U described How I feel inside somewhat, except I aint OCD like that or hypercontroling
You'll wanna meet @Hussein0982 then
I did an Islamic theology course right after secondary school which I finished recently so I'm going to be graduating education later than I'm ment to since I'll be starting uni next year but I feel like due to my course I'm ready to get married as it's a lot more intensive in work and time than my uni timetable so I will be able to balance life with my wife and uni rather easily.
Walal 9 years is a very long time. Are you 15? Plenty of people get married in their early 20s. The pen has been lifted so if its meant to happen don’t push it off. If you cant lower your gaze and are struggling badly it becomes wajib. Plus better to get married young then develop a p*rn addiction and ED or get tempted to commit zina.
Islamically there is nothing wrong with divorce. It’s better to be divorced than to have X number of sexual partners/relationships. As long as you are financially capable to support a wife and/or children then go ahead. Some people enter the trades right away and have stable jobs at 22. Of course who you are at 22 is going to be very different from who you are at 28. But if you’ve found your person, and you could provide for them then why not go ahead?
I don't care for sex and also I am not an incel
the thhing is I willl be working aswell as studying in uni aswell
Well, I never said you was an incel, you told everyone you was afraid to implode from the pressure buildup, I recommended you to get married but then you said you don't have time money or energy for a marriage.. So this was a solution that'll make you blow out some pressure within your current situation.
Im not those people, most of those ppl do not have well to do jobs or alot of work to do or high aspirations, once u get married u basically cut off any future endeavours u are going to do except maybe progressing in ur job and thas it unless u want to be an absent husband
I understand but thats disgusting weird and xaram and also I will never stoop that low.
that doesn't work saaxob this stuff turns men into addicted to fake women and makes them even more thirsty
What do you mean taking care of family members?
Basically I will have to live with or close to certain family members and help them out if they need help so it will be even more expensive for me plus I'm gonna be doing alot of running around all the time and I don't want my wife to be involved in that bc they deserve freedom
You’re very young. Since you’re not actively doing all those things right now, how can you accurately tell how much time it will actually be?
I have gone through periods this year of studying and working where I barely have any time and I have a good idea of how much time it takes to achieve the level in Life I want so it will 100% hinder my ability to concentrate on anything else, let alone if I have any kids I won't have time to spend with them
Yh, it isnt necessarily taking all the time but I need to live in same accommodation or one that is close and run errands and do stuff for them which takes alot of time and energy marriage will only make that more difficult
What level at you trying to reach? People become the top in their fields and still make time for families if that’s a priority of theirs. It’s all a juggling act too. We all have the same 24 hours in a day. It’s just we utilize it differently but it can be done.
I understand. People get married and stay near family to support them sometimes. It’s not a new phenomenon. If you really ever desire a xalaal marriage, just be upfront about your responsibilities. Most people would understand the responsibility of taking care of parents. If not, keep it moving until you find one that can handle your lifestyle.
