Opinions on secret marriages?

[YoungFarah]

There is something known as qudba sir or qudhbo Siro where you get a mehr from a sheikh but no one knows so you are basically dating but having halal sex.

On the other hand there is the Shia Nikah Mut'ah which is haram where you have a temporary wife.

There is Misyar which was common in the past which I'm not completely sure about.

What i'm asking is if there is a halal way of getting some sugarwalls without having to marry her. Qudhbo siro seems the most acceptable as it is everything a marriage is without announcing the Nikah to the public.

EDIT: You're in this to not get her pregnant but just to f*ck and date as a casual couple. And you don't necessarily have to get this as a second wife but as a student who can't afford a marriage or if you just don't want to get married

2nd edit: Just for discussion and opinions of the people on this forum.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

HARAM

You're supposed to treat wives equally, hiding her like a mistress or a prostitute is against Islam.
Furthermore, any children born from this union would be looked at as suspicious or bastards in the wider society.

There is no authentic hadith or a Quranic verse that supports secretive marriages.

 

[Gambar]

Strange.

 

[Yahya Liban-Lewis]

There is something known as qudba sir or qudhbo Siro where you get a mehr from a sheikh but no one knows so you are basically dating but having halal sex.

On the other hand there is the Shia Nikah Mut'ah which is haram where you have a temporary wife.

There is Misyar which was common in the past which I'm not completely sure about.

What i'm asking is if there is a halal way of getting some sugarwalls without having to marry her. Qudhbo siro seems the most acceptable as it is everything a marriage is without announcing the Nikah to the public.

Good luck with that. Somali girls love to flex iyo stunt on social media that their married and flaunt their meher money with the caption:

"es hating from the sideline, can't get into the game! Stay on the bench broke es!"

With a xalimo commenting:

"YAAAAASSSS Goals mashallah "

Somali girls now want to be on Somali Bridal and show the haters "what's really good naaya?"

You can't hide a marriage in this day of age.

- Ashy Abdi 101

 

[dhegdheer]

Another way of devaluing marriage I guess

 

[Human]

you are basically dating but having halal sex.

Your solution


and you are welcome.


Now, when do I get paid? I'm keeping your girl for a while as I said we are going on holiday tomorrow but I haven't paid for the tickets yet.

 

[YoungFarah]

HARAM

You're supposed to treat wives equally, hiding her like a mistress or a prostitute is against Islam.
Furthermore, any children born from this union would be looked at as suspicious or bastards in the wider society.

There is no authentic hadith or a Quranic verse that supports secretive marriages.

She isn't a second wife nor are you in this to get her pregnant

 

[dhegdheer]

Good luck with that. Somali girls love to flex iyo stunt on social media that their married and flaunt their meher money with the caption:

"es hating from the sideline, can't get into the game! Stay on the bench broke es!"

With a xalimo commenting:

"YAAAAASSSS Goals mashallah "

Somali girls now want to be on Somali Bridal and show the haters "what's really good naaya?"

You can't hide a marriage in this day of age.

- Ashy Abdi 101

Can you like stick to one identity instead of morphing into ten different personas like a manic schizophrenic

Caadi iska dhig

 

[Yahya Liban-Lewis]

Can you like stick to one identity instead of morphing into ten different personas like a manic schizophrenic

Caadi iska dhig

What abayo macaan thicker than suqaar on a damn china plate? I'm being myself, like I've always been. I don't hide my true self unlike some Somali gaalos that are still in the armaajo fake-fasting

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

She isn't a second wife nor are you in this to get her pregnant

Pregnancy is a side-effect of getting the "sugar walls" as you put it.
Contraception is not guaranteed and women were not intended to be concubines.

Do you have a sister? A mother? Would you like them to be hidden and devalued?

 

[YoungFarah]

I'm not presenting this as an alternative to marriage and it is a fairly common practice in Somalia and the diaspora.

 

[YoungFarah]

Pregnancy is a side-effect of getting the "sugar walls" as you put it.

Contraception lol. Not all Somalis are FOBs who go raw missionary and have 12 kids

 

[Steamdevolopment]

Can you like stick to one identity instead of morphing into ten different personas like a manic schizophrenic

Caadi iska dhig

Coming from the Norsk-flygtninge turned kriminel? Du burde ikke kaste med sten, når du bor i et glas hus

 

[Hemaal]

Qudbo Siro is normal in my book. if you don't want anyone to know about your Nikah, then nobody needs to know.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Contraception lol. Not all Somalis are FOBs who go raw missionary and have 12 kids

Contraception is not 100% pregnancy proof.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Qudbo Siro is normal in my book. if you don't want anyone to know about your Nikah, then nobody needs to know.

But is it normal in Allah's book? Or the Hadiths?

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Some people will risk burning in hell because they can't control their base desires.
As a general rule, if you don't want something for yourself or your female relatives, do not do it.
What comes around goes around.

Some faarax will convince your daughter to be a side chick, I mean "secret wife".

 

[Prince of Lasanod]

What about her parents? You need her wali if you want to marry her regardless.

 

[YoungFarah]

I'm not presenting this as an alternative to marriage and it is family fairly common practice in Somalia and the diaspora.

Contraception is not 100% pregnancy proof.

It actually is taking pills, vasectomy and using condoms makes pregnancy impossible.

 

[DiricLover]

I'm not presenting this as an alternative to marriage and it is a fairly common practice in Somalia and the diaspora.

Only old wrinkly odeys do this. Are you an odey?