f*ck the absent father. There's nothing sexier than a man stepping up and being there for an innocent child. You judge a person's character by how they treat people that can't do anything for them. In your mind you believe that because the child isn't going to carry your last name and doesn't have your DNA , there's no point of raising it, of giving the child a shelter, of feeding the child. Wow. I'm shocked. I hope I never come across a man who thinks like that. The true definition of a man is a man who steps up, is generous and caring.