Should a man always pay for dates?

[Bebsi]

 

[reer]

Are you a millionaire/billionaire?

If not, what gold could she be digging?

my rented 2 bedroom apartment.
my refrigirator.
my bed.
my wardrobe.

gotta protect that from them gold diggers bro. bijjs be crazy.

 

[Shimbiris]

my rented 2 bedroom apartment.
my refrigirator.
my bed.
my wardrobe.

gotta protect that from them gold diggers bro. bijjs be crazy.

I only entered this thread because of you. I was like "What is Reer doing in such a thread? He's normally a politics guy. He gonna conduct a political analysis of the horniness of Somali yutes?"

I was intrigued.

 

[TheManWhoIsAlive]

If he asks you out then yeah. It's not that deep.

 

[TheManWhoIsAlive]

Had a little debate about this with a friend. I have a more traditional view where I think a man should pay for most of the dates if not all. Like if it’s his birthday or something like that yea go ahead and treat him but I just think a guy should pay most of the time as a way to show his appreciation. My friend has a different view where she feels they should split the bill or he pays once she pays next time. She says that way she doesn’t feel like she “owes him anything”. And she feels like it’s more equal.

What do you think?

If you're interested in marriage, these dates are a form of courtship, and he can pay if y'all want shit to be traditional.

If it ain't serious, then do whatever.

 

[canjeeroiyoshah]

For any sort of chemistry it's important that each person play their role. Never happened to me before but if a woman is adamant that she pay ngl shit would prob make me go limp.

We might as well become gender neutral if we start talking about 50/50.

 

[Abba Sadacha]

Well as Muslims, we don't date, unless we're taking our wife out. In that case, I'd say the man should always pay, of course. But the wife should also help with the cooking sometimes, as a kind gesture. :D

 

[Kane]

I love it when a sucker takes a woman he just met to an expensive dinner, only for her to him reject after ordering half the menu.

Get your hustle on ladies.

 

[NordicSomali]

Doesn’t work in Somali context. The vast majority of Faraxs still expect to be the head of the household (nothing wrong with that) and even if he does help, the wife would be doing the bulk of the cooking and cleaning. Also, men and women simply aren’t equal. We go through more physical toil such as pregnancy and all the things that go with it. As a woman you need insurance that this man will step up during the times in which you’re vulnerable.

Anyways, to the ladies. Don’t expect a great man if he is out there making you pay. If we’re going to keep it real, you shouldn’t be dating dating, but even in a halal context the man is meant to pay when he sees you and your family. Believe me, if he makes you and your fam go halves ect your parents will be disgusted. Those types of men are simply stingy. A stingy man isn’t just stingy with his money, but also with this time, compliments and love. Avoid them.

Masculine men tend to like providing for women they’re serious about. The same men who advocate for 50/50 will also admit that if their dream woman was to walk through the door they’d 100% pay. That is why you can’t take them serious. Obviously, every relationship is different. We’re not talking about a man that can’t afford to give you certain things, but even those men will try and spoil you but within their means and range.

thats so hypocritical of you, you're probably the biggest feminist on this website but against equally paying, you're not really advocating equality, you simply want handouts and no cost.

 

[Angelina]

how do you know I have issues with gender roles? I have no issues with a woman doing most of the cooking and cleaning if the man is paying for everything but helping the wife if she needs it.

thats so hypocritical of you, you're probably the biggest feminist on this website but against equally paying, you're not really advocating equality, you simply want handouts and no cost.

stop crying warya. What is deeply hypocritical is that you expect a woman to cook, clean, give birth to your babies, breastfeed AND pay. Who is the biggest hypocrite now? Why would I advocate for women to pay when 50/50 relationships do not exist in the real world. Men still expect women to be domestic. Hence in relationships in which women pay, it ends up being 80/20.

I even made it CLEAR in the first paragraph that the average Farax still expects a woman that cooks and cleans ect so how on earth can you attack me? Do you expect women to pay as well as look after you. Is that the lows we’ve reached?!

Also, lol @ feminist. You incels will literally call any woman that advocates for men to treat women with respect as feminist.

 

[Unbothered]

What kind of a man would watch his woman reach for her purse

 

[Taij4an]

What kind of a man would watch his woman reach for her purse

a man who dates the woman on ur pfp

 

[NordicSomali]

how do you know I have issues with gender roles? I have no issues with a woman doing most of the cooking and cleaning if the man is paying for everything but helping the wife if she needs it.

stop crying warya. What is deeply hypocritical is that you expect a woman to cook, clean, give birth to your babies, breastfeed AND pay. Who is the biggest hypocrite now? Why would I advocate for women to pay when 50/50 relationships do not exist in the real world. Men still expect women to be domestic. Hence in relationships in which women pay, it ends up being 80/20.

I even made it CLEAR in the first paragraph that the average Farax still expects a woman that cooks and cleans ect so how on earth can you attack me? Do you expect women to pay as well as look after you. Is that the lows we’ve reached?!

Also, lol @ feminist. You incels will literally call any woman that advocates for men to treat women with respect as feminist.

We are talking about dates between 2 strangers, of course it should equal pay.

 

[Quickly]

I’d pay because I wouldn’t take a girl I’m not trying to take seriously on a date in the first place but if I find out she’s the type that expects men to pay for everything but wants “equality” with chores at home, I’m outta there

 

[canjeeroiyoshah]

We are talking about dates between 2 strangers, of course it should equal pay.

We should be more specific, I think we're talking about the kind of dates you go on when you've been talking to for at least a month and you see potential. OP should've been more specific.

First few dates should be light and shouldn't require much.

 

[El Nino]

Of course the man should pay, he is doing the courting. Most guys who say they aren’t paying just put on a character for the net, they will be paying when the bill comes kkkk

 

[Riya.]

I wanna feel like a lady sorry. I’ll do the fake hand rustling in my purse and if he doesn’t say shit it’s the last time he’s seeing me.

 

[Qahwe]

If it is a serious date then I don’t think judging a man’s general goodness as a future spouse through whether he is paying or not (a very superficial way of measurement and old fashioned) is fair. Since any woman is capable of earning as much as a man now. I would focus more on observing his mannerisms, behavior and way of thinking in all aspects of life and educational background rather than stressing about whether he is giving me enough money. Even if the man is spending a lot of money on a woman, will it matter if he is already rich? No, maybe he is doing that to attract your attention while he is qashin on the inside.

 

[Bundasliga]

Its 2022 traditional gender roles are inherently sexist and backwards.
I'm a feminist and support female empowerment by letting her pay for our date & subsequently destroy the patriarchy!

#Bernie2024

 

[Lostbox]

They'll just find a women fine with it easy