It is a question that everyone struggles to answer, but this is my take on it:
1. Fix your intention, because every action starts with intention
2.
You attract those who are at your own level in most cases. It is important to be honest with yourself. You can not expect a woman who uses the abaya and has memorized the Quran, when you struggle with Al-fathia and you not praying 5 times a day.
likewise, you can not expect a brother who is dalibul 'ilm when you do not offer anything in deen.
You get what you offer and of course all this is in the knowledge of Allah.
3.
If you are not able to attract the people you want, then take a break and improve yourself.
It does need to take long time, give yourself half a year maybe to change your circle of friends and environment.
4.
This point is important:
Find one in your local area. A person from a family you know. As human beings, we want to be in the best possible environment and circle of friends. If you are in a good environment, example mosque. Why will you look outside?
The most stable marriages I have seen is where families who know each other marry internally. By that I do not mean that you should know the women, but perhaps you know their uncle or brother. You have some knowledge of each other
5) Ask your brothers/friends.
One thing I love about Somalis is that they will help you. Those you know want Kheeyr for you, so do not be embarrassed to ask
6.
Make a lot of duca
7.
Ask if she can cook .
If se say no, then you know what to do
Xalimos, Take out a note-book and write down my tips
1. Fix your intention, because every action starts with intention
2.
You attract those who are at your own level in most cases. It is important to be honest with yourself. You can not expect a woman who uses the abaya and has memorized the Quran, when you struggle with Al-fathia and you not praying 5 times a day.
likewise, you can not expect a brother who is dalibul 'ilm when you do not offer anything in deen.
You get what you offer and of course all this is in the knowledge of Allah.
3.
If you are not able to attract the people you want, then take a break and improve yourself.
It does need to take long time, give yourself half a year maybe to change your circle of friends and environment.
4.
This point is important:
Find one in your local area. A person from a family you know. As human beings, we want to be in the best possible environment and circle of friends. If you are in a good environment, example mosque. Why will you look outside?
The most stable marriages I have seen is where families who know each other marry internally. By that I do not mean that you should know the women, but perhaps you know their uncle or brother. You have some knowledge of each other
5) Ask your brothers/friends.
One thing I love about Somalis is that they will help you. Those you know want Kheeyr for you, so do not be embarrassed to ask
6.
Make a lot of duca
7.
Ask if she can cook .
If se say no, then you know what to do
Xalimos, Take out a note-book and write down my tips