maybe set a picnic ect.