Is sexual compatibility a real thing?

[BobSmoke]

It is real.

However it can be overpowered by spiritual compatibility if they are both on the same page and understand that practice makes improvement and to use condoms for exercise.

A nigga don't need to have 10 kids before he becomes any good. If that nigga buss too early, get him a fleshlight and saliid macsaro for his b-day to train his shit into a jedi sabre.

 

[Abdalla]

Sexually active people make this claim because they have a sexual history/past and hence compare individuals. I think they are worse off for this. Maybe these saqajaans expect someone to choke them. God knows what evils they were taught. It seems spooky.

They are for the 304 aka the streets.

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[Sophisticate]

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[Sheikh Google]

Reading this thread lawd does SS need sex education, so much misinformation. A lot of miskeens on here that are gonna be in for a rude awakening when they get married. Yes sexual compatibility is an actual thing. Doesn't matter how much you love the person and they tick every box, if the sex is shit, its near enough game over. Also choking during sex is some vanilla shit and fyi you don't actually choke your partner literally. You just apply pressure to the sides of the neck, not actually crushing their windpipe. Agree that p*rn is gonna also f*ck with people perspectives especially for the guys if they are a virgin because that shit is fake and irl it's nothing like that. For the guys and I've seen this many times before, if you are inexperienced and have escaped zina don't compromise and find yourself someone just as inexperienced because it will save you the bs of insecurity and more often you can learn the ropes together (risky is you not sexually incompatible but 30 day guarantee that mehr). For the girls I often find they can overlook if the guy isn't a virgin as again from my personal experience girls would prefer a guy with some experience in the bedroom. All jokes aside wrap it up as STDs aint a joke. Thats all folks.

 

[Sheikh Google]

It's very scary for a man to cut off a woman's air supply because he saw it on a p0rn. Where else would he get it from?
I can understand a Muslim couple healthily exploring and learning what they like, but I will never believe that all these deviant BDSM kinks come natural to virginal couples. So I would warn Muslim men and women to look out for people who randomly try to introduce abuse into the marital bed.

When you choke someone during sex you don't actually choke them lmao. You just apply pressure to the sides of the neck. Otherwise you'd be crushing their windpipe. It's not abuse smh stop the bs kink shaming. Nothing wrong with having preferences and being submissive during sex. If anything women want their man too be naturally dominant during sex (unless they a switch etc).

 

[Sophisticate]

Reading this thread lawd does SS need sex education, so much misinformation. A lot of miskeens on here that are gonna be in for a rude awakening when they get married. Yes sexual compatibility is an actual thing. Doesn't matter how much you love the person and they tick every box, if the sex is shit, its near enough game over. Also choking during sex is some vanilla shit and fyi you don't actually choke your partner literally. You just apply pressure to the sides of the neck, not actually crushing their windpipe. Agree that p*rn is gonna also f*ck with people perspectives especially for the guys if they are a virgin because that shit is fake and irl it's nothing like that. For the guys and I've seen this many times before, if you are inexperienced and have escaped zina don't compromise and find yourself someone just as inexperienced because it will save you the bs of insecurity and more often you can learn the ropes together (risky is you not sexually incompatible but 30 day guarantee that mehr). For the girls I often find they can overlook if the guy isn't a virgin as again from my personal experience girls would prefer a guy with some experience in the bedroom. All jokes aside wrap it up as STDs aint a joke. Thats all folks.

Being sexually active and committing Zina doesn't make you a Don Juan. Nor does it say much about your prowess. Some people have played a sport for years but are horrible at it. They lack the patience, discipline and skill to be anything beyond mediocre. They may even be lousy and delude themselves into believing otherwise.

A rockie with no experience but the tenacity to grow, receptivity and discipline is preferred over the dilettante saqajaan that earned his invisible wings from a slew of one nighters but thinks he's a pro that will knock it out of the park in a conjugal situation.

 

[The alchemist]

Anything is up for negotiation in life.

 

[Queen Ati]

Being sexually active and committing Zina doesn't make you a Don Juan. Nor does it say much about your prowess. Some people have played a sport for years but are horrible at it. They lack the patience, discipline and skill to be anything beyond mediocre. They may even be lousy and delude themselves into believing otherwise.

A rockie with no experience but the tenacity to grow, receptivity and discipline is preferred over the dilettante saqajaan that earned his invisible wings from a slew of one nighters but thinks he's a pro that will knock it out of the park in a conjugal situation.

I notice self-proclaimed Muslim men on this forum openly talk about their sins with zero shame.
Promiscuous Somali men tell themselves that Somali women prefer promiscuous men so they feel better about their sins.. no decent woman wants a man who has been around the block and may carry STDs. Sleeping around also shows a lack of morals, self-control, discipline and self-respect. Like you said it takes discipline and patience to be good in bed so this actually rules out these promiscuous males.

 

[YAMS]

Gaalo ppl are always talking about “sexual compatibility”, if you ever tell them you want to wait until marriage they think you’re crazy they’re all like “what if you guys aren’t compatible??”

but I kinda feel like the whole concept is BS bc if you really like each other, even if the sex is trash at the beginning can’t you work on it? Unless the dude has like a microdick or something I feel like anything can be improved

What are your thoughts? Mostly looking for answers from married people that waited, I feel like it’s getting more and more rare for people to wait until marriage even in the Muslim community sadly

Let me clue you in on marriage. People say it is about many things compromise, honesty, loyalty etc.

Wrong.

Marriage and love, to a lesser degree, is about the filthy, disgusting act that is sex. It is the cornerstone. In fact, it is the reason two people get together. And, thus, sexual compatability is critical. Especially, today where everyone can discover kinks in the palm of their hand and find willing partners.

 

[Sophisticate]

I notice self-proclaimed Muslim men on this forum openly talk about their sins with zero shame.
Promiscuous Somali men tell themselves that Somali women prefer promiscuous men so they feel better about their sins.. no decent woman wants a man who has been around the block and may carry STDs. Sleeping around also shows a lack of morals, self-control, discipline and self-respect. Like you said it takes discipline and patience to be good in bed so this actually rules out these promiscuous males.

I think it comes from a place of insecurity. They rationalize their pre-marital relations prepared them for physical intimacy in marriage. When chances are someone that abstained from sex will be less likely to step outside of their marriage and have a better quality sex life. Prior baggage coats hearts potentially leading to discontent. Sexually experienced men may have issues with connection. Like you said, coming to the table with a sorrid past is like having a bad hand. Certainly, nothing to brag about. Bragging rights come from being emotionally aware, attuned and trying to better yourself.

 

[YAMS]

View attachment 210401View attachment 210402 This guy I swear

Perfect name too right...Mount lol

 

[Sheikh Google]

I notice self-proclaimed Muslim men on this forum openly talk about their sins with zero shame.
Promiscuous Somali men tell themselves that Somali women prefer promiscuous men so they feel better about their sins.. no decent woman wants a man who has been around the block and may carry STDs. Sleeping around also shows a lack of morals, self-control, discipline and self-respect. Like you said it takes discipline and patience to be good in bed so this actually rules out these promiscuous males.

I like how you and @Sophisticate are making assumptions about being sexually active as if it's some kind of boogey monster. Way to generalize something you know nothing about as if being sexually active now makes someone a degenerate who is out here catching STD's and lack discipline and self respect (ever heard of protection basic Sex ed). The holier than thou attitude may work for you and like I said compromise and other more important shit make up the relationship but nah patience and discipline makes someone good in bed is the answer. How you talking "facts" about something you haven't even experienced and blaming it all because someone had a sexual past. The lack of sex education on SS is showing itself.

 

[Sheikh Google]

Being sexually active and committing Zina doesn't make you a Don Juan. Nor does it say much about your prowess. Some people have played a sport for years but are horrible at it. They lack the patience, discipline and skill to be anything beyond mediocre. They may even be lousy and delude themselves into believing otherwise.

A rockie with no experience but the tenacity to grow, receptivity and discipline is preferred over the dilettante saqajaan that earned his invisible wings from a slew of one nighters but thinks he's a pro that will knock it out of the park in a conjugal situation.

This reads like a reddit femcel post disguised as being morally better. How you speaking on something you have never experienced. Not only do you lack basic sex education but you now out here telling me someone whos not a virgin is a sacagan who is terrible in bed because according to your analogy "some people have played a sport for years and terrible at it". You do realise people can have sexual intimacy and learn what their partner (wether a relationship or two consenting adults) wants without being married. Its called basic communication.

 

[YAMS]

I notice self-proclaimed Muslim men on this forum openly talk about their sins with zero shame.
Promiscuous Somali men tell themselves that Somali women prefer promiscuous men so they feel better about their sins.. no decent woman wants a man who has been around the block and may carry STDs. Sleeping around also shows a lack of morals, self-control, discipline and self-respect. Like you said it takes discipline and patience to be good in bed so this actually rules out these promiscuous males.

Men are inclined to joke or lie about their sexual conquests precisely because it is the best method in which they attract a certain type of woman.

 

[Sophisticate]

This reads like a reddit femcel post disguised as being morally better. How you speaking on something you have never experienced. Not only do you lack basic sex education but you now out here telling me someone whos not a virgin is a sacagan who is terrible in bed because according to your analogy "some people have played a sport for years and terrible at it". You do realise people can have sexual intimacy and learn what their partner (wether a relationship or two consenting adults) wants without being married. Its called basic communication.

You're calling me a femcel. That lacks basic sex education because I called your ways 'saqajaan'.
How quaint.

As I said, I would prefer a man who is patient, kind and attuned who has abstained relative to one that hasn't. It's not that I called you morally bankrupt? I referred to your ilk as saqajaans for attempting to normalize pre-marital sex and negate those who aren't into that. And I attacked this notion that pre-marital sexual experience automatically = prowess. Women are all different and expect different things. I prefer a man who is an expert on one woman (yours truly) over a man who noncommittally goes for many. I'm also not really into guys that play house outside of marriage in an effort to get sex through a faux commitment but want to wife you because they are done with their ajnabi play thing. To each their own.

A consenting adult that has no legal or religious obligation to you. That doesn't bode well for creating a safe, secure and stable environment for one that sees marriage as a requisite to intimacy (physical and emotional). Lifestyle compatibility is very important. And people who demand that are within reason.

 

[Amk]

Yes it is a thing.
If u are both dedicated to the marriage then 99% of the time u will find a way to be compatible over time no matter who you are, if you both put in effort u will be fine. you dont need a trial thats shaytaan telling u to commit zina for some lame excuse
Most ppl in marriage who arent sexually compatible arent trying to make their marriage work, non-muslims have one of the highest divorce rates, sexual deviancy, single mums, etc, and ur taking marriage advice from them? Some couple can have great sex but the man is still a trash husband and vice versa, good sex isnt gonna make ur marriage work, and not being 100% sexually compatible isnt gonna make it trash, their are bigger things in life than sex. If u and ur spouse are a team ull always find a way out. only extreme scenerios is it impossible for u to be sexually compatible but exceptions donot make the rule

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Reading this thread lawd does SS need sex education, so much misinformation. A lot of miskeens on here that are gonna be in for a rude awakening when they get married. Yes sexual compatibility is an actual thing. Doesn't matter how much you love the person and they tick every box, if the sex is shit, its near enough game over. Also choking during sex is some vanilla shit and fyi you don't actually choke your partner literally. You just apply pressure to the sides of the neck, not actually crushing their windpipe. Agree that p*rn is gonna also f*ck with people perspectives especially for the guys if they are a virgin because that shit is fake and irl it's nothing like that. For the guys and I've seen this many times before, if you are inexperienced and have escaped zina don't compromise and find yourself someone just as inexperienced because it will save you the bs of insecurity and more often you can learn the ropes together (risky is you not sexually incompatible but 30 day guarantee that mehr). For the girls I often find they can overlook if the guy isn't a virgin as again from my personal experience girls would prefer a guy with some experience in the bedroom. All jokes aside wrap it up as STDs aint a joke. Thats all folks.

What do you expect sxb, this place is crawling with sexually fustrated teenagers lol

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Yes it is a thing.
If u are both dedicated to the marriage then 99% of the time u will find a way to be compatible over time no matter who you are, if you both put in effort u will be fine. you dont need a trial thats shaytaan telling u to commit zina for some lame excuse
Most ppl in marriage who arent sexually compatible arent trying to make their marriage work, non-muslims have one of the highest divorce rates, sexual deviancy, single mums, etc, and ur taking marriage advice from them? Some couple can have great sex but the man is still a trash husband and vice versa, good sex isnt gonna make ur marriage work, and not being 100% sexually compatible isnt gonna make it trash, their are bigger things in life than sex. If u and ur spouse are a team ull always find a way out. only extreme scenerios is it impossible for u to be sexually compatible but exceptions donot make the rule

True, but if there's an "equipment incompatibility" or your sex life is otherwise shit, then you'll be fighting an up hill battle. People have enough of a hard time making a marriage work without the added fustration of a dead bedroom

 

[Sheikh Google]

You're calling me a femcel. That lacks basic sex education because I called your ways 'saqajaan'.
How quaint.

As I said, I would prefer a man who is patient, kind and attuned who has abstained relative to one that hasn't. It's not that I called you morally bankrupt? I referred to your ilk as saqajaans for attempting to normalize pre-marital sex and negate those who aren't into that. And I attacked this notion that pre-marital sexual experience automatically = prowess. Women are all different and expect different things. I prefer a man who is an expert on one woman (yours truly) over a man who noncommittally goes for many. I'm also not really into guys that play house outside of marriage in an effort to get sex through a faux commitment but want to wife you because they are done with their ajnabi play thing. To each their own.

A consenting adult that has no legal or religious obligation to you. That doesn't bode well for creating a safe, secure and stable environment for one that sees marriage as a requisite to intimacy (physical and emotional). Lifestyle compatibility is very important. And people who demand that are within reason.

No I called you out because you think sexual compatibility is a nonsense agenda and proved your lack of anything sexual by pointing out choking was some crazy shit. Your hubris makes you lack awareness of everything you are saying is just what you want in a future partner. All I was pointing out that what you want cant be generalized to everyone and that painting the idea that premarital sex = STD's, they are shit at doing the dance with no pants, immoral. Talking about things you have no clue about. This whole thread is a hatchet job attempt at making the "other side" look "evil". Thats why in my first post on here I said people who have waited for marriage kudos to them for avoiding zina but they should not compromise on that and find a partner that has the same outlook. All you had to say was its haraam and I don't agree with it instead you spouted off on things you haven't got a clue about because you have no experience about it.