Meher

[SOULSEARCHING]

I have seen some threads about meher and noticed many of the men are staying they won't pay it ?
Do you know it's a must in Islam ? Why are men not wanting to pay meher?

 

[Mahacagalla]

They gave their reasons. I don't mind it as long as the wedding is not expensive.

It would suck to lose out on thousands of dollars for a 1 year marriage. People just don't value it anymore. We are a very isolated species nowadays.

 

[Libaaxseendheer]

Few were saying they wont, most were saying they would pay less than usual. The point meher is barakah, it isnt to purchase a female. The question then arises what's a females worth? Females that equate their worth to the meher have low intelligence . A man's family has to pay for wedding and then a similar amount for the meher? This only puts economic struggle on the young couple. After he pays all that, he then has to house and pay the monthly expenses of life? The fact that im housing her, feeding her and generally being reaponsible for the rest of her life isnt enough?

 

[Timo Jareer and proud]

I can play the asexual card and never get a female. No Mehr for me!

 

[pablo]

A man should only be paying mehr for a virgin with certain qualities. Any other woman is concubine u keep on the side

 

[madaxweyne]

No mahr for kibir western girls who live in luxury

 

[Ibrahim hassan]

No mahr for kibir western girls who live in luxury

Yub I'm marrying only home grown fine ladies. Maybe western xolo as my third or fourth wife

 

[Libaaxseendheer]

Yub I'm marrying only home grown fine ladies. Maybe western xolo as my third or fourth wife

Same. I want my first wife to be a sigh of relief. Soft voice, bashful, homegrown qalanjo. Theres something appealing about these western qumayo also. 15 years i was waiting to tap these halimos. I want to ravage one of these qumayo like @Knowles. 1st wife-bashful homemaker who i can rest my head on her lap, second wife-shameless qumayo who i will karbash in bed , third wife- bashful angel, 4rth wife-shameless qumayo.

 

[Ibrahim hassan]

Same. I want my first wife to be a sigh of relief. Soft voice, bashful, homegrown qalanjo. Theres something appealing about these western qumayo also. 15 years i was waiting to tap these halimos. I want to ravage one of these qumayo like @Knowles. 1st wife-bashful homemaker who i can rest my head on her lap, second wife-shameless qumayo who i will karbash in bed , third wife- bashful angel, 4rth wife-shameless qumayo.

No variety, only Somali girls?

 

[Mehmet]

A man should only be paying mehr for a virgin with certain qualities. Any other woman is concubine u keep on the side

Yes she gotta be the one

 

[Libaaxseendheer]

No variety, only Somali girls?

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[Luciddreamer]

people obsessed with mehr are probably broke or self absorbed, if it is a female she is look for a payday, if it is a man he's broke and resenting the obligation.

 

[Vanessa]

The ones who complaining about meher are broke

 

[Abdullnur]

I have seen some threads about meher and noticed many of the men are staying they won't pay it ?
Do you know it's a must in Islam ? Why are men not wanting to pay meher?

Well, we're in the West we're not obligated to do things based in some arbitrary book.

 

[Mahacagalla]

The ones who complaining about meher are broke

Not complaining just don't see why it needs to be so high. Also not broke. Sometimes when I am on a date I say to myself "If she knew how much money was in my account her view of me would change so much." But I ain't want no golddiggers

 

[Mahacagalla]

Well, we're in the West we're not obligated to do things based in some arbitrary book.

Why do atheists even bother coming into these threads?

 

[Vanessa]

Not complaining just don't see why it needs to be so high. Also not broke. Sometimes when I am on a date I say to myself "If she knew how much money was in my account her view of me would change so much." But I ain't want no golddiggers

I get uncomfortable on discussing finance. That’s why I never ask what’s their wages or how much money in their savings. That’s personal u know.

What is your max to pay a mehr?
Did u know there’s an instalment? For example, if a girl’s parents want 25k for dowry, you can half now and pay the rest later.

 

[Happy_]

Anything above 10k waa waali. Mehr should be decent amount siday barakah u soo gasha guurka.

 

[Luciddreamer]

I get uncomfortable on discussing finance. That’s why I never ask what’s their wages or how much money in their savings. That’s personal u know.

What is your max to pay a mehr?
Did u know there’s an instalment? For example, if a girl’s parents want 25k for dowry, you can half now and pay the rest later.

when third parties gets involved like relatives, its a bit yiikes imo

 

[Vanessa]

when third parties gets involved like relatives, its a bit yiikes imo

so confronting

good luck guys