Are Somali men bottom tier men abaayo?
Ladies, What Would You Do?
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Well, judging by the amount of eligible Somali women crying about not being able to find even half the traits Soph lists as her partner has, its a safe assumption
K-M-O
Coping through the 1st world
Llsten, I’m not gonna argue with you but rather discredit your slander.
Somali men are not a monolithic group: there’s types of them: with a degrees, businesses and corporate successes.
You’re probably limiting to the wrong one.
but it’s fine if you’re not a fond of them. you’re free to pollute your genes somewhere else.
No one cares: but your slander against us is not tolerated.
Inquisitive_
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No mention of religiosity, piety or character. Which should be top of your list, these are the attributes that last and stand the test of times, the rest is just toppings.So, ladies, you meet a Somali man who could be from your *qabil* that is 30-something, handsome, 6'3, athletic, well-read, highly educated with a 6+ figure income and workaholic tendencies you find indicative of ambition. He appears rather interested in you. However, your intuition tells you something is off. And it hasn't failed you in the past. Would you still let him pursue you or call it quits? You have noticed some early warning signs of possessiveness.
*Spidey senses are tingling*
Every person I know that didn't make religiosity the foundation failed, and the hadith of the Prophet inadvertently informs us.
Perhaps the intuition you speak off is this, a pure fitrah is naturally repulsed by its opposite, or it could be the dua of your mother that was answered.
Unfortunately you appear to suffer from the typical feminist induced diaspora disease that views "possessiveness" which is the demand of attention and devotion to your husband, as something negative.
Not surprised at all as that's the environment you grew up in, but ironically it's the only good trait you mentioned about him, it shows he is not a dayuuth and willing to protect what he has.
Somali guys are usually tall. It's kind of expected, but it's not an absolute requirement they are 6'3. What is a shame?
I normally go for miskeens (birds of a feather, as they say). Though the ex-saqajaans are very insightful and colourful. I'm cool with them, provided they are respectful and honest.@Sophisticate You like a scumbag Lite or a reformed one don't you? Just be honest with yourself, no judgements here hunno. This is a safe space
That's what I'm saying. I'm not fond of the deadpan stare either or out-of-sync emotions and facial expressions (for a person that is neurotypical and uninjured) as it makes people seem like they are putting on an act.
It's not. Or atleast I hope it's not because the simping's going to go into overdrive otherwise and I don't need that kind of competition
No comment.Sis, I suggest you consider modifying your language. Somali men are not bottom tier; they vary considerably.
External markers of success and attractiveness are not all there is to life. Of course, I consider earning potential and attractiveness. I just have to choose wisely in terms of character because a negative relationship can adversely impact my health. I have an autoimmune condition, so I am very attuned to that. A bad marriage could increase inflammatory markers from chronic psychosomatic stress.
They could look like Don Juan and have a lucrative career, but that won't appeal to me if they have some red flags. How a man treats others does. And in the gentleman's case, I outlined there was no discussion of that.
And the energy of lack or excessive want does not get you the desired outcome. I have never been desperate, and that won't change. Nor has it with age.
Welcome Back,
You hit the nail on the head. No discussion of character was outlined. Nor any reference to their religious or spiritual connection or foundation in this 'caveat.'
Possessiveness can be an issue down the road, particularly if it contributes to emotional or physical abuse.
Bundasliga
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@Sophisticate
Out of the 3: looks,finance & character/compatibility
Which one is the most important to you ?
Out of the 3: looks,finance & character/compatibility
Which one is the most important to you ?
My post-pandemic perspective sways me in favour of character as it stands the test of time and is the most enduring of all 3. I have no time in my life for inconsiderate individuals. Looks grow old quickly and finances may fluctuate.
K-M-O
Coping through the 1st world
The man had it all, just not enough to tickle your fancy if you know what I mean.
I highly doubt that. However, I suggest not letting the gender wars online negatively influence the impression of Somali guys. We have such a huge diaspora.
If this type of person in this scenario has it all. Then they would generate feeling of safety in a prospect.
I have never had a physically intimate relationship so don't you dare besmirch my name. I maybe attractive but don't assume or try to fit me into your weird Red Pill models.
K-M-O
Coping through the 1st world
Gender wars has effected every demographics in the west.
Divest movement has become a plague that effected all of us.
Everyone struggle to get to know the opposite sex. The men uses these
Black pill or red pill contents just to cope with their struggle.
while the women take modern feminism value to the next level.
We lost our cultural value and as oriented people.
We project rather than discuss.
I’m not referring to Somalis btw: I’m referring to everyone who has adopted to the western value.
It all depends on the needs of the women in question, doesn’t it.
A plain woman like @HIBAQ123, wouldn’t let a man of that caliber disappear into the night.
For an “attractive” women in her 30’s, never is a strong word but uuuuh…..
Just because am an attractive man, that knows a thing or two about women, does not make me red pill.
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Bundasliga
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You worries make now more sense .
I'd also say compatibility & character is the most important factor for a long term relationship & its success.
I don't know if our opinions from a Male perspective will help you much ,since selecting a suitable partner seems more difficult for a women ,but the only advice that comes to my mind is : dont compromise on your non-negotiables like compatibility and character & maybe comprise a lil in the looks & finance side .
Ghengis Kaarhis
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her voice is not the same, i can detect the psychosis from the distortion of her voice.Sounds like you need therapy , you're afraid of committment
Ghengis Kaarhis
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this cant be same person as the voice note in the previous post i quoted, psychosis proven.
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Trust you guts. You only have to pick one man. If he give you a bad feels. That enough for you to look for someone elseSo, ladies, you meet a Somali man who could be from your *qabil* that is 30-something, handsome, 6'3, athletic, well-read, highly educated with a 6+ figure income and workaholic tendencies you find indicative of ambition. He appears rather interested in you. However, your intuition tells you something is off. And it hasn't failed you in the past. Would you still let him pursue you or call it quits? You have noticed some early warning signs of possessiveness.
That seems reasonable and fairminded in such a scenario. However, I'm not really of this opinion of a scarcity of opportunities. They do present themselves in various forms. More concerned about actual fit, how a brother acts towards others, his consistency, and emotional stability in addition to shared commonalities. Also, what IIahi has for you will be yours.
Thank you, Ladylike. The brothers think girls should bear it in the interest of snagging what looks like an amazing catch. However, you can't ignore your internal hazard lights or intuition/gut feelings, especially if something seems off-key. Not in a quirky sense, but more like a mismatch between facial expressions and emotions. I feel like we should trust our unconscious mind. When people like someone tend to shut off certain feelings, opting to see the best.
So good luck with the capture.
AJ. You are an odey with two kids and a wife. That ship sailed long ago.I doubt you give off narc vibes.
I don't think so. I don't conform to the type of person that would have issues with commitment. Parents together, emotionally available, and no history of trauma. Nothing too monumental. No one ever broke my heart. I'm not even jaded. Try that spiel with someone else.
There should be a concerted effort to get sophisticated of the market, the Somali people can't afford to lose a qalanjo like her
She's very pretty. People only have a caveat. They do not know enough about the prospect to screen them out.
For an “attractive” women in her 30’s, never is a strong word but uuuuh…..
Just because am an attractive man, that knows a thing or two about women, does not make me red pill.
It is more of a plan to sow seeds of discontent and division. These beliefs are certainly by design. And anyone who falls for that is a pawn in a game intended to reduce the global population. It's anti-human at its very core and family. Some of us are unaware of the level of programming.
You are only heightening my value. Men love them a little deranged.
