Sharing your man with your best friend

[HalimaJ]

Sometimes I ask myself is Mercury a xalimo in disguise.....70's something in the west also get on with 18 year olds its called sugar dating and they have their own web and app platforms where they connect.. Atleast as muslims we honor the women by offering them marriage instead of using them as buckets in exchange for few dollars

Saxiib do not compare the two.

These women do not have any intentions of staying with their sugar daddy. They just want money so that they can have a good time with friends and then fall in love with a man their own ages.

Its like comparing apples and oranges.

 

[Abdisamad]

Saxiib do not compare the two.

These women do not have any intentions of staying with their sugar daddy. They just want money so that they can have a good time with friends and then fall in love with a man their own ages.

Its like comparing apples and oranges.

I'm not really comparing abaayo.. All I'm saying is in Islam we treat our with respect and honor them that's why we marry them instead of just fooling around with them.

 

[Vanessa]

I think the wife is in love with her best friend.

 

[Abdisamad]

I think the wife is in love with her best friend.

You sound like a hater

 

[Vanessa]

You sound like a hater

Thanks

 

[Abdisamad]

@Yusra Luuza
Why do you hate if both women are happy in their polygamous marriage?
I bet if Idris called you to make you number 2. You wouldn't even think twice before you said yes while jumping up and down.

 

[HalimaJ]

I'm not really comparing abaayo.. All I'm saying is in Islam we treat our with respect and honor them that's why we marry them instead of just fooling around with them.

You said 'at least they marry them'. The vast majority of young girls do not want shrivelled up old men.

Back home, the families usually force or pressure the girls for financial reasons.

 

[IstarZ]

I'm not really comparing abaayo.. All I'm saying is in Islam we treat our with respect and honor them that's why we marry them instead of just fooling around with them.

A good amount of Muslim men abuse women under the guise of polygamy. It’s not all rosy the way you guys make it seem like.

 

[Abdisamad]

@HalimaJ & @IstarZ

I never said polygamous relationships are all rosy and romantic..
The point I was trying to make was older men especially the ones who are financially well established are attracted to younger females and vise versa.. Younger women are attracted to men who can provide for them in exchange for their bodies....In muslim cultures this takes in the form of polygamous marriages whilst in Western cultures its in the form of the sugar daddy relationships.. So would you rather prefer to be a sugar girl that gets passed around between multiple lovers or marry a man as second or third wife which under Islam is permissible.

 

[pablo]

Masha allah, I will also be following in the footsteps of great men lik prophet musa, sulayman, dawud, iyo Muhammad (saw)......fat baruur ridden xaariyaal xalimos can get MAD.

 

[Abdurahman_somali]

If both of the women are happy, then who am I to say anything?

You have spoken with wisdom sister, i am proud of you.

 

[Schematics]

I actually dont have much negative to say about polygamy but Its people who take advantage of it resulting in broken families

I seen to many that practice it the wrong way one that look for single moms on welfare who got their own house so they dont have to provide for her

And the ones marry a new one and neglect the first wife

Sometimes the relationship is mutual and the single mom may think by inviting the man she can control and use for her sexual needs is better than sleeping around with men she is not married to. Staying put as a single young mom whilst her sexual needs are unmet is a tough option.

Saxib, Somalis have a difficult life in many ways. The ones back home have the best opportunity to live with dignity even though they don't see it that way. They have plenty of opportunities to meet other Somalis and marry from them. That opportunity is not available for Somalis in the west most of the time. Poverty is not bad when people have strong faith and good culture that protects their dignity and identity. Somalis in the west including myself live with instability.

I can tell you, despite the material success in the west for many Somalis and doing better than Somalis back home, majority of us in the west are very unhappy. The only exception are the delusionals who think leaving the culture behind or receiving a welfare check is equivalent to being successful.


I count to the time when I am boarding a plane never to look back.

 

[Schematics]

I think the wife is in love with her best friend.

That is like killing two birds with one stone eh? Marry the guy and keep your friend closer. Weird set up but if it works for the females, congratulations.

Polygamy will become a necessity at some point.

 

[HalimaJ]

You have spoken with wisdom sister, i am proud of you.

Don't get too happy. If my husband was to try it he will be confronted with the infamous bac madow on his doorstep.

Good riddance!!

 

[Schematics]

Don't get too happy. If my husband was to try it he will be confronted with the infamous bac madow on his doorstep.

Good riddance!!

As long as it doesn't affect you it is good eh?

 

[HalimaJ]

As long as it doesn't affect you it is good eh?

Yep. Literally.



Polygamy is halal and if both women involved are happy and their rights are fulfilled then I don't believe anyone has the right to say anything, but polygamy isn't for me. Each to their own.

 

[Abdurahman_somali]

Don't get too happy. If my husband was to try it he will be confronted with the infamous bac madow on his doorstep.

Good riddance!!

Judging from what I've seen from you i would say the man who tries to marry another wife with you is not sane. You are difficult enough my sister.

 

[HalimaJ]

Judging from what I've seen from you i would say the man who tries to marry another wife with you is not sane. You are difficult enough my sister.

Wow, i never thought of my self as difficult.



I'm more of a laid back type as long as he doesn't cross me.

 

[NotMyL]

Lol @Reiko was right, notice how basement dwellers still living at hooyo’s house and working at minimum pay jobs are advocating for second wife? First find one that is willing to be with your crusty ass before you have a say in this topic.

 

[AIOPZ]

Lol @Reiko was right, notice how basement dwellers still living at hooyo’s house and working at minimum pay jobs are advocating for second wife? First find one that is willing to be with your crusty ass before you have a say in this topic.

It's their lives, though, lol. Why are you concerning yourself with their preferences? That's a discussion for them and their future spouse - chill, sis.