The alchemist
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I feel like you're missing the whole point. Trying to be masculine or pretending to be male is not the same argument as saying, a female CEO carries masculine traits. The latter is unquestionable. To be a CEO, as an example, you have to have specific traits which will undoubtedly characterize you as un-feminine in a lot of regards, that is, an agentic personality profile, which is a lot closer to the male disposition than the woman (meaning, a woman has to move a lot from their normal temperament, as shown in the general public). That's just the job demand to drive in performance requirements, so there is a homogenizing effect of female executives with male executives, through selection pressures of professionalism to meet job demands. Furthermore, expressing those traits in the normative context of relationships surely will affect the quality of the marriage between two partners, and it is true that in general, these high-achieving women are way less feminine that the average woman. The issue with society (really just corporate capitalistic culture trying to mold people) is when they double down to put that as an ideal archetype, ignoring the realities that put upon the woman, their needs and to a large extent incongruent with basic relationships dynamics with the opposite sex.
I'm just telling you how it is. My comments were not against the working women or high achieving women either, you can do whatever you want, and you should indeed have personal drivers to achieve something, or at least strive to put you in a favorable position in life. The issue is the lack of awareness that comes with the latter, such as these type of threads. I get it, there are too many women and men that have these relationship advice content on the internet always reduce things into a self-serving caricature of life where they have things figured out and paint a world where everything is filtered through their confirmation bias where they typically need the least change. A lot of the issues stem from the economic system and how institutional policy doesn't cater well to human needs, with society becoming more and more atomized, increasingly less successful marriages, etc. but that's a discussion for another day.
