Future mother in law from hell

[Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa]

Sis if I were you I wouldn't marry him, his mother will make your life a living hell. Do you want that? Be patient and wait.

I have to admit it but you’re right Soul, are you married yourself?

It comes down to how much do you love him? From the sounds of it, you really do. Have a talk with your fiancée, and discuss things like boundaries etc. Your man needs to set firm boundaries with his mom. It will be an uphill battle but if it’s something that you’re willing to go through, then so be it. Best case scenario is that she will come around iA. And keep it cute with her, let your fiancée handle his mother.

I don’t think he’s a bad person, I really do like him, but the thought of having to be around his mother is uncomfortable, inshallah I’ll see if she’s willing to change in the slightest way, I doubt it but wish me luck

 

[Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa]

The mother is not a problem for me. My problem is with the guy. A product of such a mother can never give me babies. I would hate to contaminate my sinnjii on that trash.


Listen to your mother if you want peace *& happiness.


but play around with the future mother in law for now. Mentally fcku her up. I love that stuff loool

Eedo what if she dies from the stress I’ve caused?

 

[Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa]

You can do two things here, ignore her and tell him that his mother is creating friction in your relationship OR you can call your female relatives, tell them that this random woman is bothering you and talking shit about the family. File your nails while the mother in law gets the biggest beat down in her life, after they knock her out, put on fake bruises and lay on the ground, pretend those women were random women and they also knocked you out while you were trying to help. Either she starts appreciating you or if she's smart, she will sense it was a set up, then repeat step two until the mother in law runs to Somalia..


Good luck.

You lot have too much free time
She’d call her pack of shaydaans to attack me if I even try that

 

[Jaydaan]

Nechells I live in Edgbaston!

ok so do I....we neighbours lol

 

[Mehmet]

I’ve known this Somali guy for a long time but started talking to him seriously the past couple of months and he is perfect in every way.
he is handsome, smart and has a good personality. I grew up around this Farax, people love him and even men are jealous of him
His biggest flaw is... His mum from hell. This woman is so evil. His mum is the reason the last girl he was dating was so depressed and broke off getting married
She would always tell her son lies about what his girlfriend was up to or straight up insult the girl
And he has never questioned his mum,
The other day I was in their house and she said to me these words while he was doing something else “you’re not on the same standards as my son, he won’t marry you” I was so shocked I even told him and he said I probably misunderstood it or she didn’t really mean it
I respect Somali elders, so I didn’t say anything back but I gave myself an imaginary simulation of me punching her in the stomach

I told my mum about us possibly getting married and she said she’d stop talking to me if I married into that family
I’m more confused than @SOULSEARCHING

I guess you going to have to find an over bearing guy without that issue

 

[Mehmet]

Mother in laws can ruin your life. Most men will choose their mom over you even if they know shes evil. Takes a rare guy to work that. Choose wisely honey.

Heaven is under the mother's feet is why and not the wife's so mom wins no matter what

 

[Vanessa]

@Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa that’s sticky one still. Good luck.

I believe @Gibiin-Udug’s advice, option #2 will work. That future mil deserves a karma.

 

[Halimo-2018]

Heaven is under the mother's feet is why and not the wife's so mom wins no matter what

Sorry if your mom is evil you have. To be fair to your wife. Otherwise marry your mom instead.

 

[Mercury]

I wish you a blessed marriage inshallah, your advice is one of the best here

thank you! I wish you the best

 

[Mercury]

Heaven is under the mother's feet is why and not the wife's so mom wins no matter what

That's true but that doesn't mean the mom can be mean and insult the wife

 

[Samaalic Era]

That's true but that doesn't mean the mom can be mean and insult the wife

Respecting your elders is an Islamic principle. You do not respond to your spouse's parents. It goes both ways,including the husband overlooking what her parents might say about him

 

[IstarZ]

He needs to deal with her, it’s not your job. You just sit tight and keep your smart mouth zipped. You will only cause more problems if you speak to her. Let him set the boundaries and if he wants a good marriage, he will step up and smooth things over.

 

[Mercury]

I’ll bite. The decision to go through with the marriage is up to her, but to completely break up with a man that you’re compatible with just because of his overbearing mother is dumb. Is she gonna live with them? No. So as a man, he needs to step up and deal with both his mom and his wife. He’s not choosing one over another. It’s clear the guys mom doesn’t wanna see him married at all for many reasons. The man and woman are both Somali and from the same tribe so I’m confused as to why there’s even tension.

the problem here isn't the mother in law it's the guy that needs to handle this

 

[Mercury]

Respecting your elders is an Islamic principle. You do not respond to your spouse's parents. It goes both ways,including the husband overlooking what her parents might say about him

it's true you got to respect elders however if that person happens to be the mother in law than the husband needs to deal with that and make sure she doesn't cause friction in the marriage

 

[Mercury]

We all love our mother's but if you're not man enough to side with your spouse when your mother is wrong or overstepping her rights there's gonna be frustration in the marriage and in the end the couple will go through divorce

 

[Samaalic Era]

We all love our mother's but if you're not man enough to side with your spouse when your mother is wrong or overstepping her rights there's gonna be frustration in the marriage and in the end the couple will go through divorce

You handle the situation without siding with your wife.
Siding with your wife against your mother is xaram

 

[IstarZ]

You handle the situation without siding without with your wife.
Siding with your wife against your mother is xaram

That’s BS. Your mother has rights so does your spouse. You side with the haqq regardless of whose side that is.

 

[Samaalic Era]

@IstarZ
Most Somali women have something against their mother in law and 8/10 times are the cause for tension. The wife has to respect her husband's family and the husband has respect her family. If my mother in law acted up(which has never happened alx) , I would ignore it and carry on except if it is serious

 

[IstarZ]

@IstarZ
Most Somali women have something against their mother in law and 8/10 times are the cause for tension. The wife has to respect her husband's family and the husband has respect her family. If my mother in law acted up(which has never happened alx) , I would ignore it and carry on except if it is serious

Haye, but where does it say it’s haram to side with your wife against your mother?

You cannot ignore things and it’s best to deal with it before it gets serious. That’s why I said he needs to step up now. There are some nasty MILs and they need to be put in their place, preferably by their precious sons because Lord knows they won’t listen to anyone else.

 

[Samaalic Era]

Haye, but where does it say it’s haram to side with your wife against your mother?

You cannot ignore things and it’s best to deal with it before it gets serious. That’s why I said he needs to step up now. There are some nasty MILs and they need to be put in their place, preferably by their precious sons because Lord knows they won’t listen to anyone else.

Only on a serious matter. However you have to learn not to go tit for tat. That kind of marriage is heading to collapse.