Its just conjecture but maybe he poured himself so deeply (like young boys do) into that situation only to be burned. He hasn't fully healed. Because if he did he would be apathetic/neutral about her life circumstances. He also keeps women emotionally at arms length. It could be a self-protection mechanism. And he masks his pain with innuendo.
Well, making reservations at an ex’s job so you can stunt on them isn’t exactly a sign of being over it, but it may still help him get over it.
You’d be surprised the vast and endless ground of what can represent closure.
Some guys never reach neutral.
I hope that’s not the case.
You know, he didn’t used to be like this, either? The whole Abubakr Al-Amriki, Quran teacher on the side, admirer of oven mitts thing he has going right now? Minus his qabil streak, which was always there, he used to appear a lot more centered than he is.
@VixR - you've affixed a halo to his head, soo maha. Is he not of this world?
Sometimes when we say they were exceptional beyond measure it's any combination of the following:
1) Dearly departed one (Widowers curse of no one matches them).
2) Truly unparalleled and it's cumbersome finding that unique blend of attributes in someone else ( or so you believe).
3) He was right for you at that time but would have caused friction in your family (due to some obstacle). And you prize your familial relationship(s) over a dude.
It happens, you know. Sometimes everything’s just right. Sometimes it happens more than once. I think a lot of women just go for any old thing, and they’re surprised when they find themselves disgusted with what they, the cat, dragged in. You should serve yourself in what you pick, bc they really do have a tendency to not look beyond themselves, so they tend to get more of it. Women always try to better and help them, but I noticed they don’t introspect or initiate the value they’re bringing to you, hence you have to pay attention to whether you’re getting any value out of it, or you’ll never be happy. You don’t strike me as undiscerning, but you might just be a bit too cynical, or maybe even over-discerning?
Why you always come for everyone here don’t group us all into one. 
