The perfect mate doesn't exist, and if they do there's a slim to none chance you'll just happen to meet the in this big world. For this reason I suggest using the 80/20 rule when looking for a partner. This means that you should get someone that has 80% of the things you want in a mate and settle for 20% of the things you don't want. instead of wasting your youth holding out for a man who has amazing looks, rich, has An amazing personality, around your age,educated,family oriented, and religious.. You should settle down with an educated,rich, funny/great personality- he's probably not all that great looking but you can settle with that. If looks are important to you than you should find a great looking educated family oriented man, but drop the personality requirement. lower your standards a bit and realize such men are rare and the ones who exist are most likely snatched up by now. The fairytale men in books are not realistic at all. I'm not saying you should settle for all the things you don't want but settle with a person that has 80% of the qualities you want. Men, you want a lady that's attractive,smart,virgin,family oriented,educated, and independent. Instead of all that( very unlikely you'll find all those traits in one person) you should settle with a lady that has the most 80% of the qualities that are important to you. Maybe looks and personality are more important to you than virginity . Maybe education and virginity is more important to you than family orientation? You decide. But the fairytale man/woman does not exist and you should be more realistic.