Verse about hitting the wife and verses that better it:
۞ مَا نَنْسَخْ مِنْ آيَةٍ أَوْ نُنْسِهَا نَأْتِ بِخَيْرٍ مِنْهَا أَوْ مِثْلِهَا ۗ أَلَمْ تَعْلَمْ أَنَّ اللَّهَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ | | |
We have not erased a verse nor caused it to be forgotten, We replace it with a better or similar one. Do you not know that Allah is Most Capable of everything
-baqara 106
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(I've seen some translations as "what we abrogate/erase" but to my basic understanding of i'rab, nansakh is a fi'l mudari' majzum bi wujuud "maa" therefore the maa in question is negation and not what. If my analysis is wrong the point still stands because as the verse completes "we come with a better one or the same one".subhanallah either way there is certainty in the message of the verse and thats the complete nature of the quran and betterment systems of its verses. meaning one verse betters and completes the other. It seems this verse is to do with Allah addressing play of words and mockery by the ill-hearts. Allah does not erase implying he got it wrong the first time, rather he betters. Wallahu a'lam)
(For those who want to understand the verse of hitting the wife as taking a metal rod and breaking everybone in her body, just short of killing her...go ahead, you'll just suffer maida 45 "and for wounds is retaliation")
Men are the caretakers of women, as men have been provisioned by Allah over women and tasked with supporting them financially. And righteous women are devoutly obedient and, when alone, protective of what Allah has entrusted them with.1 And if you sense disobedience from your women, advise them , and or move from them in sleeping quarters, and or hit them .2 But if they change their ways, do not be unjust to them. Surely Allah is Most High, All-Great.
-nisa 34
If you fear a crack between them, appoint a Judge from his family and a judge from hers. If they desire reconciliation, Allah will restore harmony between them. Surely Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware.
-nisa 35
And in case a woman fears from her husband disobedience or turning away, then there is no fault in both of them if they make a righteous reconciliation between them both; and reconciliation is better; and stinginess is present in the souls. And in case you do fair (deeds) and are pious (to Allah), then Allah has been Ever-Cognizant of whatever you do.
-Nisa 128
And they ask you concerning menstruation. Say, "It is harm; so keep apart from women during menstruation, and do not draw near them till they are pure. So, when they have purified themselves, then come to them from where Allah has commanded you. Surely Allah loves the repenters, and He loves the purifiers.
-baqara 222
Divorce is twice; then retention with beneficence or release in fairness. And it is not lawful for you to take anything of whatever you have brought (the women) except (in case) they both fear that they may not keep within (Literally: Keep up) the bounds of Allah. So, in case you fear that they may not keep within (Literally: Keep up) the bounds of Allah, it is no fault in them (both) for her to ransom herself. Those are the bounds of Allah; so, do not transgress them; and whoever transgresses the bounds of Allah then those are they (who are) the unjust.
-baqara 229
Now that we have set the premise for discussion lets continue. When the verse says hit(idrib), with what, for what and at what part and at what severity? The word hit/idrib is used in the quran various locations: moses is instructed to hit the a rock with his staff, fighters are also instructed to aim to hit the head and the finger tips in battle tactics.
Hit, okay. But with what, where, why, how?
Let us address the why. The verse immediately says disobediences as a cause(remember the same word of disobidience is used for the husband and the wife. Both are capable of disobedience)What is disobedience? Refusing to get the spouse a cup of water?
Disobedience is failing to uphold God's boundaries and thus agreed upon contract of marriage: allowing munkar in the house, drastically changing your body without the consent of the spouse, refusing intimacy with out any illness.
The quran says that both the husband and wife can take measures if the spouse is showing disobedience, its just the measures are slightly different. The husband can use appropriate force to Nahyi 'anil munkar(trangression of allah's boundaries).
You see, munkar can be yanha or prohibited via 3 routes, the heart , verbally and physically. Munkar is just another word for sin, the Quran uses this word to describe akabir all the way to lamam. As we already established, Sin is two jurisdictions, public and private. Quran says you cant physically prohibit disbelievers if they're not in battle with you.
The only instances of being granted the right of physical prohibition is the case of public indecency, self defense..............and prohibiting the disobedience of the spouse to Allah's boundaries which includes fulfilling a contracts especially contracts of marriage.
Now as you can imagine, physical prohibition varies in a scale. The apprehension of the public disturbers, is ofcourse not as severe as using fatal force in the case of self defense.
In that pattern, the hitting of the wife is with what severity, what object, what location?