Haha, Doesn't matter how many women I get, doesn't change the fact you get 0 women.
what man believes texting other women will make his women like him more. lord you guys need to get off the net, keyboard warriors
Help this Somali sister out
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what man believes texting other women will make his women like him more. lord you guys need to get off the net, keyboard warriors
she never sed no time she just said she wants less time with him, like certain ppl like to be alone when going gym cooking etc.. also some ppl have good friendships, plus she mentioned she spends time with her husband then her friends but he complains that he wants all the time to himself
Audrey Hepburn
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These people seem to have attachment issues. No use arguing. If your not all up in your partner's face 24/7, something must be wrong. /s
I noticed that its often anxious and avoidants that pair up a lot of the time. Even when the securely attached are reasonable and give the avoidant plenty of time and space to think and recharge, avoidants can make it seem as though they are being overly demanding. I don't think she's securely attached because she would have been able to express her feelings more clearly and show that her desire for alone time does not reflect negatively on him but rather is her way of recharging so she can give more to the relationship. A relationship consists of three components: two individuals and one unit. All three need time to be fostered. Your spouse cannot fulfill all of your social needs, and if they tried to be everything to you, they would fall short of your expectations. Another issue is that Western culture devalues friendship in favour of romantic relationships, and it appears that this guy is following that script.
Considering they have only been married a year that's still early. The honeymoon phase lasts two years. And he may eventually go back to acting caadi with time. It's hard to tell and we also only have her side of the story.
empressjamila
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Sure but if you want to spend every activity alone that’s weird imo. You don’t enjoy your spouse’s company?
Anyway she can go ahead and see- when her friends get married, they’ll spend most of their weekends with their husbands and start canceling invites. Bc if you don’t know how to prioritize your spouse your marriage is gonna fail.
I love how you talk so much about relationships when you have never been in one your entire life
also the honeymoon stage varies, for me it lasts about 1-2 weeks
I like to do everything alone, even when I do stuff with friends I don't talk much, I am quiet and don't like socialising much.
thats true but if you don't have kids you should still meet up and have a good relationship with friends.
Kkk keyboard warrior wlahi I will whoop your ass dont play w me
I read avidly and love to explore the opinions of others.
I have been in relationships. In fact, all humans have been and will be engaged in the process of relating from cradle to grave.
What trains you to have a healthy romantic relationship? Your home of origin. How your parents responded to you and related to you especially in your early years.
If not, other positive examples/role models for these types of relationships. If not that, self-actualization I'd hope.
I have been in relationships. In fact, all humans have been and will be engaged in the process of relating from cradle to grave.
What trains you to have a healthy romantic relationship? Your home of origin. How your parents responded to you and related to you especially in your early years.
If not, other positive examples/role models for these types of relationships. If not that, self-actualization I'd hope.
I love how you deflected what I said, 1.The topic was on romantic relationships not normal relationships, which is very different to any other relationshipI read avidly and love to explore the opinions of others.
I have been in relationships. In fact, all humans have been and will be engaged in the process of relating from cradle to grave.
What trains you to have a healthy romantic relationship? Your home of origin. How your parents responded to you and related to you especially in your early years.
If not, other positive examples/role models for these types of relationships. If not that, self-actualization I'd hope.
2.Reading books doesn't mean you understand relationships
Sure you may say things that are correct, but they will be misplaced, their is nuance in everything.
You commenting on relationships from all the books you have read is like me giving someone advice on how to heart surgery because of all the medical books I have read
knowing from books and from experience are 2 different things
A woman who doesn't like her husband helping out in the kitchen, yeah..
Especially the working out without him. Any intelligent being can see why she wouldn’t want him there.
She might like doing things a certain way or not be that familiar in the kitchen herself so she’s anxious about it.A woman who doesn't like her husband helping out in the kitchen, yeah..
She wants to be alone when she is going to the gym and on the weekend. Something is truly odd about this girl.
I feel sorry for the guy. He needs to pick up the signs and call it quits. It doesn't look like a marriage that is going to last.
I wasn't deflecting since non-romantic relationships are a factor that can contribute to competency in romantic relationships. As for books they are tools for enjoyment, information and can provide perspective. Its up to the reader if they wish to translate what they have learned into practice. I also didn't claim to be an authority on relationships just taking a synthesis of what I have read over the years from experts. Are you an old member with a facelift? Since you joined June 18, 2023. That's the pressing question.
I feel sorry for him (marriage contract) not him spending money energy attention and time on her
I agree he shouldn't be clingy he should also focus on himself maybe he don't trust her if he did he would give her space
he getting the worse version of herself when she comes home from work, gym and friends like she gives them all her battery only for husband to charge it back up.
ladies if you think like this lady be honest with the guy say no to the proposal and wait for the guy you like but don't kill a man hope of finding the one karma knows your address and a lot women have been visited
Don't lose yourself for someone that wont lose themselves for you
I agree he shouldn't be clingy he should also focus on himself maybe he don't trust her if he did he would give her space
he getting the worse version of herself when she comes home from work, gym and friends like she gives them all her battery only for husband to charge it back up.
ladies if you think like this lady be honest with the guy say no to the proposal and wait for the guy you like but don't kill a man hope of finding the one karma knows your address and a lot women have been visited
Don't lose yourself for someone that wont lose themselves for you
Odious Delirium
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If it was a female only gym she was going to fair enough the guy would be weird for making her go to a mixed one because he wanted to workout with her but her wanting to workout alone like she won't be doing that regardless in a mixed gym is sus.
and since gym workouts aren't exactly teamwork based it just means she doesn't wanna be around this guy much or just isn't into him like that.
I Feel sorry for the guy but he is doing too much in certain areas making some of her points valid.
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Great comment. I think her concerns are reasonable so she shouldn’t be attacked per say, but at the same time she does come across as avoidant. She’s a newly wed and it’s normal for couples to be kinda obsessed with each other in the beginning. After a while, things kinda cool off as both parties get used to each other.
Also, a lot of Somalis aren’t used to seeing loving relationships and might become uncomfortable seeing that. She might have grown up seeing mum and dad both in separate worlds but living under the same roof.
In saying that, she should be grateful that she has a loving spouse that wants to be with her.
Leila
Wanaag iyo Dhiig kar
A lot of people seem to think that marriage is like a 24/7 honeymoon where a couple can’t get enough of each other. The issue is not that the guy wants to spend time with his wife , the problem is that he gave up all of his friends and his hobbies and she probably feels suffocated. Too much of anything is not good and it’s healthy to have space and time apart like the saying goes ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’.
