I do agree people take this free mixing thing too far in other cultures.@bidenkulaha
To add to your last point:
Traditionally , Somalis have the most healthiest gender relations in the Muslim world. Things obviously have gone down hill due to the war and disgusting ideologies that some men have become exposed to.
The reason why I say Somali culture is the best when it comes to gender relations is because we behave in moderation. We don't really freemix and we make sure we have hayaa when around the opp gender. But at the same time people are able to talk normally with the opp gender without people misbehaving and speculating the worst.Back home, saying salam to your male neighbor or colleague wouldn't make anyone bat an eyelid. A traditional and normal well adjusted Somali man isn't going to behave like women are extraterrestrial aliens.
In traditional Arab culture, you can't even acknowledge your male cousins in public. It is seen as ceeb. Also, In Somali culture, people getting to know each other for marriage is normal, amongst Arabs that is seen as a taboo. The only thing missing with Somalis are consequences and fear of the state. There is no safety for anyone, let alone women and children who are obviously weaker.
This would make no sense when u read the seerah, of how the sahaba acted around women, the women would walk around and men would on the street, women would walk on one side of the street men on the other, but the women were not barred off from society. The women still came up to the prophetﷺ all the time to ask questions, sometimes in front of all the men, even a women proposed to the prophet ﷺin front of him, the sahaba would talk about educational matter with the prophet ﷺs wives behind a curtain, the sahaba would say salaam to elderly women, the salaf would send letters to their female teachers and sometimes give gifts, the prophet ﷺ gave gifts to khadija RAs friends, the wives of the prophet ﷺ also would go on hajj, and the male sahabas would guard them.
The Arabs became too extreme in their freemixing rules, I do not know if it is like the khawaarij and how they became extreme in their deen bc they thought it was piety or because they thought they couldnt control themselves around woman, I do not know what it is but it is very extreme.