How to stay calm

The mind controls the body and u control the mind. u aren't being created by the events and circumstances of life. life isn't happening to u, u create ur life by choosing how u respond or react. stay home and pretend nothing happened until u finish ur degree, save money and get ur desired job.
u said u help ur parents financially, cooking and cleaing the mess. That's very noble act .
I salute u my wonderful and brave friend.

Saxiib have you been reading some self help books recently by any chance?
 

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Laa ta aamin nin wa law kaana ninkaaga- bom!
Shut up kullahaa :deadpeter: as usual your post is A1, they start off interesting and end ridiculously funny :ohhhdamn: horey u suco huuno im a big fan :stevej:
 

Gibiin-Udug

Crowned Queen of Puntland. Supporter of PuntExit
Here’s my advice, be quiet when they’re talking. Listen to them and always agree. I know it’s easier said than done but at the end of the day they’re your parents. They deserve respect and admiration. After they’re done talking without you interrupting them, tell them your side of the story in a calm manner. I’m sorry you’re going through this. But I’m sure your parents wants the best for you. You will look back in later years and thank them.


If it gets too much, excuse yourself from the environment and go outside for fresh air. Take a walk to clear your head.


Good luck.
 
Never be rude to parents. You should articulate your side of the story. If they are being difficult i simply dont talk to them. Silent treatment. Seems rude, but i firmly believe its our right to stay silent. Think about it, what will they say? "my son wuu igu qeyliyey/caayey" vs "my son wuu iga aamusey" kkk
The quran says do not say uff to them or anything more. But i have the right to be articulate and be silent/leave if they continue arguing.
 
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May allah make it easier for you. As weird as it sounds their nagging comes from loving place. Somali parents don’t think the damage their words do and don’t understand the shlt a young person goes through figuring themselves and their place in this hectic world. I doubt it would help but sit them down and tell them exactly how you feel. This is mainly for you so you know deep down you really tried
 
All I can say is be patient abaayo. You won’t live with them forever, so don’t get too depressed.

That being said, I still live with my own parents, and my mother is the same way. I used to do some bad things to cope with it like drinking, smoking, and hanging out with ciyaal suuq. But now I just hang out with my friends on weekends or after work. A little bit of time away from my house and some conversation really helps relax me.
 
Where is she ? by the way,
I went to work came back no response

Soulsearching tell us your update are for real or just having it laugh

You seem like genuine person but ur stories does not add up sometimes

nag taan hala cawiyo she needs saviour is time one of these London low life maalis investigate matter asap
Show your ssupport and comfort

If her circumstances istrue my apology
What else more can I say, i am sorry to hear your going through ruff patch

Create GoFundMe account signup to PayPal and have everyone send a little

It will make massive difference, sorry
I don't live in London I hate that place
I live in Bristol 2.5 hours

Hope she's fine inshallah
 

SOULSEARCHING

Hakuna matata
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@SOULSEARCHING

Though I’m naturally a very sympathetic and empathetic person and would like to give you the benefits of doubt, your stories don’t add up. In an earlier thread, you painted your old sister as a drug addict and a lesbian who brought home her female lover and your parents don’t bother with her, but you’re the only one they give a hard time. You might have problems with them, but your story keeps taking so many different lives. What’s happening?


That's my younger sister, she dosen't live with us anymore.
 
Where is she ? by the way,
I went to work came back no response

Soulsearching tell us your update are for real or just having it laugh

You seem like genuine person but ur stories does not add up sometimes

nag taan hala cawiyo she needs saviour is time one of these London low life maalis investigate matter asap
Show your ssupport and comfort

If her circumstances istrue my apology
What else more can I say, i am sorry to hear your going through ruff patch

Create GoFundMe account signup to PayPal and have everyone send a little

It will make massive difference, sorry
I don't live in London I hate that place
I live in Bristol 2.5 hours

Hope she's fine inshallah

I think @SOULSEARCHING is from the states. But we are here for her. She seems ike a lovely person
 
She's from the state, are you sure
Okay maybe you now her well

Well I am new to Somalispot, is my first day here

I dunno even now how create thread, maybe is good start conflict
 
I think @SOULSEARCHING is from the states. But we are here for her. She seems ike a lovely person


Ohh does it say Atl on her profile,
that place is dangrous bro

I watched alot of first 48 them
AA are predators dead men walking

Is not even safe to sit in car let alone
a house dangerous city, there walk around with Ak47 nick name chopper

You think London knife stabbing is nothing compared to be shot at ak47

Best place for somalis to live in the state is Columbus period

I would not even think twice about it
 
xaasid. Stop encouraging this behaviour

@halwa

Encouraging what behaviour?


She will be better off leaving this dysfunctional family behind and concentrate on her mental well being. What will she benefit from this house other than more mental abuse? I thought parents had responsibilities to care for their children and be an example to teach them proper manners. This is as good as it get for most Somali families. I wouldn't live in such a home. I wish her well.
 
@halwa

Encouraging what behaviour? She will be better off leaving this dysfunctional family behind and concentrate on her mental well being. What will she benefit from this house other than more mental abuse? I thought parents had responsibilities to care for their children and be an example to teach them proper manners. This is as good as it get for most Somali families. I wouldn't live in such a home. I wish her well.

look at this clown. Instead of encouraging the sister he is trying to turn her family against her. Truly a shaydaan
 
look at this clown. Instead of encouraging the sister he is trying to turn her family against her. Truly a shaydaan

@Jaydaan

“Encouraging the sister” to be mentally abused further to the detriment of her mental health? She will be better off to start afresh somewhere else and seek support from decent human beings. We shouldn’t be rewarding abusive and dysfunctional parents. These types of parents appeal to you, but not to me. I wish her well.
 
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