Hi everyone,
I need some serious advice, I got to know this muslim girl in the begin of 2017, I thought she was nice and friendly and all and we would sometimes chat using whatsapp, just the casual stuff, how are you how school etc etc.
Now here comes the story shortly after we got acquainted she got to know this muslim guy on a chatroom. They added each other on whatsapp and they got talking she fell for him etc etc.
They met up and he wasn't that into her when he first saw her, so he decided to end it right there. She after hearing this was heartbroken like she knew the guy for 100+ years. The kind of drama and heart-brokenness that should have rang some alarm bells when she came crying too me. But they didn't. I just though it was her white girl behavior. As I have heard many times that Western European women have no pride when its about love(not like us Somali women). So what happened afterward is that she worked her tears and begged him. They got talking again and got married(while he was still not really in to her). The marriage however stranded after 3 months. With him being in love with his previous fiance and him still not being into her. This all happened in a super short time frame of a year.
Now she keeps texting me if I could ask my husband if he could set her up(she has been asking me this before she even got divorced because she knew a divorce was coming up as her ex husband didn't even want to live in the same house or sleep in the same bed during their marriage, so there was no intercourse either). But she has standards which are impossible to meet while she herself isn't all that. She has to have a mixed race husband, muscled body, handsome, certain height, certain posture and of course a proper muslim.
However, that's not all she keeps crying and going on about her ex even though everything ended back in November. Crying saying stuff about no longer living on etc. I have given her all the advice I could many many times. However I can no longer handle this behavior. She text me in the middle of the night or during working hours about how she misses his smile and shit like that. While he did nothing but treat her like dirt for 3 months. I have noticed her negativeness is impacting my health. As I am a person who is too emotionally involved in others be it in their happiness or their misery. Every time my phone makes a noise, I hope its not her, and my stomach hurts (like from the stress). I have told her that I can't physically and mentally handle this nagging many many times.
But she keeps going on being what I would describe a black hole where all happiness gets sucked inside. I feel like cutting her off would do me great good because she has been nothing but a pain, however at the same time I find it hard to cut her off, because many people have abandoned her. How do I tell her loud and clear to stfu.
Keep in mind her ex-husband has told her thousands of times that marrying her was not the right decision when his heart was somewhere else. But if you ask her why he left, she would say that she has no idea.
btw when she texts me its like a auto replay. It's the same thing same topic every time almost everyday.
I need some serious advice, I got to know this muslim girl in the begin of 2017, I thought she was nice and friendly and all and we would sometimes chat using whatsapp, just the casual stuff, how are you how school etc etc.
Now here comes the story shortly after we got acquainted she got to know this muslim guy on a chatroom. They added each other on whatsapp and they got talking she fell for him etc etc.
They met up and he wasn't that into her when he first saw her, so he decided to end it right there. She after hearing this was heartbroken like she knew the guy for 100+ years. The kind of drama and heart-brokenness that should have rang some alarm bells when she came crying too me. But they didn't. I just though it was her white girl behavior. As I have heard many times that Western European women have no pride when its about love(not like us Somali women). So what happened afterward is that she worked her tears and begged him. They got talking again and got married(while he was still not really in to her). The marriage however stranded after 3 months. With him being in love with his previous fiance and him still not being into her. This all happened in a super short time frame of a year.
Now she keeps texting me if I could ask my husband if he could set her up(she has been asking me this before she even got divorced because she knew a divorce was coming up as her ex husband didn't even want to live in the same house or sleep in the same bed during their marriage, so there was no intercourse either). But she has standards which are impossible to meet while she herself isn't all that. She has to have a mixed race husband, muscled body, handsome, certain height, certain posture and of course a proper muslim.
However, that's not all she keeps crying and going on about her ex even though everything ended back in November. Crying saying stuff about no longer living on etc. I have given her all the advice I could many many times. However I can no longer handle this behavior. She text me in the middle of the night or during working hours about how she misses his smile and shit like that. While he did nothing but treat her like dirt for 3 months. I have noticed her negativeness is impacting my health. As I am a person who is too emotionally involved in others be it in their happiness or their misery. Every time my phone makes a noise, I hope its not her, and my stomach hurts (like from the stress). I have told her that I can't physically and mentally handle this nagging many many times.
But she keeps going on being what I would describe a black hole where all happiness gets sucked inside. I feel like cutting her off would do me great good because she has been nothing but a pain, however at the same time I find it hard to cut her off, because many people have abandoned her. How do I tell her loud and clear to stfu.
Keep in mind her ex-husband has told her thousands of times that marrying her was not the right decision when his heart was somewhere else. But if you ask her why he left, she would say that she has no idea.
btw when she texts me its like a auto replay. It's the same thing same topic every time almost everyday.