Inability to love Somali women

[NotreDame]

1. I never said I hated my hooyo. All I said was that I had issue with the way Somali women handled their familia affairs. The culture of single motherhood was never imposed on the Somali woman living the diaspora, most Somali marriages ended because Somali women became radical feminists and did not perceive the importance of the Somali man at all of any value.

That's not true, most somali girls are actually very conservative and very different than most other girls. They will post on instagram and whatnot about women empowerment, but for the right guy trust me she'll let a lot of things slide and will do things for him. You either lack game or you just haven't experienced many somali girls outside of what they say on twitter or IG.

2. The idea that the pool for Somali women is larger than that of Somali men is complete bs. Somali men have been marrying and dating women all over the world for decades and even centuries. From Europeans to Russians, to Indians, to Asians. And they have a seemingly unlimited supply of Somali women who are virtually begging for a Somali husband. Somali women need their Somali men to be have their Somali families. While Somali men irrespective of who they choose to marry will have Somali kids.

That is incorrect, somali men or somali women that's not the deciding factor. A good looking somali man will have a world of choices same goes for a pretty somali girl. Whereas the uglier ones regardless of their gender will have to get what's left after everyone else is done picking and choosing. Just because a somali man can land a hot foreign babe doesn't mean you can, same for all the ugly somali girls empowered by the love and praise for somali women. Funny enough most of the somali women being praised are lightskin, thin, and have beautiful hair and smiles (most somali women don't even have lightskin that's the funny part). In the end individuality matters, your looks are more important than your gender and ethnicity when it comes to availability.

This idea that the daughters of toxic feminists mothers who destroyed the Somali family institution by kicking their husbands out on behalf of the white's mans' conspiracy wanting to blame the Somali man for their problems is hilarious.

That was a mouthful.

3. The idea that I should be infinitely grateful to just one of my parents. You all act as though you know my mom better than me.

No is saying be infinitely grateful to just one of your parents. We are saying your mother deserves more respect than how you've written her in this post. How would she react if she read this?

 

[Alexander The Great]

Female friends are boring but you gotta let the bros know you got alternatives

 

[Susa]

not every somali coochie is the same ffs make conversation with a Faduma for once instead of Becky.

 

[Abdillahi]

Most Somali girls were raised in loveless homes so they don't know what unconditional love is. When they become mothers they pass on their childhood experiences to their children. This pathology has its roots in narcissism, were the person only cares about their feelings and her children will pick up those traits unless pointed out as bad.

Most Somalis are deeply unhappy but cannot show how they feel in a western society. So it manifests in other negative ways. However, if you go back to Somalia you will see people freely expressing how they feel, and it can be ugly.

 

[Hodan from HR]

my somali mom broke my somali dad's heart when she hit him with divorce for wanting a second wife. abo had the right to marry a second wife imo. hooyo wasn't given him any intimacy since she reached menopause and abo still wanted to have more kids to keep the lineage alive.

Sorry to say this but it seems to me you've idolized your dad since you've never lived with him. It is totally normal to feel hurt and resentful towards your hoyo if she mistreated you but it is not okay to pick sides on the divorce matter.

Using your own argument, it can also be said your aabo is the one who abandoned you and your siblings by choosing to follow his selfish desires. What was the point of him having other children when that meant he won't be present in the life of the children he already had? Quality over quantity no?

Just because Islam allows men polygany doesn't mean it has to be practiced at the expense of breaking the family unit.


Parents are humans too and are flawed. Just accept their divorce as fate knowing the decisions they made wasn't out of malice, they both did not know better.

 

[purple haze]

I don’t understandOromo please translate dis

SHE SAID RAW MEAT IS BEST EATEN WITH MUSTARD

 

[J-Rasta]

Please, it's for your own good not to bring nor disclose your family affairs on this anonymous site, especially those who brought you to your very existence , how can you even talk about the woman who raised you nine months in her stomach, can you imagine what a mother goes through,

What happened between the both of your parents should be a private matter, what do you benefit from telling others unless you're not self conscious sxb.

Come to your senses bro and consider discussing appropriate subjects without attaching your family affairs.
This place is full of ciyaalsuuq, wasaaqiin that have no such problem riduculing you ,
Somalis online are merciless beings.

Back to your topic ,
With all due respect , I won't say it's a dreadful topic but these are very childish things to say

Ofcourse I am disappointed with the current state of Somalis , especially in Africa and diasporas , I'm disgusted to witness the obnoxious twitter xaliimos , several naagnools and some westernised xaliimos and its the many reasons I date ajnabi women,

but they are a miniscule and insignificant.

I bet that you unconditionally love your female relatives.

refrain from this title , use reasoning insert SJW etc instead

 

[NotoriusBIG-V2]

my somali mom broke my somali dad's heart when she hit him with divorce for wanting a second wife. abo had the right to marry a second wife imo. hooyo wasn't given him any intimacy since she reached menopause and abo still wanted to have more kids to keep the lineage alive. despite he not living with us we have a great bond, even stronger than the one i have with hooyo. whenever me and hooyo beef i call abo to resolve it between us. my bitter bond with hooyo has led me to feel similar manners about somali women in general. i currently do not have or have ever had somali female friends though i have many non-somali female friends and i feel far more comfortable and confident interacting with ajnabi women than somali. also i can't trust somali women, growing up with one taught me all they care about is themselves, what other women think of them, and money.

Summarized Notes
1)Dysfunctional family relationship
2)Parental Separation
3)Polygamy
4)Resentment towards female parent
5)attribution bias
6)Dislike for an entire group because said bad experiences

By my deduction you have a insecure attachment style, which stems from early childhood trauma of some sorts. When our needs aren't met consistently by our caregiver, we form the belief that we can't rely on others. You essentially feel unloved and neglected from what it seems.

 

[Amal Hassan]

There are a lot of misconceptions that this thread seems to have disintegrated into:

1. I never said I hated my hooyo. All I said was that I had issue with the way Somali women handled their familia affairs. The culture of single motherhood was never imposed on the Somali woman living the diaspora, most Somali marriages ended because Somali women became radical feminists and did not perceive the importance of the Somali man at all of any value.

2. The idea that the pool for Somali women is larger than that of Somali men is complete bs. Somali men have been marrying and dating women all over the world for decades and even centuries. From Europeans to Russians, to Indians, to Asians. And they have a seemingly unlimited supply of Somali women who are virtually begging for a Somali husband. Somali women need their Somali men to be have their Somali families. While Somali men irrespective of who they choose to marry will have Somali kids. This idea that the daughters of toxic feminists mothers who destroyed the Somali family institution by kicking their husbands out on behalf of the white's mans' conspiracy wanting to blame the Somali man for their problems is hilarious.

3. The idea that I should be infinitely grateful to just one of my parents. You all act as though you know my mom better than me.

Dayooth. How can you speak about your mum like that & it’s her marriage so it’s her decision. You can’t force someone to love you or be with you sorry some people will stay in a unhappy marriage for the sake of children but no. You should really repent to Allah cuz.

 

[Desert Flower]

Have some empathy for your mom. She’s been through a lot. Give your dad the same energy you’re giving your hooyo regarding him not upholding his parental and husband duties.

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

This is really deep

 

[Ferrari]

you should avenge for your father by making a lot of somali women single mothers.