Is sexual compatibility a real thing?

[Sheikh Google]

What do you expect sxb, this place is crawling with sexually fustrated teenagers lol

Nah sxb I'm out here being told that "some people play a sport for years and are still shit at it". Yep sexual compatibility comes down to this. Smh.

 

[Sheikh Google]

True, but if there's an "equipment incompatibility" or your sex life is otherwise shit, then you'll be fighting an up hill battle. People have enough of a hard time making a marriage work without the added fustration of a dead bedroom

I would link that subreddit dead bedrooms here but that shit scarred me and SS already lacks basic sex education. Reading that shit would show them the true world but at what cost...

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Nah sxb I'm out here being told that "some people play a sport for years and are still shit at it". Yep sexual compatibility comes down to this. Smh.

It's impossible for a guy to be sexually incompetent if he's been active in the past or is currently active. I get that some guys are just in and out, but you need to be a bit more considerate if you want repeat customers, most guys inherently know this lol. But I agree with sophisticate when she says that people who are sexually experienced tend to come with way more emotional baggage than their chaste counterparts. It's a little pseudo-sciency, but sleeping around 100% fucks with your ability to pair-bond.

I would link that subreddit dead bedrooms here but that shit scarred me and SS already lacks basic sex education. Reading that shit would show them the true world but at what cost...

Why am I not surprised that there's a subreddit for that. God I fucking loathe plebbit
It's a cope sxb, physical intimacy and sexual compatibility play a HUGE role in relationships.
Why even shackle yourself to someone for the next 30+ yrs if you're not having your needs met lol

 

[Unbothered]

Nope because orgasm is momentarily, it won’t keep a marriage . For me as a woman emotional compatibility and financial security matter.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

It also normalises sexual violence against women and dangerous sexual practices that they don’t reflect reality.

Research conducted by a Harvard PhD, Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, found that pörn featuring violence was extremely popular among women, this shit's poisoned everyone wallahi
But he's a Yahudi, so take it with a grain of salt lol

 

[Sophisticate]

No I called you out because you think sexual compatibility is a nonsense agenda and proved your lack of anything sexual by pointing out choking was some crazy shit. Your hubris makes you lack awareness of everything you are saying is just what you want in a future partner. All I was pointing out that what you want cant be generalized to everyone and that painting the idea that premarital sex = STD's, they are shit at doing the dance with no pants, immoral. Talking about things you have no clue about. This whole thread is a hatchet job attempt at making the "other side" look "evil". Thats why in my first post on here I said people who have waited for marriage kudos to them for avoiding zina but they should not compromise on that and find a partner that has the same outlook. All you had to say was its haraam and I don't agree with it instead you spouted off on things you haven't got a clue about because you have no experience about it.

You're right about one thing. Most of my sex education (aka the Geeljire Kama Sutra) came from SSpot.

I preferred the days when I thought Somalis were sexless beasts that prayed to God for ciyaal. You ruined it for me.

I hope you're happy.

 

[Man with a garuun]

What kind of a guy chokes up his wife in the first night he takes her to bed? What kind of weird fantasies are people discussing in this thread? I am pretty sure any man who suggests that has some dangerous and cruel fantasies.

Normal woman wouldn't put up with something like that.

Fyi, I'm a guy.

 

[Angelina]

It's impossible for a guy to be sexually incompetent if he's been active in the past or is currently active. I get that some guys are just in and out, but you need to be a bit more considerate if you want repeat customers, most guys inherently know this lol. But I agree with sophisticate when she says that people who are sexually experienced tend to come with way more emotional baggage than their chaste counterparts. It's a little pseudo-sciency, but sleeping around 100% fucks with your ability to pair-bond.


Why am I not surprised that there's a subreddit for that. God I fucking loathe plebbit
It's a cope sxb, physical intimacy and sexual compatibility play a HUGE role in relationships.
Why even shackle yourself to someone for the next 30+ yrs if you're not having your needs met lol

Spoiler

You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.

 

[anonimo]

What kind of a guy chokes up his wife in the first night he takes her to bed? What kind of weird fantasies are people discussing in this thread? I am pretty sure any man who suggests that has some dangerous and cruel fantasies.

Normal woman wouldn't put up with something like that.

Fyi, I'm a guy.

Among Cadaans, it is slowly becoming mainstream. As for Somalis, some males and females that are sexually active will naturally experiment if they have had exposure. It also appeals to the animalistic side of certain men to be frank. Even something more innocent like slapping the behind of a female during intercourse is an example of how po.rn has affected the sexual mores o society.

Women also become drawn to 'sexual experimentation' because of the prevailing culture. Masha Allah a lot of sisters have conservative attitudes to sex but those that are heavily Westernised or promiscuous will voluntarily partake in sex acts which are culturally alien to us. But can an argument be made that it is not culturally alien to a lot of diaspora Somalis who are Cadaan in all but name regarding their sexual tastes? Take the example of oral sex among today's diaspora Somalis, even some virginal ones, it has become 'Vanilla' for many of them. They Fatwa Shop and say it is Xalal! The reality is that it is not Makruh but Haram if the mouth becomes exposed to Madhiy Najis which is obviously the case regarding fellatio. However, try telling that to a lot of Somali males, and even some females who derive pleasure from it.

I think Somali sisters who are chaste and conservative have to be careful about who they marry just in case their spouse is into certain sexual acts they find degrading or revolting. Just like how some Sisters insist on getting a potential spouse to take an STD taste, they should ask leading questions regarding whether their spouse is 'sexually adventurous'. Or they can roll the dice and find out when they get married.

This is not a modern phenomenon by the way, the Babylonians were debauched as fu.ck! When Human Beings have become this debauched in some Historical societies, some sort of calamity was never far behind, be it social or natural.

 

[Ghengis Kaarhis]

Spoiler

You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.

They don’t fake it with me, can’t fake it when the coochie contracts and squeezes my , or when she’s running from the and saying don’t stop

For the faraaxs as long as your physically fit, the woman is attracted to you, you engage in foreplay, got endurance and your stroke game is average at the very least, you should be ok.

I can’t speak for women, but mashallah im blessed

 

[Jiron]

There should never be negative energy in love making. Both parties have to be on the same page. No harmful acts, no bad language. Please don’t be deviant

 

[Sophisticate]

They don’t fake it with me, can’t fake it when the ladybits engulf and brutalize my withered manhood, I cry with titillation only to realize this wanting was but a dream. Truth be told, I have been caged at home for eons during the pandemic and am a near 30-year old virgin that reads too much erotica. If I use hood speak you might believe my tall tales and that I don't still share a bunk bed with my wombmate.

That's very honest of you.

 

[IstarZ]

Research conducted by a Harvard PhD, Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, found that pörn featuring violence was extremely popular among women, this shit's poisoned everyone wallahi
But he's a Yahudi, so take it with a grain of salt lol

It would be interesting to know, how many of those women were an abusive relationship? Or suffered abuse in childhood?

There was a study which found women who’d experienced sexual assault/abuse in childhood/adolescence were more likely to watch p0rnography, particularly the violent kind. They develop a very distorted view of sex.

This sex positive culture is damaging for both genders. True sexual liberation doesn’t exist, we are bogged down by societal and cultural constraints on some level.

In our culture/distorted view of the Deen, it’s pretty much taboo to think or talk about sex and it’s something you’re supposed to just get to on your to-do list, after finishing school, starting career, etc. It puts us at a disadvantage, especially as Muslim women.

When we hardly know or are comfortable with our bodies, how do we explain to a man what we want or need? We’ve internalised shame about sex, without even realising it. Some women aren’t even able to reach orgasm or believe it should be unpleasant because of this mindset. It’s so deeply rooted.

For many women, physical intimacy relies heavily on feeling emotionally safe and authentically vulnerable…how do you achieve that? It goes back to what many of the sisters were saying in this thread, patience, trust and sincere communication.

 

[NordicSomali]

you can “turn on” your partner if they don’t feel like it

 

[Ghengis Kaarhis]

That's very honest of you.

Couldn’t care less of your opinion or remixes
Wombmate kulaha

 

[Sophisticate]

Couldn’t care less of your opinion or remixes
Wombmate kulaha

You Abdis are switching up lately.
The back talk.
And the free will!
What happened?

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Spoiler

You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.

Spoiler

You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

It would be interesting to know, how many of those women were an abusive relationship? Or suffered abuse in childhood?

There was a study which found women who’d experienced sexual assault/abuse in childhood/adolescence were more likely to watch p0rnography, particularly the violent kind. They develop a very distorted view of sex.

This sex positive culture is damaging for both genders. True sexual liberation doesn’t exist, we are bogged down by societal and cultural constraints on some level.

In our culture/distorted view of the Deen, it’s pretty much taboo to think or talk about sex and it’s something you’re supposed to just get to on your to-do list, after finishing school, starting career, etc. It puts us at a disadvantage, especially as Muslim women.

When we hardly know or are comfortable with our bodies, how do we explain to a man what we want or need? We’ve internalised shame about sex, without even realising it. Some women aren’t even able to reach orgasm or believe it should be unpleasant because of this mindset. It’s so deeply rooted.

For many women, physical intimacy relies heavily on feeling emotionally safe and authentically vulnerable…how do you achieve that? It goes back to what many of the sisters were saying in this thread, patience, trust and sincere communication.

It's a fucking depressing statistic but something like 1 in 5 women have been molested as children. I think the number's slightly less for men, around 18%, but that's self reported so the real figures could be even higher than that.

 

[IstarZ]

It's a fucking depressing statistic but something like 1 in 5 women have been molested as children. I think the number's slightly less for men, around 18%, but that's self reported so the real figures could be even higher than that.

It is depressing. There is a form of PTSD linked to survivors of sexual abuse. Not enough awareness or support, especially for men.

 

[Ghengis Kaarhis]

Spoiler

You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.

As for faking orgasm, the ones that get fooled by the moans are retarded, there are physical signs and reactions that you tell it’s having positive reaction. Most obvious one is when the coochie contracts, the rest vary per person, some es bite others moans some scratch

Let’s not forget also that sex is just as much as an emotional task just as much as it is physical. The mental side of things intensify the physical, or it can outright kill it.