what if she refusing to provide relief maybe because she has mental illness or even worse reason she became feminist, is it best to tell her father and brothers for first offence? how about second offence and third offence? what to do? divorce is when all options is used and if wife is older then divorce is easier but if she is younger good idea to tell her father and brothers and take her to masjid to see sheikh to learn islamic role of the wives if it doesn't work other measure can be used