Marriage tips for the brothers

[Angelina]

I am aware of Ibn Baz's fatwa, however, however it cannot be argued that it applies to the nuclear family model that is practical in the West as we are clearly commanded to increase the Umma by having more children. 3 kids in eight years is very common among practicing Muslims and even some non-Muslims. The argument against having more is mainly down to Irzaqa reasons in the West which is Haram.

Having more than 4 kids in the West is not feasible for those that seek a certain Standard of Life. A childbearing female married in her early twenties will have an average of more than 4 children unless family planning comes into play.

You're just making life difficult for yourself.

Contraceptives are halal. You can space it out.

If you overthink things, you make things harder for yourself.

 

[anonimo]

@Angelina

Contraception is halal, never denied that, just emphasised why many Western Muslims do it for an extended period of time, mainly for socio-economical practicalities which is Haram. It goes against the Islamic principal of Irzaqa Mina Allah and the increased population of the Umma.

Like I said, I take a balanced approach to how I practice the Deen, but I am against making excuses for why we sin. That is all!

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

It is redpill, you're literally qouting that effeminate Kevin guy. Life changes, but people still need friendships. Why should she lose her friends, whilst you don't? What type of oppression and lonliness is this?

Furthermore, men and women aren't the same and there are certain feminine conversations she would want to have with her friends. Why would you want to isolate her? Not having friendships causes mental health issues. Its why people in the West are glued to their phones and depressed because they're unable to socialize and bond with people.

Its like what I said earlier, you're xaasid. Also, the biggest problem is that you don't see women as people. You ask dumb questions such as why does she need friends? Ask yourself, why do I need friends and that should be the answer.

I’m out

 

[Angelina]

I’m out

Simply ask yourself:
Do I have friends?
Why do i have them?

Then maybe you can apply that logic to your wife who is also human like you, if you haven't noticed.

Then it will prevent you from asking dumb questions.

Oh, but I forgot you're a sociopath who doesn't even love his own family, so of course you're not going to understand the importance of friendships and family.

Seek therapy for your own good.

 

[Man with a garuun]

 

[Wervelwind]

@Angelina It's gonna be like a 1% chance that you'll find a Somali man who will share the work, cooking, cleaning etc. That a unicorn. Younger Somali men think that they can have the advantages that their fathers had back in the home country while living here with wives who are not living traditional lives. Somali men by default are xaasid and will have you be in the kitchen while their drinking shaax with their friends just to show off to their friends how they're living and the truth is that Somali women have let this happen to themselves wallahi

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

I agree with the getting married Islamically and not legally part but everything else is wild abti lol. You can get around having your balls cut off in a divorce by putting assets in a trust etc, but it's such a headache wallahi.

The UK's not that bad when it comes to things like spousal-support, but you'd have to be a gravel eating, low IQ, barely functional doqon to legally tie yourself to a woman in North America. Just liquidate half your assets and give it to a charity of you choice instead wallahi, because the family courts over there are going to tear you a new asshole and let your ex-wife and her lawyer hate-f*ck you into the dirt

 

[sagegreen]

Why do you copy Moroccans and other Arab men? Somali men are submissive men leave them wasaq yahow

 

[sagegreen]

It is redpill, you're literally qouting that effeminate Kevin guy. Life changes, but people still need friendships. Why should she lose her friends, whilst you don't? What type of oppression and lonliness is this?

Furthermore, men and women aren't the same and there are certain feminine conversations she would want to have with her friends. Why would you want to isolate her? Not having friendships causes mental health issues. Its why people in the West are glued to their phones and depressed because they're unable to socialize and bond with people.

Its like what I said earlier, you're xaasid. Also, the biggest problem is that you don't see women as people. You ask dumb questions such as why does she need friends? Ask yourself, why do I need friends and that should be the answer.

He has no backbone other men think for him

 

[Angelina]

@Angelina It's gonna be like a 1% chance that you'll find a Somali man who will share the work, cooking, cleaning etc. That a unicorn. Younger Somali men think that they can have the advantages that their fathers had back in the home country while living here with wives who are not living traditional lives. Somali men by default are xaasid and will have you be in the kitchen while their drinking shaax with their friends just to show off to their friends how they're living and the truth is that Somali women have let this happen to themselves wallahi

Lol, nah for all my ramblings I've personally seen some very kind hearted Faraxs who help as much as they can. I've even seen this with some of the older generation. I think you'll find the happily married Somali couples are the ones that are daacad and miskeen to each other.

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

Why do you copy Moroccans and other Arab men? Somali men are submissive men leave them wasaq yahow

Don’t you think that’s why Arabs are more successful than us?

 

[ZizuFlyer]

Here are some simple tips for younger brothers looking to get married. These are tips that most people are too afraid to say but are absolutely critical to fruitful marriage.

1) never legally marry. Always just do Islamic nikaax. This will protect you and your assets in the future and gives you more options to marry a second wife from abroad

2) don’t let your wife have any friends especially single Freinds. Women give each other bad advice and they can turn her against you

3) monitor how much time your wife spends with her family. Family can also give women bad advice and turn her against you

4) don’t give your wife too much compliments. Point out her flaws regularly to keep her in check and dependent on you

Do you really think she would choose YOU over her own family aqash

Curse of Allah upon those who cut off ties with their relatives.

www.erfan.ir

 

[Abdisamad]

Fbdujdndjdudurjdnnd

Look at you wanting all the benefits of a man whilst simultaneously begging for the charity of a woman.

She should not give you a penny and guess what? That is also part of Islam.

Good day.

Don't let this guy ruin your day.. But he has a point some women are bad influence on married women, Ninka iyo xaskiisa wey isku diraan, sometimes this results into a divorce.

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

Do you really think she would choose YOU over her own family aqash

Curse of Allah upon those who cut off ties with their relatives.

www.erfan.ir

Why wouldn’t she? Why do you think sooryo is paid to the father, so he can give his daughter away.

 

[Angelina]

Don't let this guy ruin your day.. But he has a point some women are bad influence on married women, Ninka iyo xaskiisa wey isku diraan, sometimes this results into a divorce.

Yes and so are some men. Look how many men mock their friends for being good husbands and call them whipped? Look how many men encourage their friend to cheat and be out?

Heck, some mother in laws are out her abusing their daughter in laws and telling husbands to divoce their wives. So what is your point?
Should we women start behaving like abusers and try to sabotage a man's relationship with friends and family? This sort of narcissistic mentality is scary.

 

[Abdisamad]

Yes and so are some men. Heck, some mother in laws are out her abusing their daughter in laws and telling husbands to divoce their wives. So what is your point?
Should we women start behaving like abusers and try to sabotage a man's relationship with friends and family? This sort of narcissistic mentality is scary.

I think you misunderstood me, what I meant was some women are toxic, anyone who's toxic regardless of gender should be cut off.. Anyway one should be with friends and family members who uplift you and not with toxic people.

 

[Wervelwind]

Why wouldn’t she? Why do you think sooryo is paid to the father, so he can give his daughter away.

Sxb, how do you think Western young married Somalis should divide duties? Most likely the man and woman are both working. Do you think it should be 50/50 or 70/30 naag/nin? Most likely, the woman will know how to cook since she's probably done this for her family

Im interestd in hearing your point of view

 

[Angelina]

I rhino you misunderstood me, what I meant was some women are toxic, anyone who's toxic regardless of gender should be cut off.. Anyway one should be with friends and family members who uplift you and not with toxic people.

That isn't the point of discussion. Abusive men who are misogynists think any relationship outside of marriage is a threat. Funny how men never talk about men who mock their friends for being good husbands. IN fact caring men who take their roles seriously are usually referred to as 'cuck' and 'simp' on this very forum and they probably do it to friends. Yet I never see men talk about how these sentiments damage their relationships.

Yet, in the same breath they want to isolate women. The obsession some men have with women that have a support system is scary.

 

[Wervelwind]

Yes and so are some men. Look how many men mock their friends for being good husbands and call them whipped? Look how many men encourage their friend to cheat and be out?

My abti cooks for his family and my other abtis make fun of him lmao. If you're doing house duties as a man other men will call you a housewife

 

[Abdisamad]

That isn't the point of discussion. Abusive men who are misogynists think any relationship outside of marriage is a threat. Funny how men never talk about men who mock their friends for being good husbands. IN fact caring men who take their roles seriously are usually referred to as 'cuck' and 'simp' on this very forum and they probably do it to friends. Yet I never see men talk about how these sentiments damage their relationships. Yet, in the same breath they want isolate women.

Guys who think treating your wife good is being a simp are idiots, I think I've had many discussions with guys who spew this kinda bullshit on here.. A real man is a man who treats his woman with respect and dignity, treat her like you want another man to treat your sister..