I married my first cousin

Abdalla

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Hey its completely halal true. But if you are a product of a cousin marriage yourself, then not marrying your cousin is the best course of action. I've seen the effects of multigenerational cousin marriages and it is a fact that it causes high rates of disabilities and learning difficulties.

Obviously, in your case it seems like it is a one off and that your parents aren't cousins, so you should be fine and as you said ultimately, its qadr of Allah.

Dozen studies proved your theory to be baseless. The only increased of diseases or disabilities are if the said conditions in your family. If autism runs in the family, then cousin marriage increases the risk of autism. If it doesn’t run in the family, then the risk of autism is minimal.

A matter of fact, cousin marriage were, in the past, used as a protective factor in preventing diseases like malaria and lepra. By passing through the right genes, the immunity was increased.

The risk of drinking and using drugs during pregnancy is much bigger.


That’s the logic a pedophile

You consider everything pedo. Yaab
 

alien

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whyd you marry you're cousin when there are other wives. It is facts that it can cause problems when it is generational. The rates of disibility goes up.
 
It's permitted in Islam and It's not taboo in somalia only in the west.

Well of course. Doesn’t mean it isn’t gross. I always felt that the only reason cousin marriage is permitted in Islam is for those living in extremely isolated areas with only relatives around. Or when the world was less globalized and interconnected. Even the poor lads living in the miyi deserve a chance to be loved and romance. Even if that romance comes with a little risk. No reason to be marrying a first cousin nowadays.
 

JohnCena

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Majority of people in this thread told me to go for it and so i did :samwelcome: ask me anything
Honestly there's nothing wrong with marrying your first cousin. There's only a 2% increase in health defects than an average marriage.

Just make sure you do genetic testing and maybe think of ivf for having a child.
 

Sophisticate

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I'm from the North.

I was referring to the ethnic minority 'Reer Xamar' who popularly marry their first cousins not ethnic Somalis from the South but thanks for clarifying.

Marrying your cousin doesn't actually make you more pious. And just because something is permissible doesn't necessarily make it an optimal choice. Couple that with a general push for Somalis to marry further from the root (exogamy) rather than closer (historically). One sort of wonders why emulate communities where consanguinity is the norm? Especially at it can be more trouble than it's worth.

And what motivated you to make such a decision? Many people come from good looking families but are not attracted to their relatives. Aren't you afraid of genetic anomalies or causing family rifts if you marry your relative and it doesn't work out.

I have seen problematic outcomes from relative marriages such as kids with a greater likelihood for disability to family feuds and higher rate of physical health problems and mental illness. You essentially reduce reproductive fitness and increase odds of a number of health conditions: cystic fibrosis, thalassemia, down’s syndrome, heart diseases, autism, blindness, deafness, neurodegenerative diseases and rare genetic disorders.

Do you realize Arab societies especially in the Gulf would marry their cousins because they were isolated and would marry who they meet? I doubt access to unrelated individuals was your problem. Also some communities practiced paternal line cross cousin marriage in order to preserve wealth within a family. Their primary reason was being motivated by access and/or finances.
 
Dozen studies proved your theory to be baseless. The only increased of diseases or disabilities are if the said conditions in your family. If autism runs in the family, then cousin marriage increases the risk of autism. If it doesn’t run in the family, then the risk of autism is minimal.

A matter of fact, cousin marriage were, in the past, used as a protective factor in preventing diseases like malaria and lepra. By passing through the right genes, the immunity was increased.

The risk of drinking and using drugs during pregnancy is much bigger.




You consider everything pedo. Yaab

And there are dozens of studies that prove my argument to be true. Disabilities are in fact higher for cultures with increased cousin marriages such as Pakistanis and Gulf Arabs. We've seen the effects of generational cousin marriages in groups such as the Hapsburgs.

There is a difference between a one off cousin marriage which is completely fine and cousin marriages that happen in a family continously. Saying its baseless is ridiculous. I'd love to see the studies. Also, unless you're getting tested before marriage, which a lot of people simply don't how do you know you're not increasing issues certain family illnesses?
 

World

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How are you planning to explain that to your kids? I’d disown my parents if I found out they were first cousins. The fact that even knowing the potential risks they still went and had me....ugh gross.
Children of non-related couples have a 2-3% chance of being born with a birth defect, and children of first cousins have a 4-6% chance. The risk is an increase of 2-3 %, stop overreacting.
 

Apollo

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Children of non-related couples have a 2-3% chance of being born with a birth defect, and children of first cousins have a 4-6% chance. The risk is an increase of 2-3 %, stop overreacting.

It lowers the quality of the population. I thought you were a genetic realist. 1st cousin marriage is plain retarded.
 

World

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It lowers the quality of the population. I thought you were a genetic realist. 1st cousin marriage is plain retarded.
I agree with you, but Sorbet was acting as if first cousin marriages lead to a 50 % chance in birth defects.
 
It lowers the quality of the population. I thought you were a genetic realist. 1st cousin marriage is plain retarded.

Lets be real, cultures that dabble in cousin marriages have lineages filled with cousin marriages over multiple generations, so its hardly ever a case of a one time cousin marriage which may not have that much of an impact.

Just imagine the effects of having grandparents, great and so on who for the most part were mostly all 1st and 2nd cousins!
 

Sophisticate

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Lets be real, cultures that dabble in cousin marriages have lineages filled with cousin marriages over multiple generations, so its hardly ever a case of a one time cousin marriage which may not have that much of an impact.

Just imagine the effects of having grandparents, great and so on who for the most part were mostly all 1st and 2nd cousins!

Even a one-off is precarious. Some would suggest that someone's receptivity to cousin marriage could translate to being open to intergenerational cousin marriage. I don't like the idea of this becoming an ingrained or established practice and am in favour of heterozygosity.
 

World

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I don’t mind marrying a fourth+ cousin, at that point you’re basically not related genetically. Second cousins for example share 3.1% of their genes. My parents are 5th cousins I believe. However, further back my ancestors are all unrelated (different clans).
 

Sophisticate

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I don’t mind marrying a fourth+ cousin, at that point you’re hardly related genetically. My parents are 5th cousins I believe. However, further back my ancestors are all unrelated (different clans).

My parents are 15th cousins and even their sub clans were prohibited from marrying until 100 years ago. Rules like this sort of tell me it's not all that common. And that practices of cousin marriage vary depending on region, mirco-culture and change over time.
 
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