Men in your opinion does sexual assault make a woman lose value?

[Dibleyy]

I know this seems like a f’ed up question but here me out.

I was scrolling on TT live and found this arab ppl in a convo and it was mainly men and 2 women but the topic came up and one of the man chuckles and says lowkey it would make him feel like a man has already had her and it does make her seem that way even though it’s not her fault.

No judgement I swear but I know a lot of the older generation have those same views, I’m wondering do young somali men feel the same?

If someone from your fiancés side of the family came to you and spilled the tea and said that she’d been assaulted previously and had a whole situation happen when she was a child or a young girl or even an adult, would you still proceed with the wedding or would you cut it off?

 

[Internet Nomad]

Lose value in what sense?

I dont think she is less of a good person if she was sexually assaulted.

I wouldn’t look down on the person.

TBH if the person was a child when they got SA then i don’t really consider them not a virgin because their is no womanhood to take away.

However if she was older I might feel a sense of discontent that i was not her first experience of sex.

I mean did she even commit zina if she was forced? I don’t believe so.

I’m not really sure and i would need time to think on it.

However if she was the One then i would look over it.

 

[lahaine]

No it's not her fault and anyone who judges a woman who's been SA should change themselves to become a better person

 

[Keep it a boqol]

islamically if a women got sexually assaulted, she is still considered chaste so someone saying a women “loses value” is horrible and victim blaming

 

[Dibleyy]

Lose value in what sense?

In a sense of almost kinda losing interest, feeling less emotion or attraction for her like breaking off getting married to her

 

[Internet Nomad]

In a sense of almost kinda losing interest, feeling less emotion or attraction for her and almost like she’s dirty or something

I wouldn’t feel any negative feelings towards her at most it would be my own selfish feels of wanting to be first.

 

[Scipio Africanus]

I’ll be honest. I would lose attraction.

I understand it’s fucked up because it’s no fault of her own, but I simply can’t change what I find attractive in a woman.

 

[Internet Nomad]

Here is another question would your feelings change depending on how the SA happened for example

Scenario 1 she was a modest girl forced either as child or adult to do act against her will.

Scenario 2 she was out drinking or taking drugs and she was coerced by the people that was around her to have intercourse. She still repented and its in her past.

Disclaimer I’m not saying in the second scenario its entirely her fault. However i would react to the two scenarios differently.

WBU?

 

[Internet Nomad]

I’ll be honest. I would lose attraction.

I understand it’s fucked up because it’s no fault of her own, but I simply can’t change what I find attractive in a woman.

I can’t really blame you because many of us have that selfish reaction knowing its not her fault but something I believe that intrinsic to men is the want to be first and share that bond.

Also some who has been SA will have all sorts of trauma and trust issues in the bed. I don’t think the average person would want to deal with that.

 

[Basra]

I know this seems like a f’ed up question but here me out.

I was scrolling on TT live and found this arab ppl in a convo and it was mainly men and 2 women but the topic came up and one of the man chuckles and says lowkey it would make him feel like a man has already had her and it does make her seem that way even though it’s not her fault.

No judgement I swear but I know a lot of the older generation have those same views, I’m wondering do young somali men feel the same?

If someone from your fiancés side of the family came to you and spilled the tea and said that she’d been assaulted previously and had a whole situation happen when she was a child or a young girl or even an adult, would you still proceed with the wedding or would you cut it off?

It shoudln't matter what he thinks. I am for promoting the health of the girl who has been assaulted. Heal yourself, find Healing tools, trust someone, connect to God and be whole inshalaaah

 

[Scipio Africanus]

I can’t really blame you because many of us have that selfish reaction knowing its not her fault but something I believe that intrinsic to men is the want to be first and share that bond.

Also some who has been SA will have all sorts of trauma and trust issues in the bed. I don’t think the average person would want to deal with that.

It’s a cruel world. It’s going to be tough finding a spouse for Men & Women who don’t possess things the opposite gender value highly. In this case, it’s female purity/virginity for us Men.

 

[Nin123]

I know this seems like a f’ed up question but here me out.

I was scrolling on TT live and found this arab ppl in a convo and it was mainly men and 2 women but the topic came up and one of the man chuckles and says lowkey it would make him feel like a man has already had her and it does make her seem that way even though it’s not her fault.

No judgement I swear but I know a lot of the older generation have those same views, I’m wondering do young somali men feel the same?

If someone from your fiancés side of the family came to you and spilled the tea and said that she’d been assaulted previously and had a whole situation happen when she was a child or a young girl or even an adult, would you still proceed with the wedding or would you cut it off?

 

[Yaraye]

 

[_Yusuf_]

I know this seems like a f’ed up question but here me out.

I was scrolling on TT live and found this arab ppl in a convo and it was mainly men and 2 women but the topic came up and one of the man chuckles and says lowkey it would make him feel like a man has already had her and it does make her seem that way even though it’s not her fault.

No judgement I swear but I know a lot of the older generation have those same views, I’m wondering do young somali men feel the same?

If someone from your fiancés side of the family came to you and spilled the tea and said that she’d been assaulted previously and had a whole situation happen when she was a child or a young girl or even an adult, would you still proceed with the wedding or would you cut it off?

Yeah, I would have a problem with it. If I haven't got her pregnant I would probably divorce or if I haven't agreed to a mehr I'm ghosting and cutting ties.

 

[𝕃𝕠𝕣𝕕 𝕋𝕙𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕙]

I rarely make a genuine post but this thread is personal.

My potential wife is an SA victim and I'm the only one who knows about it. It makes her want to avoid all forms of physical touch and it shattered her self-esteem. None of that makes me think of her any less. I still love her and always will
But inshallah we'll go to therapy after nikah.

 

[Keep it a boqol]

I rarely make a genuine post but this thread is personal.

My potential wife is an SA victim and I'm the only one who knows about it. It makes her want to avoid all forms of physical touch and it shattered her self-esteem. None of that makes me think of her any less. I still love her and always will
But inshallah we'll go to therapy after nikah.

may allah make it easy for both of you and give you barakah in your nikkah

 

[Gacmeey]

In a sense of almost kinda losing interest, feeling less emotion or attraction for her like breaking off getting married to her

Not at all. I would however feel hesitant to get involved because of how that trauma might affect the relationship

 

[Nilotic]

I know this seems like a f’ed up question but here me out.

I was scrolling on TT live and found this arab ppl in a convo and it was mainly men and 2 women but the topic came up and one of the man chuckles and says lowkey it would make him feel like a man has already had her and it does make her seem that way even though it’s not her fault.

No judgement I swear but I know a lot of the older generation have those same views, I’m wondering do young somali men feel the same?

If someone from your fiancés side of the family came to you and spilled the tea and said that she’d been assaulted previously and had a whole situation happen when she was a child or a young girl or even an adult, would you still proceed with the wedding or would you cut it off?

No, only a psychopath would say something like that about a woman that was violated and brutalised. Anybody else would understand.

 

[MR.𐒈𐒝𐒑𐒛𐒐𐒘]

I know this seems like a f’ed up question but here me out.

I was scrolling on TT live and found this arab ppl in a convo and it was mainly men and 2 women but the topic came up and one of the man chuckles and says lowkey it would make him feel like a man has already had her and it does make her seem that way even though it’s not her fault.

No judgement I swear but I know a lot of the older generation have those same views, I’m wondering do young somali men feel the same?

If someone from your fiancés side of the family came to you and spilled the tea and said that she’d been assaulted previously and had a whole situation happen when she was a child or a young girl or even an adult, would you still proceed with the wedding or would you cut it off?

Couldn't care about Arabs, but you asked a question, if she is a single mother or divorcee she is damaged goods

 

[niggaibnh]

I know this seems like a f’ed up question but here me out.

I was scrolling on TT live and found this arab ppl in a convo and it was mainly men and 2 women but the topic came up and one of the man chuckles and says lowkey it would make him feel like a man has already had her and it does make her seem that way even though it’s not her fault.

No judgement I swear but I know a lot of the older generation have those same views, I’m wondering do young somali men feel the same?

If someone from your fiancés side of the family came to you and spilled the tea and said that she’d been assaulted previously and had a whole situation happen when she was a child or a young girl or even an adult, would you still proceed with the wedding or would you cut it off?

No what type of question is that