There's no shame in talking about qabiil or getting to know one another's qabiil. But it's truly shameful if you judge someone based on their qabiil or stereotype them based on their qabiil.
I always ask them about who they're and what their background is. There's no shame in it. I'm not asking her to judge her, but that'll be the first thing everyone is going to ask me. "Who is she?, Which qabiil is she"