Future mother in law from hell

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  1. Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa

    Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa Run and I’ll catch you and eat you alive

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    I have to admit it but you’re right Soul, are you married yourself?
    I don’t think he’s a bad person, I really do like him, but the thought of having to be around his mother is uncomfortable, inshallah I’ll see if she’s willing to change in the slightest way, I doubt it but wish me luck
     
  2. Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa

    Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa Run and I’ll catch you and eat you alive

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    Eedo what if she dies from the stress I’ve caused? :nahgirl:
     
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  3. Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa

    Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa Run and I’ll catch you and eat you alive

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    You lot have too much free time :faysalwtf:
    She’d call her pack of shaydaans to attack me if I even try that
     
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  4. Jaydaan

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    ok so do I....we neighbours lol
     
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  5. Mehmet

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    I guess you going to have to find an over bearing guy without that issue
     
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  6. Mehmet

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    Heaven is under the mother's feet is why and not the wife's so mom wins no matter what
     
  7. Vanessa

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    @Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa that’s sticky one still. Good luck.

    I believe @Gibiin-Udug’s advice, option #2 will work. That future mil deserves a karma.
     
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  8. Halimo-2018

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    Sorry if your mom is evil you have. To be fair to your wife. Otherwise marry your mom instead.
     
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  9. Mercury

    Mercury Staff Member Moderator

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    thank you! I wish you the best
     
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  10. Mercury

    Mercury Staff Member Moderator

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    That's true but that doesn't mean the mom can be mean and insult the wife
     
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  11. Samaalic Era

    Samaalic Era

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    Respecting your elders is an Islamic principle. You do not respond to your spouse's parents. It goes both ways,including the husband overlooking what her parents might say about him
     
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  12. IstarZ

    IstarZ Be a mountain or lean on one

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    He needs to deal with her, it’s not your job. You just sit tight and keep your smart mouth zipped. You will only cause more problems if you speak to her. Let him set the boundaries and if he wants a good marriage, he will step up and smooth things over.
     
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  13. Mercury

    Mercury Staff Member Moderator

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    the problem here isn't the mother in law it's the guy that needs to handle this
     
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  14. Mercury

    Mercury Staff Member Moderator

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    it's true you got to respect elders however if that person happens to be the mother in law than the husband needs to deal with that and make sure she doesn't cause friction in the marriage
     
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  15. Mercury

    Mercury Staff Member Moderator

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    We all love our mother's but if you're not man enough to side with your spouse when your mother is wrong or overstepping her rights there's gonna be frustration in the marriage and in the end the couple will go through divorce
     
  16. Samaalic Era

    Samaalic Era

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    You handle the situation without siding with your wife.
    Siding with your wife against your mother is xaram
     
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  17. IstarZ

    IstarZ Be a mountain or lean on one

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    That’s BS. Your mother has rights so does your spouse. You side with the haqq regardless of whose side that is.
     
  18. Samaalic Era

    Samaalic Era

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    @IstarZ
    Most Somali women have something against their mother in law and 8/10 times are the cause for tension. The wife has to respect her husband's family and the husband has respect her family. If my mother in law acted up(which has never happened alx) , I would ignore it and carry on except if it is serious
     
  19. IstarZ

    IstarZ Be a mountain or lean on one

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    Haye, but where does it say it’s haram to side with your wife against your mother?

    You cannot ignore things and it’s best to deal with it before it gets serious. That’s why I said he needs to step up now. There are some nasty MILs and they need to be put in their place, preferably by their precious sons because Lord knows they won’t listen to anyone else.
     
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  20. Samaalic Era

    Samaalic Era

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    Only on a serious matter. However you have to learn not to go tit for tat. That kind of marriage is heading to collapse.
     
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