how to go about second wife without burning bridges with the first one
- Thread starter Oday-yar
- Start date
Why are you looking for a second wife ?
Do you have the financial means to take care of two families ?
Do you have the financial means to take care of two families ?
I wouldn't do it one wife is already for me
I don't know your financial status.
But the majority of Faraxs in the West, even the educated ones are struggling to pay for everything as the cost of living is ridiculously high. If you're one of those Abdis, which makes up 98% of Somali men, then just know you're selfish. That little bit of money can go towards your wife and kids. Even more disgusting is when you're getting your wife to pay for stuff as well, just so you can use her whilst you pay another woman.
If you don't fit into that category and you provide everything and you have enough money for both, then have an honest discussion with her. If you notice that she is willing to leave, then the ball is in your court. You either love her enough to abandon your plans, or you call it a day and proceed with your quest for another woman. At the end of the day, if you hide it she's still going to find out as Somalis talk. You're just going to make it 10x worse as she's going to feel betrayed and your kids are going to feel resentful. If you're honest from the get go, you might have a chance of slowly convincing her.
But the majority of Faraxs in the West, even the educated ones are struggling to pay for everything as the cost of living is ridiculously high. If you're one of those Abdis, which makes up 98% of Somali men, then just know you're selfish. That little bit of money can go towards your wife and kids. Even more disgusting is when you're getting your wife to pay for stuff as well, just so you can use her whilst you pay another woman.
If you don't fit into that category and you provide everything and you have enough money for both, then have an honest discussion with her. If you notice that she is willing to leave, then the ball is in your court. You either love her enough to abandon your plans, or you call it a day and proceed with your quest for another woman. At the end of the day, if you hide it she's still going to find out as Somalis talk. You're just going to make it 10x worse as she's going to feel betrayed and your kids are going to feel resentful. If you're honest from the get go, you might have a chance of slowly convincing her.
Bundasliga
VIP
Get 1 wife first before you even think about a second one .
You don't have permission to view the spoiler content.
Log in or register now.
Yes sister I do have money alhamdulilah.
The reason is to have more children.
However, I don't want my children to harbor cuqdad for each other because they are from different bahs. I have seen that happen in my own family, so that is one major reason why I haven't done it so far.
she already sort of knows because I told her when we were getting married that i'd one day marry more women if I could. With that said, there's a difference between knowing and seeing it happen. I know women don't like this but there's got to be a way to do it while not ending one family in the hope of building another. It doesn't make sense.
bro don't start it. I am really looking for advice from the women here.I am not gaal.
Cheating is wrong my man
For more children? That is selfish and so outdated. Allah ilmo kheyr leh baa laga barya not too many kids with resentful/jealous mothers. You have already seen how having different bahs effects children so you should know better. Also in Islam you have to consult with your first, marrying behind her back is basically cheating and hurtful.Yes sister I do have money alhamdulilah.
The reason is to have more children.
Horta if Islam allowed would you be ok if your wife married another man with you ?
Djokovic
Somali Arab
This guy tryna lie to his wife he might as well cheat
I'm not married yet but ok whatever u say
TekNiKo
Loyal To The One True Caliph (Hafidahullah)
Be a man and put your foot down, I am gonna marry this second wife if you want a divorce go ahead or if you wanna stay I am gonna marry her regardless. She will cave in and decide to let it go lest she become divorcee the worst fear of many ladies.
Xoxoxo
VIP
Divorcee isn’t really a fear tbh
Abdisamad
VIP
She just extinguished every last hope of us ever getting 4 wives
You don't have permission to view the spoiler content.
Log in or register now.
Most women fear polygamy more than divorce. With the way a lot of guys practice polygamy and your attitude being an example, a divorcee is in a much better position, both mentally and emotionally. You're in Somalia at the moment, so things are probably different and men can due to finance probably get away with manipulating and emotionally abusing their wives.
Pimp play book
