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I never let people get too close to me, is this normal?

Apollo

Staff Member
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I cut off all friends when I came back from Somalia, I just cant relate with diaspora kids anymore. I prefer chilling with odayaasha and they are always entertaining. But in Somalia I had alot of good friends female and male. I felt truly at home. Here I just go to work and come home and on the weekends read books.
Making new friendships in Somalia is 1000x easier than in the West as EVERYBODY is interested in you as diaspora raised person. I had a similar experience there. I got invited over for dinner by new people like every other day there.

They are more laid back over there.
 

Yukon_Niner

The next worst thing since Bogans on Ice
suck my ****
it literally ticks off most of your wants, why's everyone angry? War is war it's going to be shit no matter what. If you really want to face the brunt of it sign up for it.
friends who would fight and die for each other, friends who would have went to war and fought their enemies with each other, who were in the trenches for months fighting off an enemy’s siege.
 

VixR

Veritas
I’m not an anti social person, I can easily get people to feel close to me. People who I don’t give a fuck about often tell me how I’m their closest friend. They tell me all their problems and all their shit, and I’ll advise them, but I never let them into my life.

Nobody except me knows about my true passions (not the mainstream BS I tell people), what I do in my spare time, what I aspire to be, etc. I unconsciously look down upon almost everyone I meet.
No wonder you’re so distorted.

It’s abnormal not to have ever felt close to anyone, and to engineer their closeness to you.
 
Making new friendships in Somalia is 1000x easier than in the West as EVERYBODY is interested in you as diaspora raised person. I had a similar experience there. I got invited over for dinner by new people like every other day there.

They are more laid back over there.
Yeah, I felt honoured over there, and I am not talking about the leeches who I just want your money, I can sense those ones a mile away. Here I feel like people are too obsessed with their smart phones, they cant even hold a proper conversation without checking their snapchat, biggest pet peeve
 

Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa

Run and I’ll catch you and eat you alive
Anyone who’s telling you it’s normal hates you. If you don’t talk about how you feel your life expectancy is going to decrease and you’re going to develop mental health issues. It’s normal to vent, be yourself and still be a man. You’re a human being Allah gave you emotions. I think you’re scared of being hurt, being judged and giving yourself out to others, so that you could live a ‘safe’ life. Sxb life is short, LIVE IT.
 
Idk if I’m happy about it tbh.

I would love to belong to a tribe, a people bonded by the blood of their ancestors for centuries, friends who would fight and die for each other, friends who would have went to war and fought their enemies with each other, who were in the trenches for months fighting off an enemy’s siege.

Is that too much to ask for?

Looks like you are reacting to modern bs friendships that are very shallow and opportunistic.

If you befriend people because of their diin and akhlaq, then you will form deep bonds with them and will be your true self.

I would say you are saying no to flaky friendships.

Good for you.
 
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