Do you know any Somalis that has a step father that isnt Somali?

[Doctorabdi]

Imagine some Somali kid calling a his White Step-dad, who stepped up, "Abo".

I'm sorry, that's just revolting.

In Islam, you can't call you're step father "abo". It isn't in our deen or culture to do so, but that doesn't mean they can't be a father figure to you. For example the prophet pbuh was raised by a habesha woman called "Umm ayman". The prophet pbuh called her "his second mother", and loved her very much. They were family

 

[LacagChaser]

Yes, one of my friends has an Arab step father, he doesn’t call him abo or anything like that. Just a cordial relationship not Father/son. He will always be the son of his Somali father

 

[Doctorabdi]

Yes, one of my friends has an Arab step father, he doesn’t call him abo or anything like that. Just a cordial relationship not Father/son.

I imagine it's a bit like a uncle, like how we call those who are close friends to our family abti or habaryar

 

[Doctorabdi]

She is vile and selfish for remarrying a non Somali man.

It's none of your business, I find it very weird you care about women who aren't even you're family.

 

[Sigmundd]

Yes, one of my friends has an Arab step father, he doesn’t call him abo or anything like that. Just a cordial relationship not Father/son. He will always be the son of his Somali father

ok this is more appropriate, was the step father there when he was very young?

 

[LacagChaser]

ok this is more appropriate, was the step father there when he was very young?

8-10 around there.

 

[Kisame]

I've only seen this on TikTok like twice. One lady was a fob and the other was some older millennial diasporan xalimo.

A lot of men willing to become step dads don't want to become step fathers to kids that don't come from the same race/ethnicity as them. So it's sort of rare to see this irl.

One of my old coworkers did this and told me about the weird looks he use to get lool. He's a Mexican dude with a black step child.

I'll say this though when it comes to women with kids. If your good looking and have only like 1 kid. You'd still be considered a decent prospect for single men that want kids. Single Men that want a family tend to respect single moms that can take care of their kids.

 

[Abu Hesi]

Never heard of it, my grandmother never officially got divorced, she just left him, he had 3 other wives(yes he was a sheikh), she just took care of her children and her business.

I have seen women marrying their dead husband's brother, not sure how common it is now, but seen it with the older generation.

I know a friend who married(dumaal) his brothers wife, this happened right here in the West.

 

[Kisame]

Don't blame the children tho. And what do you expect the mother to do be single for the rest of her life.

most tend to remain single or end up with step fathers that share the same race/ethnicity as their kids.

Honestly a lot of step parents already only "tolerate" their step children. They aren't known for loving or respecting them. A lot of step children don't respect their step parents. It's a mutual thing between them tbh. I'd say this relationship would even be worse with a non black/Somali step parent.

Step children tend to get abused way often as well.

 

[FortniteLover]

Don't blame the children tho. And what do you expect the mother to do be single for the rest of her life.

For me personally a step dad that is at least somali would be maybe a bit dealble but still hard. But a non somali is crazy. Idk why but stepfather in itself feels emasculating but further him being ajnabi thats too much. Would have to castrate myself I can't go around with my chin held high knowing my mums getting pounded by a guy that I didn't even come from

 

[Sigmundd]

For me personally a step dad that is at least somali would be maybe a bit dealble but still hard. But a non somali is crazy. Idk why but stepfather in itself feels emasculating but further him being ajnabi thats too much. Would have to castrate myself I can't go around with my chin held high knowing my mums getting pounded by a guy that I didn't even come from

I can't lie you actually kill me but I understand your concerns is too foreign to us the concept of a step dad even if he's Somali and I can understand why your even more concerned if he's ajanabi. But I know a somali boy who was raised by a mixed man who treated him really well and respects him highly. I honestly love those type of step dads who actually raises a child better than the actual father even though is not his biological son. It shows his characteristics.

 

[FortniteLover]

But I know a somali boy who was raised by a mixed Caribbean man who treated him really well and respects him highly.

Like ik I'm talking from a kind of high horse but if he's able to live with himself so be it. I still think he's a bit homo tho. But someone like him would never be able to disrespect or like have chat for anyone else. I guess he's now more humbled so maybe he could benefit from this. Less prideful which is a good thing but if he can still find confidence then good on him. He can channel this into smth productive

 

[Sigmundd]

Like ik I'm talking from a kind of high horse but if he's able to live with himself so be it. I still think he's a bit homo tho. But someone like him would never be able to disrespect or like have chat for anyone else. I guess he's now more humbled so maybe he could benefit from this. Less prideful which is a good thing but if he can still find confidence then good on him. He can channel this into smth productive

What? how is the boy homo? in Islam is totally fine to raise another child just like our last prophet who was raised by others and the step father is muslim. Having healthy guardian is better than an unstable father who isn't their for his child. And the kid came out decent. Better than many other Somali boys his age.

 

[FortniteLover]

our last prophet who was raised by others

There is a big difference with this case. The Prophet Peace be upon him was an orphan and his father died before he was born. And his mother took care of him until she died at 6. Then he was raised by his family like uncle and grandfather.

The somali guys case is different His parents divorced and now he has a second dad. He's a separate case. Maybe homo is the wrong word. But he's smth close

 

[kamek]

For me personally a step dad that is at least somali would be maybe a bit dealble but still hard. But a non somali is crazy. Idk why but stepfather in itself feels emasculating but further him being ajnabi thats too much. Would have to castrate myself I can't go around with my chin held high knowing my mums getting pounded by a guy that I didn't even come from

Wtf is wrong with you

 

[𐒖𐒐𐒈𐒝𐒑𐒛𐒐𐒘_200]

It's none of your business, I find it very weird you care about women who aren't even you're family.

I couldn't care less about Somali woman as i'm expressing my view on this matter as the truth hurts.

 

[Kisame]

Like ik I'm talking from a kind of high horse but if he's able to live with himself so be it. I still think he's a bit homo tho. But someone like him would never be able to disrespect or like have chat for anyone else. I guess he's now more humbled so maybe he could benefit from this. Less prideful which is a good thing but if he can still find confidence then good on him. He can channel this into smth productive

@Sigmundd @𐒖𐒐𐒈𐒝𐒑𐒛𐒐𐒘_200 @Doctorabdi

"One-in-four black men (24%) say they have a step child, compared with 14% of black women. Black men are also much more likely than white (15%) or Hispanic men (7%) to say they have stepchildren.
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https://www.pewresearch.org/social-...r black men,to the prevalence of stepfamilies.

There's a lot of niggas willing to "Step Up"

 

[Sigmundd]

There is a big difference with this case. The Prophet Peace be upon him was an orphan and his father died before he was born. And his mother took care of him until she died at 6. Then he was raised by his family like uncle and grandfather.

The somali guys case is different His parents divorced and now he has a second dad. He's a separate case. Maybe homo is the wrong word. But he's smth close

Ok maybe is different but there's absolutely nothing homo with having a step dad who stepped up in helping raise the family the original abo couldn't. And the son came out well, and the step dad is mixed so wouldn't lool out of place with his step son since he can blend as a light skin or mixed somali.

 

[bobby_hill-Punt]

I have seen few but I'm very curious as to how this ajanabi step father treats his somali step children if you know any?. And to those step children do you feel inclined towards his ethnicity, and what is his ethnicity?

yes I found this guy who talks about it a lot

https://x.com/SickerGuyStyll/status/1928346703507390580

 

[FortniteLover]

nothing homo with having a step dad w

If the man of the house is not your biologically father that u came from, you are a homosexual