Irish boyfriend wants to meet my parents

[Sheikh Google]

Thank you for the advice. I did explain it to him but he just thinks I’m worried and he thinks that it can’t be that deep but it is. I don’t think he really understands how serious it is for somalis and I never told him how we feel about ajnabis. I don’t want to hurt him.

Be honest with him. Explain to him the concept of cadanka iski illali and how serious it is. Honestly, you will be putting your life in danger and your future too if he gets too agitated and pushes you to introduce him. Ive heard horror stories of girls being sent back home after getting caught dating and it isn't any daqhan ilis ting either. You will be most likely married off to some fob and never see the sunset in the west again.

 

[Netflix]

Thank you for the advice. I did explain it to him but he just thinks I’m worried and he thinks that it can’t be that deep but it is. I don’t think he really understands how serious it is for somalis and I never told him how we feel about ajnabis. I don’t want to hurt him.

Especially how Somalis view cadaan

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

17 is too young to get married. If you introduce him to your somali parents it has to be as a marriage thing. In what world are conservative Somalis going to be ok with a girl dating. Even typing that is hilarious to me. Tell your boyfriend that listen let us continue dating and if we still together post 20s then come through on a serious marriage proposal. What does he think will happen? stroll into your household and be like hey aabo I'm Muslim but I'm also dating your daughter, it's cool though we only do hand stuff and keep it halal under the waist. Your pops will go to prison and Abu O'Shaughnessy will be dead.

We wouldn’t be telling them that we’re dating, just that we’re getting to know each other and it’s serious because we’ve been thinking of marriage. But I was saying that we’re young and they won’t actually think we’re serious about marriage so I don’t think it’s a good idea to tell them now, maybe a few years down the road. He keeps asking why and why is it so bad and am I ashamed of him etc etc but it’s not that.

 

[Amirah]

I do want a future with him but I’m trying to figure how to break it to my parents. I don’t want them to disapprove of him. Also we were thinking of waiting for a while cause we’re 17 and they were won’t take us as seriously even though we are serious. Yes he is Muslim. We’ve been friends since we were 10 and been together for 2 years

wow you gen z are wild! I didn’t even look at boys when I was 15 let alone have a boyfriend for 2 years and getting ready for marriage lol. Ok Lemme talk to you as an older sister for a second, I would say don’t. You think you know what you want but you really don’t you’re way too young. I hope you’re not committing zina with this guy either. You owe to yourself to wait, try to go to college at least and see what else is out there. High school sweetheart type of relationships rarely ever last.

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[Baarisiyomoos]

Be honest with him. Explain to him the concept of cadanka iski illali and how serious it is. Honestly, you will be putting your life in danger and your future too if he gets too agitated and pushes you to introduce him. Ive heard horror stories of girls being sent back home after getting caught dating and it isn't any daqhan ilis ting either. You will be most likely married off to some fob and never see the sunset in the west again.

Wow I’ve never heard of that I don’t think my parents would do that they love me a lot and I’m their only daughter so they spoil me. They’d probably just get mad and tell me not to see him anymore or tell anyone or something like that. I don’t think they’d ship me to somalia.

 

[convincation]

Marry him. Reverts tend to be good people since they’re basically Muslims with a headstart

 

[elite1337]

Be honest with him. Explain to him the concept of cadanka iski illali and how serious it is. Honestly, you will be putting your life in danger and your future too if he gets too agitated and pushes you to introduce him. Ive heard horror stories of girls being sent back home after getting caught dating and it isn't any daqhan ilis ting either. You will be most likely married off to some fob and never see the sunset in the west again.

Honestly this is the best answer
Wise man

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

wow you gen z are wild! I didn’t even look at boys when I was 15 let alone have a boyfriend for 2 years and getting ready for marriage lol. Ok Lemme talk to you as an older sister for a second, I would say don’t. You think you know what you want but you’re way too young. I hope you’re not committing zina with this guy either. You owe to yourself to wait, try to go to college at least and see what else is out there. High school sweetheart type of relationships rarely ever last.

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Thank you for the advice I will think on this. No I’ve never done anything like that and I would never do zina neither has he and he’s never pushed me to. I guess before it was puppy love I don’t know how to explain it but we’ve been serious for a good while.

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Marry him. Reverts tend to be good people since they’re basically Muslims with a headstart

He’s a great guy and I want to but my parents approval and happiness is important to me, I owe it to them.

 

[Sheikh Google]

We wouldn’t be telling them that we’re dating, just that we’re getting to know each other and it’s serious because we’ve been thinking of marriage. But I was saying that we’re young and they won’t actually think we’re serious about marriage so I don’t think it’s a good idea to tell them now, maybe a few years down the road. He keeps asking why and why is it so bad and am I ashamed of him etc etc but it’s not that.

Wow I’ve never heard of that I don’t think my parents would do that they love me a lot and I’m their only daughter so they spoil me. They’d probably just get mad and tell me not to see him anymore or tell anyone or something like that. I don’t think they’d ship me to somalia.

@Amirah ended the thread here. Listen to the sister please. I wont be one to judge you and tell you what you are doing is wrong. Gen z or not we are still conservative as Somalis, ceeb culture is ridden in our society, and its 1000000000x times worse as a young Somali girl. I repeat and I will repeat it again this relationship is young love and we have all be there but Somali parents don't care about that shit. Explain to your boyfriend sit him down if you have too and tell him about the dynamics of a somali household and how it works. If you are still together in your 20s then yes come through on a marriage proposal. You might think your parents love you etc but the way a girl is treated and her chastity etc in a Somali household is completely different from a guy. Showing my age here but damn you gen z are wild when I was 17 I hadn't even seen tiddies in the flesh before and Gen z wilding out trying to introduce a relationship to hooyo and aabo like its some kind of somali romcom. Only ending in this is a flight to baadiyo and a night with that weird cousin in a tuulo in backwards village. Sister pleaseeeee I'm begging you do not even entertain this idea. Slap some sense into Abu O'Shaughnessy if you have too.

 

[Abdisamad]

Thank you for the advice I will think on this. No I’ve never done anything like that and I would never do zina neither has he and he’s never pushed me to. I guess before it was puppy love I don’t know how to explain it but we’ve been serious for a good while.

What you guys do when you meet up.. Keep 2 meter distance and assure each other one day you'll marry

 

[Sheikh Google]

Honestly this is the best answer
Wise man

I have experience from hiding in cars and meeting up and doing "stuff" in the back of the cinema with timo jilac gal. Atleast somalis we have daqhan ilis, the timo jilac parents don't f*ck around and will honour kill and karbaash their girls if they catch a whiff of them with a non-mahrem.

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

@Amirah ended the thread here. Listen to the sister please. I wont be one to judge you and tell you what you are doing is wrong. Gen z or not we are still conservative as Somalis, ceeb culture is ridden in our society, and its 1000000000x times worse as a young Somali girl. I repeat and I will repeat it again this relationship is young love and we have all be there but Somali parents don't care about that shit. Explain to your boyfriend sit him down if you have too and tell him about the dynamics of a somali household and how it works. If you are still together in your 20s then yes come through on a marriage proposal. You might think your parents love you etc but the way a girl is treated and her chastity etc in a Somali household is completely different from a guy. Showing my age here but damn you gen z are wild when I was 17 I hadn't even seen tiddies in the flesh before and Gen z wilding out trying to introduce a relationship to hooyo and aabo like its some kind of somali romcom. Only ending in this is a flight to baadiyo and a night with that weird cousin in a tuulo in backwards village. Sister pleaseeeee I'm begging you do not even entertain this idea. Slap some sense into Abu O'Shaughnessy if you have too.

Thank you for this I will seriously think on it and talk to him

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

I have experience from hiding in cars and meeting up and doing "stuff" in the back of the cinema with timo jilac gal. Atleast somalis we have daqhan ilis, the timo jilac parents don't f*ck around and will honour kill and karbaash their girls if they catch a whiff of them with a non-mahrem.

They really do that???

 

[Sheikh Google]

They really do that???

Timo Jilac gal are the most sexually repressed group in the world. They take honor seriously, its gotten better today as the media has shined a light on the travesty of honor killings but boy even 10 years ago it was really bad. They would get daqhan ilis and then get killed back home. Somali parents got a bit of naaharis and might karbaash you a bit but they won't kill you.

 

[yaqir]

Marry him. Reverts tend to be good people since they’re basically Muslims with a headstart

"trusting redhead reverts" he gonna join al shabaab

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Timo Jilac gal are the most sexually repressed group in the world. They take honor seriously, its gotten better today as the media has shined a light on the travesty of honor killings but boy even 10 years ago it was really bad. They would get daqhan ilis and then get killed back home. Somali parents got a bit of naaharis and might karbaash you a bit but they won't kill you.

How could you kill your own child they are barbaric wow

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

"trusting redhead reverts" he gonna join al shabaab

Stop it

 

[Jaydaan]

I feel red heads are rated nowadays thanks to Ed Sheehan, Prince Harry and Kevin De Bruyne. I used to have red headed friend as a kid and everyone warned me stay away from him. Even my teacher told my mum tell your son stay away from that freak. They face more hardship than black people in Europe but you never see them complain

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

I feel red heads are rated nowadays thanks to Ed Sheehan, Prince Harry and Kevin De Bruyne. I used to have red headed friend as a kid and everyone warned me stay away from him. Even my teacher told my mum tell your son stay away from that freak. They face more hardship than black people in Europe but you never see them complain

I think his hair is very nice also I’ve heard of the ginger joke but i didn’t know it was that serious how is your teacher saying that