I think I read on here before that you wish to only marry a man from the same tribe/sub tribe as you? Personally, I think you would be more successful if you were more open minded abayo. Personally, despite being from a family rife with tribalism I’d be open to marrying a Somali man from any tribe and/or region. I’d prefer one whose family is not filled with cuqdad and good terms with my tribe. Allah SWT will not ask you your tribe on the day of judgment.
You should also be open to marrying a younger man. My friend with a PHD married at 33, her now husband was 29 at the time.
If you’re serious and in the GTA start with the ISNA matrionial mixer.
http://www.isna.ca/3/26/matrimonial-mixer-program
While I’ve heard it skews heavily South Asian. There are Somali men present at said event I’ve heard. You can’t do anything about your age but it helps if you’re very good looking cause the pretty girls get the most attention at such events. Men form ques to talk to you. Cultivate your look ie work on your makeup and personal style.
You can try PureMatrimony and Half our Deen (both paid sites). You can also try the masjid sign up route depending on your religiosity.
Getting married is a part-time job. I’ve been trying to get married off and on since I was 23. Four and half years. And I’ve tried any and all avenue open to me.
You need to take it serious if you have not. Cause these girls out here are. My friend just got married at 31 after a exhaustive 6 year pursuit of this goal.
I would email you this privately but I don’t think I can pm until 500 posts.
Hey sis,
Thanks for the advice. I have never taken marriage seriously. I realize it's a job on its own. Part of me is quite content with being single - it's stress free. I am by no means a tribalist. It's just easier marrying from within. But age is something I cannot compromise on. I don't pursue men. It's normally the other way around. Perhap, I'm old fashioned in that regard.