Marriage tips for the brothers

[En_Sabah Nur]

Do you let her do anything? Serious question

She works and takes care of her family, what more does she need?

 

[liya]

She works and takes care of her family, what more does she need?

She doesn’t go out? Have friends? Go shopping? Take her kids out with her? Just cooks and cleans like a robot? What the f*ck?

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

So did you cut off your family and friends too when you got married…or nah?

Just say you’re controlling and go man

It’s not the same with a man’s family. In Somali culture and Islam, when a woman gets married, she’s part of her husbands family

 

[Angelina]

One of the first signs of abuse is a man that stops you from seeing your family and friends.

In most domestic violence cases, the reason why a man is able to abuse his wife and she stays is because she has no emotional and physical support from people that love and care for her.

Also, another sign of abuse is puting her down. The reason why abusive men do this is to lower her confidence and self esteem. People with no confidence and low self esteem usually accept physical and verbal abuse.

This 'advice' is either a cheap attempt to troll or the OP is truly an abusive and sick individual.

Many studies have been done on DS and a lot of the advise are what leads to DS.

 

[Bluefire]

Here are some simple tips for younger brothers looking to get married. These are tips that most people are too afraid to say but are absolutely critical to fruitful marriage.

1) never legally marry. Always just do Islamic nikaax. This will protect you and your assets in the future and gives you more options to marry a second wife from abroad

2) don’t let your wife have any friends especially single Freinds. Women give each other bad advice and they can turn her against you

3) monitor how much time your wife spends with her family. Family can also give women bad advice and turn her against you

4) don’t give your wife too much compliments. Point out her flaws regularly to keep her in check and dependent on you

I think you missed a few:
5) Break her legs so that she can't leave the house. This will prevent her from seeing anyone else.

6) Blind her. same reason as above.

7) Marry a man. This is because all women are trash and deserve to burn.

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

One of the first signs if abuse is a man that stops you from seeing your family and friends.

In most domestic violence cases, the reason why a man is able to abuse his wife and she stays is because she has no emotional and physical support from people that love and care for her.

Also, another sign of abuse is puting her down. The reason why abusive men do this is to lower her confidence and self esteem. People with no confidence and low self esteem usually accept physical and verbal abuse.

This 'advice' is either a cheap attempt to troll or the OP is truly an abusive and sick individual.

Many studies have been done on DS and a lot of the advise are what leads to DS.

I’m not trolling. This is genuine advice and im speaking from experience unlike most of you. I don’t mean to insult her. I just mean if the food she makes is not the best, let her know occasionally so she can improve

 

[Angelina]

It’s not the same with a man’s family. In Somali culture and Islam, when a woman gets married, she’s part of her husbands family

No that is Christian culture. In Islam a woman keep her surname and lineage and will be called by her fathers name until the day she days. Your family and parents have no rights upon her.

 

[liya]

I’m not trolling. This is genuine advice and im speaking from experience unlike most of you. I don’t mean to insult her. I just mean if the food she makes is not the best, let her know occasionally so she can improve

Do you tell her if the food she makes is great?

 

[Angelina]

I’m not trolling. This is genuine advice. I don’t mean to insult her. I just mean if the food she makes is not the best, let her know occasionally so she can improve

No,

Literally all that you have posted are ways in which men get away with DS. This is well documented. But carry on.

 

[Zahra]

Here are some simple tips for younger brothers looking to get married. These are tips that most people are too afraid to say but are absolutely critical to fruitful marriage.

1) never legally marry. Always just do Islamic nikaax. This will protect you and your assets in the future and gives you more options to marry a second wife from abroad

2) don’t let your wife have any friends especially single Freinds. Women give each other bad advice and they can turn her against you

3) monitor how much time your wife spends with her family. Family can also give women bad advice and turn her against you

4) don’t give your wife too much compliments. Point out her flaws regularly to keep her in check and dependent on you

This is the worst constructed list on marriage for any race or religion. Please whoever is reading this dont take this as any sort of advice as to help you lead a happy, loving, respectful and successful marriage. This is beyond wrong, and will cause a lot of problems within the union. Every one needs family and friends in their life , if the spouse feels threatened by the wife being around those who have most likely always known her or been in her life for years then HE has a problem within himself that he needs to take care of. You shouldn't clock her and say oh that's enough time spent this week with this person. Live and let live, as long as your wife knows that she is someone's spouse she will not do anything she isn't supposed to do outside of her husband's sight. Your 4th point is absolutely ridiculous and crazy!! Compliments are a good thing, women like compliments. I'm not sure how you associate complimenting and dependency together but hey you did say a lot of nonsense with this post so only you wil understand that point.

 

[Angelina]

@En_Sabah Nur

Is basically a ography addicted abuser.

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

This is the worst constructed list on marriage for any race or religion. Please whoever is reading this dont take this as any sort of advice as to help you lead a happy, loving, respectful and successful marriage. This is beyond wrong, and will cause a lot of problems within the union. Every one needs family and friends in their life , if the spouse feels threatened by the wife being around those who have most likely always known her or been in her life for years then HE has a problem within himself that he needs to take care of. You shouldn't clock her and say oh that's enough time spent this week with this person. Live and let live, as long as your wife knows that she is someone's spouse she will not do anything she isn't supposed to do outside of her husband's sight. Your 4th point is absolutely ridiculous and crazy!! Compliments are a good thing, women like compliments. I'm not sure how you associate complimenting and dependency together but hey you did say a lot of nonsense with this post so only you wil understand that point.

Majority of the brothers have agreed with my points. She can call her family and have acquaintances. But when a woman is spending a lot of time with family and friends, it is a recipe for failed marriage.

 

[liya]

Your trolling is top tier

 

[Periplus]

This thread is so tapped.

 

[Zahra]

Majority of the brothers have agreed with my points. She can call her family and have acquaintances. But when a woman is spending a lot of time with family and friends, it is a recipe for failed marriage.

She had these friends and family way before you've come into her life and you've accepted her as your wife so she couldn't have possibly been that brainwashed and messed up. Think!

 

[Angelina]

Majority of the brothers have agreed with my points. She can call her family and have acquaintances. But when a woman is spending a lot of time with family and friends, it is a recipe for failed marriage.

Yes and all us women have agreed that when men are with their friends, it stops from fulfilling their husbandly obligations and they turn on their wives. Oh and mother in laws routinely give their sons bad advice and sometimes abuse their daughter in-law.

Hence men can't have friends or be around family for long as well..


How about that? How does that sound to you?

 

[Periplus]

This nigga will make a fucked up post then always try reword into something palatable when he receives backlash.

OP can’t even back his controversial statements, absolute chicken wallahi.

If you’re gonna say something fucked up, stick it to it and don’t backtrack when people rightfully call you out.

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

She had these friends and family way before you've come into her life and you've accepted her as your wife so she couldn't have possibly been that brainwashed and messed up. Think!

She has to choose her friends or her marriage. Why get married otherwise? The only family she has an obligation to is her mother and father.

 

[Angelina]

This nigga will make a fucked up post then always try reword into something palatable when he receives backlash.

OP can’t even back his controversial statements, absolute chicken wallahi.

Lol I know. Very manipulative as well.

He was trashing hijab and when I said it was part of the deen, he backtracked.

He claimed that men don't have to treat wives equally even though the Quran explicitly makes it clear. Then he backtracked.

Then he tried to deny provision of wives. Then he backtracked.

Lol

 

[Zahra]

She has to choose her friends or her marriage. Why get married otherwise? The only family she has an obligation to is her mother and father.

You need a few more years of growing up. Your way of viewing marriage says A LOT about you as a person. It's not a good look. I suggest before you post something on here you think twice because you never know what can follow you and you might just find someone who gives you a taste of your own medicine.