Jealous friends.. how do you deal with them?

[SumMo]

But not you.

I actually have, unfortunately. It was pretty bad, but it was only one incident during last ramadan. I recovered, alhamdullilah.

I don’t understand, like why you’re so obsessed? There isn’t one thread I’ve ever made, that you havent commented on and tried to get my attention. You always seem to be following me around for some strange reason. Like take the hint and leave please.

Stop acting like a cry baby, it ain’t cute. Very off-putting indeed.. You also seem to be pressed 24/7. Get some help and stop following me around. It’s creepy and obvious.

 

[DeadStar]

I actually have, unfortunately. It was pretty bad, but it was only one incident during last ramadan. I recovered, alhamdullilah.

I don’t understand, like why you’re so obsessed? There isn’t one thread I’ve ever made, that you havent commented on. You always seem to be following me around for some strange reason.

Like take the hint and leave please, I shake not shake my ass for you. Goodbye, nacalaa..
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Walaal u should stop shaming me to find u attractive or shame me to believe that some Persian girl is jealous of u because she complimented ur nose and never said MashAllah. Oh and I honestly don’t believe you’re really beautiful. I have high expectations for Somali girls I highly doubt u fit the description.

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[SumMo]

Walaal u should stop shaming me to find u attractive or shame me to believe that some Persian girl is jealous of u because she complimented ur nose and never said MashAllah.

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Alhamdullilah then, you’ve grown out of your zina stage. Good job. Do you want a cookie?

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If you are not here to offer advice, why are you here? You seem like you want to be a part of my friend circle or something. I am explaning a incident that happened, and how I have been treated. Unless you have been there, you can’t really speak on it. wtf

I think you are still upset about the roast I made a couple days ago. When I went in hard on your hairline. Is that why you removed your profile photo?

Either way, be a man and get over it. Kaftaan is a part of somali culture. If you’re that sensitive I would advice you to stay away from sspot. Coming at me only makes you seem like a . (excuse my language, but it’s the truth)

 

[Ferrari]

why do u have so many ajnabi friends? and fyi, those people do a lot of sixir. don't be shocked if u wake up with ur nose gone one day.

 

[SumMo]

why do u have so many ajnabi friends? and fyi, those people do a lot of sixir. don't be shocked if u wake up without ur nose gone one day.

Well, it’s either them or cadaans.



There is practically no somali girls in my field of study.

Yeah, I know. I don’t feel like any of them do sixir tho. That’s a bit mad don’t you think?
I mean I would never accuse them of sixir, but you’re right about being cautious..

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[Ferrari]

Well, it’s either them or cadaans.



There is practically no somali girls in my field of study.

Yeah, I know. I don’t feel like any of them do sixir tho. That’s a bit mad don’t you think?
I mean I would never accuse them of sixir, but you’re right about being cautious..

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yes asians are good at that shit. u don't need that many friends, keep ur circle very tight if u want to achieve things in this life.

 

[DeadStar]

Alhamdullilah then, you’ve grown out of your zina stage. Good job. Do you want a cookie?

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If you are not here to offer advice, why are you here? You seem like you want to be a part of my friend circle or something. I am explaning a incident that happened, and how I have been treated. Unless you have been there, you can’t really speak on it. wtf

Either way, be a man and get over it. Kaftaan is a part of somali culture. If you’re that sensitive I would advice you to stay away from sspot.

Did u roast me? I don’t remember if u honestly did wallahi.

Horta stop with this shaming language. It only tells me who is upset( which again is not me).

And explain to me why I give u creepy vibes, that’s a first, I didn’t know I was supposed to make u comfortable.

 

[SumMo]

yes asians are good at that shit. u don't need that many friends, keep ur circle very tight if u want to achieve things in this life.

It’s hard because right now I am juggling between two friend groups. They are both massive +10 people each, and most of them are close with the other group too.

So it’s not like I can avoid some and be with some. Most of the time it’s pretty random who I meet. So if I stop hanging with one of them, it will be kinda obvious. idk

Hooyo told me to keep a low profile. Which is what I am doing right now. Other than our whatsappgroup, I try to stay quiet and not lead the conversations or be the center of a topic. But I tend to get very social around my friends, so it’s kinda hard. I’m still figuring it out. And this persian friend that I mentioned, never seems to keep my name out of her mouth. We could be talking about Schrödingers wavefunction, and she will still find a way to mix me into it.


I know that once I’m done with uni, I will cut all ties with them. Finito. I just need some advice on how to keep it together until May 23th, when I graduate. I don’t want to do anything stupid before that.


After that, I can tell it like it is and say bye.

 

[SumMo]

yes asians are good at that shit. u don't need that many friends, keep ur circle very tight if u want to achieve things in this life.

I will try and use this advice once I’m done with uni and go into the work field.. inshaAllah.
Very useful indeed.

 

[Idil-Beydaan]

It’s hard because right now I am juggling between two friend groups. They are both massive +10 people each, and most of them are close with the other group too.

So it’s not like I can avoid some and be with some. Most of the time it’s pretty random who I meet. So if I stop hanging with one of them, it will be kinda obvious. idk

Hooyo told me to keep a low profile. Which is what I am doing right now. Other than our whatsappgroup, I try to stay quiet and not lead the conversations or be the center of a topic. But I tend to get very social around my friends, so it’s kinda hard. I’m still figuring it out. And this persian friend that I mentioned, never seems to keep my name out of her mouth. We could be talking about Schrödingers wavefunction, and she will still find a way to mix me into it.


I know that once I’m done with uni, I will cut all ties with them. Finito. I just need some advice on how to keep it together until May 23th, when I graduate. I don’t want to do anything stupid before that.


After that, I can tell it like it is and say bye.

Alla shrödinger and wavefunctions

I fudging hate quantum
All the best with your final months and graduation
Do not worry, friends cry over one another when graduating fast forward a few months and you'll only be barely in touch with the closest friends

 

[SumMo]

Alla shrödinger and wavefunctions

I fudging hate quantum
All the best with your final months and graduation
Do not worry, friends cry over one another when graduating fast forward a few months and you'll only be barely in touch with the closest friends

I’m still crying over it. Next to analytical chemistry, physical chemistry II is by far the toughest subject I had to take. Bisinka iyo bisinka. It’s pure torture and dhimasho.



And trust me sis when I say that once I get that diploma; I will never speak to most of them ever again. I just gotta hang in there in the meantime. You right.

 

[KazakhNomad]

So my persian friend just came back after being mia for almost a year (she told us she would take a gap year to improve her grades and go on to take another major).

She comes back with a completely different nose.

Not gonna lie this got me shook, but I didn’t say anything. It was the big elephant in the room that everyone was trying to ignore, and it made everything really awkward.


She is one of many arab, persian, kurdish, indian, friends of mine that always comments on how much they hate their noses and wants to fix it. But I never really thought they would do it tho. The worst part is she is still unhappy with it. And she is lowkey taking it out on me now.. Like, say what?


Just yesterday, I was sitting in the cafeteria with her and a indian friend of mine, and she kept asking me so many questions on my nose.


At one point she straight up asked me «Why is your nose so perfect?» in the middle of me explaning something. I told her «cus I’m somali I guess?». And she got pissed off and said «Well, us persians just have big noses..». Then my indian friend went on to talk about my lips, and how it’s unfair and blabla.

To avoid any further evil eyes I changed the topic, and we somehow ended up talking about our childhood. We were showing each other baby pics of ourselves at one point, and my persian friend then proceeded to zoom in on my nose as a baby. Like wtf. I actually got scared when she did that.


She then said «Yeah, your nose has always been small. lucky» under her breath, and went back to being depressed. Like, is she normal? wtf

So, are there any other somalis girls on here who have experienced the same level of evil eyes/jealousy from their non-somali ‘’friends’’? If so, how do you deal with it?


I’m seriously considering cutting many of them off as friends, and befriending only somali girls from now on..

I can’t deal with the subtle shade and the lowkey jealousy. Like they never ever say ‘masha’Allah’ unless I threaten them! Only a handful of them do, and I plan on being friends with those lovely girls. The rest I will cut em off. They are not worth it, even tho they are fun to hang around with.

Hahha when your cushitic genes are trolling indo aryans because you have a dark skin but good nose and lips causing the caste system to explode in their heads.

As for jealous friends cut them off. You don’t need that in your life

 

[SumMo]

Hahha when your cushitic genes are trolling indo aryans because you have a dark skin but good nose and lips causing the caste system to explode in their heads.

As for jealous friends cut them off. You don’t need that in your life

It’s one month left of uni, and I don’t want to be a loner tbh. My problem i that I feel the most comfortable when there are many people around me. I guess coming from a big family it just seems weird to not have people around me all the time. But after uni I will cut them off, no doubt.

Idk about that description tho. Dats funny

 

[KazakhNomad]

Evil eye has affect many women irl. My chechen friend almost got paralyzed due to evil eyes. And she is masha’Allah a stunning girl as well. Her aunts cursed her. And she had to contact a local imam in Russia. This a serious matter, take your trolling somewhere else. Uff!

Why are you comparing our experiences to those living in Hollywood? Allah(swt) knows what kind of life they are living. I don’t, nor do I care.

Many of them are part of the illuminati and are protected by the shaytaan. So stop comparing our lives, its not remotely the same. I’m sure they don’t encounter evil everyday people as much as most people, idk nor do I care. If you can’t contribute then shut up. I will put your ass on ignore in the meantime.

You have Chechen friends?

 

[SumMo]

You have Chechen friends?

Yup. Only one chechen friend. We used to be close friends in high school..

 

[KazakhNomad]

Yup. Only one chechen friend. We used to be close friends..

Do you think her family ever looked a way at you? I find Chechens to be the most racist Muslims ever after they found out that “Caucasian” has a positive connotation in the West (as opposed to Russia where it doesn’t)

 

[SumMo]

Do you think her family ever looked a way at you? I find Chechens to be the most racist Muslims ever after they found out that “Caucasian” has a positive connotation in the West (as opposed to Russia where it doesn’t)

Hmm.. no. I only know of her and her brother, he’s pretty cool. And she has a cousin that has a thing for black girls (he tried hooking up with her afro-portuguese friend once).

I mean I’ve only been at her house one time. It was during an all-girls party. I arrived modestly, but by the time I met her mother I took my hijab off, so I don’t think her mother even knew I was somali tbh. Idk she seemed nice. Didn’t get any odd vibes.

Her other chechen frineds were so annoying, everyone else had to leave the party early because of them. So that was the only bad vibe I got from chechens.

 

[AbdiMajad]

Hahha when your cushitic genes are trolling indo aryans because you have a dark skin but good nose and lips causing the caste system to explode in their heads.

As for jealous friends cut them off. You don’t need that in your life

You've noticed how very Caucasian Somali facial features are? They make most people who claim "Aryan" and "Semitic" very un-caucasian.

I mean just look at the comparasion of a Somali woman and a white woman. Both of their characteristics is the same, only difference is their skin colour.

 

[nine]

I don’t actually think this is my first.. but thanks.!

Oh. I only noticed you rceently.

 

[SumMo]

Oh. I only noticed you rceently.

Oh my bad then. Well, thanks walaal for the congrats. You are very generous