Marrying your dead brother's widow (Dumaal)

[World]

What do you guys think of Dumaal ?

If a wife's husband dies, then she marries his brother. Or if the wife dies, he marries her sister. It's very common with northern Somalis.

 

[World]

My first cousins are both brothers and cousins at the same time because of this lol

 

[Blade1]

Do you know why people do this??

 

[World]

Do you know why people do this??

The widow and her children will be taken care of by someone they trust, instead of a stranger. Would you rather your child to be raised by your brother or another man who could abuse them?

Also all the wealth will be kept inside the family.

 

[KREAM]

The widow and her children will be taken care of by someone they trust, instead of a stranger. Would you rather your child to be raised by your brother or another man who could abuse them?

Also all the wealth will be kept inside the family.

I've always thought of it as a safety net as well to ensure the well-being of mother and child. It has logic behind it.

 

[shabellegal]

I can understand the logic behind it but ngl sounds creepy in the modern sense

 

[NotAjnabi]

I can understand the logic behind it but ngl sounds creepy in the modern sense

Probably why they grow those eggplant foreheads and are as skinny as twigs

 

[World]

I can understand the logic behind it but ngl sounds creepy in the modern sense

A noble tradition is seen as creepy but homosexuality is seen as progressive.

 

[shabellegal]

A noble tradition is seen as creepy but homosexuality is seen as progressive.

Well I can’t get jiggy with my dead husband’s brother loooool that’s just awkward.

Was that done to preserve the clan so the children grow up from the same lineage?

 

[wars]

Do you know why people do this??

To keep the bloodline pure and to preserve wealth within the family...camels are expensive.

 

[wars]

Well I can’t get jiggy with my dead husband’s brother loooool that’s just awkward.

Was that done to preserve the clan so the children grow up from the same lineage?

Shabellegal you so ismart... r u Darood?

 

[shabellegal]

Shabellegal you so ismart... r u Darood?

what Darood clans live in Shabelle region

 

[wars]

what Darood clans live in Shabelle region

You can’t be hawiye, they’re a bunch of imbeciles.

 

[Gambar]

On my mothers side they practised dumaal. My awowe was killed during some clashes. AUN.

 

[wars]

On my mothers side they practised dumaal. My awowe was killed during some clashes. AUN.

AUN we lost lots of good people.

 

[Inquisitive_]

"One who cares for widows and the poor is like those who fight in the way of Allah or those who spend their days fasting and their nights praying." [Agreed upon, also in Adab al-Mufrad of Imaam Al-Bukhari in chapter "The Virtue of Those Who Care for Orphans"]

When it comes to giving charity it goes to those nearest in kin that are suffering, the same story with the orphan that is directly related to you through blood, you will fulfil both conditions of that hadith with dumaal

It's a pious noble practice that I would not hesitate to enact, the wife would be told the same if I happen to pass away first leaving orphans behind, after her iddah period she will marry one of my brothers.

Well I can’t get jiggy with my dead husband’s brother loooool that’s just awkward.

Was that done to preserve the clan so the children grow up from the same lineage?

So you would rather do it with someone that is completely alien to him unlikely to give a shit about his kids? and even go against his commands ?

 

[NA9]

I don’t like it, but is our culture so I respect it. I personally would never do it if my husband died

 

[Luna]

I don't see a problem with it. Its for protection. I know some people who are both brothers and cousins at the same time.

 

[chink-in-a-box]

No thanks

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

I think it's creepy, the kids are first cousins and siblings.

We need to leave that tradition behind. Plenty of men or women to marry.


It's also disrespectful to your spouse.


And don't bring the religion into this.

It's cultural practice.