Is it time we leave behind the idea of a meher

Mehr is an obligatory part of the deen - it is Somali culture that has reduced it to a transaction.

It represents the first gift a husband gives to his wife, not a purchase where the money goes to her family
 
my sister after seeing most of your posts here i see you never had positive experience with somali men in your life. so please dont marry a somali guy because he will say i paid meher for that ass bend down you dont wanna get pounded by farax every night lol
 

Muji

VIP
my sister after seeing most of your posts here i see you never had positive experience with somali men in your life. so please dont marry a somali guy because he will say i paid meher for that ass bend down you dont wanna get pounded by farax every night lol

This is exactly what I’m talking about! Thank you for proving my point.
 

Luciddreamer

Certified bakhti
2-5k for mehr :noneck: maybe if you are in Somalia that’s acceptable but not in the west. Anyways Mehr is a security money for the woman, you are suppose to save that money and use it when he’s no longer there, it’s like alimony money but instead of getting it after the divorce you get it before, it’s islamic not culture.

But most of our men doesn't see it that way.
They see meher as a transaction and ownership.

The resentment stems from the obligation to pay the meher.
Broke niggas hate to lose their money.
 

Samaalic Era

QurboExit
2-5k for mehr :noneck: maybe if you are in Somalia that’s acceptable but not in the west. Anyways Mehr is a security money for the woman, you are suppose to save that money and use it when he’s no longer there, it’s like alimony money but instead of getting it after the divorce you get it before, it’s islamic not culture.
In Somali dhaqan, you only pay mehr after divorcing. What you get before the marriage is called Sayuuto if im not wrong which is abit of gold.

Also if you married with family approval, you will receive help even after you divorced, like who the hell thinks about divorce before even getting married :drakewtf:

Expensive mehr causes corruption in society and makes zina easy. The Prophet's daughters mehr wasn't even $500 and the mehr is a gift, not insurance money:francis:
 
Lol you can’t buy me sis. Keep your cheap 5k meher and tell your clan I said thanks but not thanks.

5k where ? He paid 200$ He said in another thread.

Mehr is an obligatory part of the deen - it is Somali culture that has reduced it to a transaction.

It represents the first gift a husband gives to his wife, not a purchase where the money goes to her family

Exactly. Took the words right out of my mouth .
 

Muji

VIP
Ladies ask yourself why when it comes to housework, childcare and all other things men don’t want to give

However when it comes to meher they insist! It’s an elephant trap sis. Watch out.
 
This is exactly what I’m talking about! Thank you for proving my point.


yes my sister farax are bad people run from them. for example me i like to annaly dominate a hawiye girl and make her scream "master boqor cusman destroy your adoon hawiye im your property my mj master" lol
 
Somali understanding of Islam is weak
In Somali dhaqan, you only pay mehr after divorcing. What you get before the marriage is called Sayuuto if im not wrong which is abit of gold.

Also if you married with family approval, you will receive help even after you divorced, like who the hell thinks about divorce before even getting married :drakewtf:

Expensive mehr causes corruption in society and makes zina easy. The Prophet's daughters mehr wasn't even $500 and the mehr is a gift, not insurance money:francis:

Somali culture is haraam then. The mehr should be paid in full to your wife up front

The original Somali culture was that you would give her family and tribe a separate amount of money as a gift, but her mehr is separate, hers and hers alone, and is protected by God
 

NotMyL

"You are your best thing"
VIP
But most of our men doesn't see it that way.
They see meher as a transaction and ownership.

The resentment stems from the obligation to pay the meher.
Broke niggas hate to lose their money.
Well the issue with those men isn’t the mehr they are sexist ass holes to begin with, mehr or not they are the type to abuse and use women. Anyone who thinks you can buy a human being with 5k is not someone you should be marrying.
 
Speaking of a bite. I know y'all are priceless and shit but how about an apple for meher as a form of a ceremonial gesture to honor the love and the facts that two hearts are being united as one in a hopefully ever after lasting marriage.

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