How to keep a man

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  1. Sheikh

    Sheikh Jaalle Ugas ''Comrade Ugas''

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    Corrective list fam :salute:
     
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  2. TekNiKo

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    Soomaalida waxay ku maahmaadan cunuga ugu yar guriga waa ninka
     
  3. riyaale

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    waa orah khaldan, jaal
     
  4. TekNiKo

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    I heard this in Mudug if you wouldnt believe it and they are the torchbearers of Af Somali, this is a very wise saying and only someone whose married can understand it. The ancients and elders have alot to teach us. Maybe @Inquisitive_ has heard it from the ladies there hhahah.
     
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  5. sophisticate

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    I wasn't speaking to Somali women's resistance or acceptance of traditional roles. More so the idea that if you overextend yourself and over deliver, your kind geatures will eventually be taken for granted by the other party (in friendships, courting and marriage). Such is life.
     
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  6. Factz

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    I don't meet up with a woman and say I want this and that in our first conversation. :icon lol:

    You have relax and take it slow which some guys sadly lack patience. You have to please her and make her fall in love with you then you slowly tell her what you want and she'll accept it since she'll have this feeling that she wants to do anything for you because she's really in love with you.

    The things I listed are basic traditional roles.
     
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  7. saredochani10

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    So it's a trap. Y u so evil ?

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  8. Factz

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    Do you have any better idea, walaal? I can't overexert my relationship goals to her as @sophisticate said so I have to take a sensible approach and come up with an understanding with her.

    For example, she might tell me she prefers me to be a man who is traditional and knows his role. She may want me to take her to different countries she dreams to visit. She wants me to be kind to her, show her unconditional love and buy her gifts. She could want many things and I would happily accept her quest. Thats when it's appropriate for me to ask her my favours and she'll be happy with it because she's got what she dreams.
     
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  9. Mahacagalla

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    If your guy is clingy this is gonna send him over the deep end.
     
  10. sophisticate

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    That's insidious. You need to be upfront regarding demands. Those are some Sun Tzu tactics.
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  11. saredochani10

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    Tbh you seem like a decent and fair person. Good luck with your girl !
     
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  12. TheSayid

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    i think this is something more likely to work on women especially the last one.
     
  13. Factz

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    Tbh, it's a bad idea if you are up front with your demands. You have to get to know the person first. There are territories you have to mark before you take the next level.
     
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  14. SilverL

    SilverL Unprofessional Therapist

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    You keep him in a house or a grave. As per the somali naah naah “Rag waxaa lugu qabaa god ama guri”
     
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  15. sophisticate

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    Honesty is good. :farmajoyaab: Using the slow burn approach seems mischevious. Seems like plotting.

    Then again, what do I know about courtship outside of banter and reading novellas.
     
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  16. Factz

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    Honestly, it's far from plotting because you don't start off in the first conversation about your demands and not every date means marriage. To start a discussion about marriage, there must be a connection and knowledge about each other from between both parties. That is at least how I see it.
     
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  17. Gibiin-Udug

    Gibiin-Udug Boqoradda Dal-udug Staff Member Moderator

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    That's too much sis.

    Just feed him and make him sweat couple of times a week, he will follow you around like a puppy.
     
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  18. Happy_

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    Agree! I‘d be creeped out if a guy told me all he wants from me without us having any sort of a connection. :susp: First I have to like him to accept anything he wants. Hadii kale waa useless. I‘d run for the hills. Warra factz aqli baad leedaha :salute:
     
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  19. Happy_

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    Noted! Thanks Knowles!
     
  20. Southerner

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    This would make him more likely to find a second wife now that he has tamed the first
     
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