Future mother in law from hell

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  1. Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa

    Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa Run and I’ll catch you and eat you alive

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    You could’ve said it perfectly well like this than mentioning that qashin Freud, thank you my friend
     
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  2. jamal9

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    feed his mother high calorie and cholesterol food so she can have a high blood pressure. after that she will have a heart attack and die off leaving the 2 of to enjoy life.
     
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  3. Jaydaan

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    You should care about her feelings. You don't want to marry, have a kid and be divorced and you will be stuck with her forever. You may be in love, but it will be the reason you will hate him later. No one respect a weak man who can't stand up for her. We don't want @R.Kelly creating a thread you and his mum trading blows in bullring loool
     
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  4. Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa

    Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa Run and I’ll catch you and eat you alive

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    Don’t curse me @R.Kelly will only see the best of me inshallah, you should be one of those marriage counsellors along with @Knowles
    You guys would be those cute couple that work together
     
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  5. Jaydaan

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    I seen first hand the horror of marrying into a bad family with a close friend who had to go to court just to see his kids. The mother helping the daughter to hide the kids and lie for her. And only when the social got involved and advised my friend go to court and they will argue on his behalf for full custody they changed tune. So be really careful. This is a decision that could effect rest of your life. Do you really wanna play games with a mother in law and is he gonna stand up for you. Btw please don't tell me you live in nechells:browtf:
     
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  6. PhySom

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    That girl was probably a hoe and his mum caught a whiff.
    :chrisfreshhah:

    You have nothing to be afraid of as long as you have been a pious xaalimo.
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  7. SOULSEARCHING

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    Sis if I were you I wouldn't marry him, his mother will make your life a living hell. Do you want that? Be patient and wait.
     
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  8. Cam

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    She is a narcissist. She does not want to see her son move on and create a new life. Stay far away. These people do not change and will make your life hell.
     
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  9. Desert Flower

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    It comes down to how much do you love him? From the sounds of it, you really do. Have a talk with your fiancée, and discuss things like boundaries etc. Your man needs to set firm boundaries with his mom. It will be an uphill battle but if it’s something that you’re willing to go through, then so be it. Best case scenario is that she will come around iA. And keep it cute with her, let your fiancée handle his mother.
     
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  10. Basra

    Basra Like Donald Trump, I like to be Spanked. VIP

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    The mother is not a problem for me. My problem is with the guy. A product of such a mother can never give me babies. I would hate to contaminate my sinnjii on that trash.


    Listen to your mother if you want peace *& happiness.


    but play around with the future mother in law for now. Mentally fcku her up. I love that stuff loool
     
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  11. Gibiin-Udug

    Gibiin-Udug Boqoradda Dal-udug Staff Member Moderator

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    You can do two things here, ignore her and tell him that his mother is creating friction in your relationship OR you can call your female relatives, tell them that this random woman is bothering you and talking shit about the family. File your nails while the mother in law gets the biggest beat down in her life, after they knock her out, put on fake bruises and lay on the ground, pretend those women were random women and they also knocked you out while you were trying to help. Either she starts appreciating you or if she's smart, she will sense it was a set up, then repeat step two until the mother in law runs to Somalia..


    Good luck.
     
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  12. Halimo-2018

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    Mother in laws can ruin your life. Most men will choose their mom over you even if they know shes evil. Takes a rare guy to work that. Choose wisely honey.
     
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  13. Jaydaan

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    No offence.....but are you a white woman? Depends on how much you love him and love shall defeat everything nonsense lol. A man who has been controlled by his mum all his life until marriage time ain't gonna change or set boundaries. The time for boundaries and healthy relationship are way gone. This mommy boy will remain the same all his life.
     
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  14. Desert Flower

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    I’ll bite. The decision to go through with the marriage is up to her, but to completely break up with a man that you’re compatible with just because of his overbearing mother is dumb. Is she gonna live with them? No. So as a man, he needs to step up and deal with both his mom and his wife. He’s not choosing one over another. It’s clear the guys mom doesn’t wanna see him married at all for many reasons. The man and woman are both Somali and from the same tribe so I’m confused as to why there’s even tension.
     
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  15. Timo Jareer and proud

    Timo Jareer and proud

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    This is a horrible situation, I feel for you @Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa

    His mother has a huge attachment for him, probably because she does not want her other love to leave like her husband. She does not want to see her "little boy" grow up and get married.

    Either try one of these three things.

    1), try talking to the mother about this. Say that her son is a full grown man and by Islam he is allowed to marry you as he is both a man, has financial independence, and is the same clan as you. Meaning that he is not marrying into a "lower clan". Parents can deny for their child to marry someone of lower status to then in Islam, yet you both are of the same clan. She has nothing to dismiss.

    2), try talking to your partner. Try telling him that his mother is far to attached to him and that if he wants to ever become fully independent and live as a adult in this world he needs to tell his mother to back off.

    3), run.
     
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  16. Mercury

    Mercury Staff Member Moderator

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    My mom didn't like the girl I was seeing why?

    because she was from another clan and nobody in our family had ever married that clan so my mum knew nothing of this girl and said she dont believe this is the right girl for me and she was saying really bad stuff about this girl

    I stopped her there and told her if the girls family would say bad stuff about me how would she react? and she said she would get very angry so next time you're thinking of insulting her think about how you would feel if someone was saying bad stuff about me or making up lies so she promised she wouldn't insult her again

    After a few months later I told my mom that I'm gonna marry this girl she was still hesistant due to her clan but I talked her through it and got her blessings

    Now I been married for awhile and my mom treats my wife like her own daughter

    in my opinion this guy you like isn't gonna change his mom is always gonna control him for the rest of his life he needs to stand up for himself otherwise every woman he met his mom is gonna walk over them and treat them badly
     
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  17. Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa

    Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa Run and I’ll catch you and eat you alive

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    Nechells :damn::dead:I live in Edgbaston!
     
  18. Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa

    Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa Run and I’ll catch you and eat you alive

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    I wish you a blessed marriage inshallah, your advice is one of the best here
     
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  19. Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa

    Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa Run and I’ll catch you and eat you alive

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    I like your option 2 Timo Jareer, I thought you couldn’t refuse someone because of their clan that’s wrong
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