Marriage tips for the brothers

[Amk]

So your hooyo told you that her friend split her marriage or it was your abo?

It was my abo but I talked to my mum about it and it was pretty obvious wat happened, anyone with 2 eyes could see clearly she was influenced. But it is wat it is qadr of Allah

 

[Angelina]

It was my abo but I talked to my mum about it and it was pretty obvious wat happened, anyone with 2 eyes could see clearly she was influenced. But it is wat it is qadr of Allah

Its your parents, but men blaming women's friends is a common.

Ayways this is a side point:

If I told a friend hey your husband shouldn't be speaking to you disrespectfully even if he swears at her and a husband got wind of that i'd be seen as the bad friend trying to break up a marriage. No kidding, I know a woman who used to get beat and when a relative helped, the husband tried to claim that the relative destroyed his marriage.

That is why, I never comment on marriages.

 

[Amk]

Its your parents, but men blaming women's friends is a common.

Ayways this is a side point:

If I told a friend hey your husband shouldn't be speaking to you disrespectfully and a husband got wind of that i'd be seen as the bad friend trying to break up a marriage. No kidding, I know a woman who used to get beat and when a relative helped, the husband tried to claim that the relative destroyed his marriage.

That is why, I never comment on marriages.

Every marriage is a different situation.
Different actions need to be taken for different situations.

 

[Angelina]

Every marriage is a different situation.
Different actions need to be taken for different situations.

Some things are blantant abuse and haram. Anyone that loves a person, whether it be father, mother or close dear friend will say something, but terrible people would rather point the finger at 'friends and family' than actually treat their partner properly.

There is no denying some friends give bad advise and people need to have sense not to talk about their marriages when things are normal, but now even any concern is seen as a threat by some. Accountability is a lost concept.

 

[karkaar]

Im pretty sure the prophet peace be upon him said "the best among you are those who are best to their women" or something to that effect.Marriage is a partnership, I agree with some of your points but implementing all of your points is bound to build resentment and colaad between a couple.

 

[XawoTako]

Here are some simple tips for younger brothers looking to get married. These are tips that most people are too afraid to say but are absolutely critical to fruitful marriage.

1) never legally marry. Always just do Islamic nikaax. This will protect you and your assets in the future and gives you more options to marry a second wife from abroad

2) don’t let your wife have any friends especially single Freinds. Women give each other bad advice and they can turn her against you

3) monitor how much time your wife spends with her family. Family can also give women bad advice and turn her against you

4) don’t give your wife too much compliments. Point out her flaws regularly to keep her in check and dependent on you

With this kind of advice I don’t really think that Marriage would last. Good luck lol

 

[RICH]

Qashin.com

 

[Shimbiris]

My view is based on diinta and our culture which says it’s a woman’s job to cook, clean and take care of the kids and home. There are certain duties a man can do maybe like taking out trash, changing light bulb,grocery shopping etc. but cooking cleaning and rearing the kids is the woman’s duties

You reminded me of this:

 

[Man with a garuun]

Same as me. Both man and woman work. But the woman does the house work. I also have a side job driving Uber. My wife pays half the rent, but I pay everything else. I think that’s reasonable and fair

Cab driving nigga is giving advice on marriage. Why didn't this guy go to school and find a better opportunity instead of doing loser's work where in North America people look down on cab driving?

 

[Man with a garuun]

Exactly. Who takes kindly to someone who forbids their association with someone as though they are a 'disobedient child' and not an adult capable of making their own decisions and exercising discernment. I question those who try to isolate you from friends/family.

Perhaps a guy with a vulnerability would do it. If, for instance, the guy is much older than the lady, and he used the green card or landing (in the Canadian case) to sponsor the lady, and she is a young lady who is still learning the country, some old insecure guy would would feel that she may abandon him as soon as she learns and understands the country. At the end, no woman is gonna stick around for an insecure guy.

 

[Murtaax]

Here are some simple tips for younger brothers looking to get married. These are tips that most people are too afraid to say but are absolutely critical to fruitful marriage.

1) never legally marry. Always just do Islamic nikaax. This will protect you and your assets in the future and gives you more options to marry a second wife from abroad

2) don’t let your wife have any friends especially single Freinds. Women give each other bad advice and they can turn her against you

3) monitor how much time your wife spends with her family. Family can also give women bad advice and turn her against you

4) don’t give your wife too much compliments. Point out her flaws regularly to keep her in check and dependent on you

Bro have you ever actually been married before? And if yes, not for long I'm guessing.

1) I get ya.
2) No lie naago can make a good woman turn on you...but forbidding your wife from having friends? That's waali.
3) xidid waa la iska ilaaliya but you can't monitor and keep you wife away from her fam man.
4) I get not giving a woman a lot of compliments...but damn pointing out her faults to keep her in check and dependent? My friend thats what you call mental abuse!

War horta tell me where is this obedient woman in the 21st century who you can forbid from having friends, visiting family and treat like dirt?

Haweenay oo waxas ogol wiligaad ma arkaysid..so stop chatting wet sxb.

Btw you can front and keep your cards close pre-marriage, but remember once your married, that girl is a trust(amaana) and you should treat her good just like you would wish for your sister or daughter to be treated.

 

[sagegreen]

Don’t you think that’s why Arabs are more successful than us?

Nope definitely not. They have a bad representation. Only miskeen white girls date them rn

 

[J-Rasta]

1. correct
2.wrong- make sure she only has good muslim friends that keep her in check, if the friends are single or non-islamic then advice her to yeet them out her life
3.Correct
4.Half correct. Dont point out her flaws to belittle her or keep her in check, this is arrogance, if ur going to point out a flaw do it rarely and be kind about it, she is not a robot u can just boss around or make her the perfect woman,

Sxb this nigga will have a hard time finding a woman if he capacitate that particular mindset in this day and era.
Don't want to sound harsh on the brother but this will backfire on to him.
I hope that he is just doing it for the banter and laughs and he's not serious.

 

[madihbanqueen_]

Here are some simple tips for younger brothers looking to get married. These are tips that most people are too afraid to say but are absolutely critical to fruitful marriage.

1) never legally marry. Always just do Islamic nikaax. This will protect you and your assets in the future and gives you more options to marry a second wife from abroad

2) don’t let your wife have any friends especially single Freinds. Women give each other bad advice and they can turn her against you

3) monitor how much time your wife spends with her family. Family can also give women bad advice and turn her against you

4) don’t give your wife too much compliments. Point out her flaws regularly to keep her in check and dependent on you

Yea so where do you live so Ik to avoid you?

 

[Character]

What an actual heck bro, sounds like you promoting slavery.