Dealing with hardships

[Happy_]

@SOULSEARCHING posted something kinda similar, so I'm going to paraphrase from that

Surah Baqrah is excellent to listen to when feeling sad. Also, Surah Zumar verse 53 is really good for depression (the context is for people feeling sad about sins, but the point of not despairing is general)

Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves, do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful."

In addition to the regular prayers, add Salat ul-Duha after the sun rises, but before Dhuhur and pray Salat ul-Witr at night after Isha. If you want to pray more, you can add 2 rakat of sunnah before Fajr, before/after Dhuhur, before Asr, and after Maghrib, as well as Salat ul-Layl in the last 1/3 of the night.

Combine Duniya and Akhira - listen to Quran and Ruqiyah while you studying and working. Do whatever tasks you need to do, otherwise it will add more anxiety to your plate

Working out is really helpful as well - the endorphin rush does wonders for your mood

Consider taking a vitamin D supplement. People living in the northern hemisphere tend to be Vitamin D deficient, especially those who aren't white. Vitamin D deficiency has been linked to depressive symptoms

Make sure you have a support system with people you can confide in, be it your parents, siblings, etc. Don't keep your struggles bottled up - let other family know that you are stressed - the dua of family members for their loved ones is extremely potent.

Most importantly, place all of your trust in Allah and believe in Him as the disposer of all of your affairs, your entire outlook on life will change for the better and you'll find inner peace

InshaAllah it'll have you feeling better in no time and your worries will evaporate

Jazakallah kheir huuno, thank you for taking your time. Means a lot. I will incorporate what you wrote to my daily life insha‘allah, as much as i can.

 

[Happy_]

Wow, you guys are amazing masha‘allah. So many useful tips. Barakallahu feekum for taking the time. I will sleep very well caawa insha‘allah. You guys put a smile on my face, may Allah make you all happy!

 

[astorecalledkmart]

Jazakallah kheir huuno, thank you for taking your time. Means a lot. I will incorporate what you wrote to my daily life.

Allahu barak feek

I forgot to also recommend a book called "Don't Be Sad" by Aaidh Abdullah al'Qarni. You can google search it and find a pdf copy pretty easily, but if you can't I can post a link - strongly recommend reading this book as it puts life into perspective

Never forget that you're from a warrior race. You as a Somali woman are the toughest of the tough. More importantly, Almighty Allah is on your side. The Creator of the Universe who spilt the sea for Nabi Musa AS and the Children of Israel will help you and through the Grace of Allah, that which bothers you shall be vanquished back into oblivion InshaAllah

 

[Soomaaliweyn]

Kaarjibin

 

[Happy_]

Allahu barak feek

I forgot to also recommend a book called "Don't Be Sad" by Aaidh Abdullah al'Qarni. You can google search it and find a pdf copy pretty easily, but if you can't I can post a link - strongly recommend reading this book as it puts life into perspective

Never forget that you're from a warrior race. You as a Somali woman are the toughest of the tough. More importantly, Almighty Allah is on your side. The Creator of the Universe who spilt the sea for Nabi Musa AS and the Children of Israel will help you and through the Grace of Allah, that which bothers you shall be vanquished back into oblivion InshaAllah

Don‘t make me cry, thank you, you‘re absolutely right. I know that book, i used to have it, dunno where it went but I will get a new one insha‘allah.

 

[Happy_]

Kaarjibin

Sorry what?

 

[kickz]

Dont internalize talk to family or friends about it. Just talking sometimes can get you over it.

 

[Wiilyam Ina Sheekh Zubeer]

Abaayo it depends, sabr can be of two kinds. Perseverance or acceptance and accepting Allah's qadr. Have sabr in any case and be grateful alhamdulillah that you are blessed in a multitude of ways, although you might not see it right away, with your vision temporarily clouded by the shadows of your hardship.
Just know Allah is the light of the heavens and the earth and he will show you a way and provide you with the means and companions who will help you through this passage. All you have to do is seek out the help you need. Talk to your parents, siblings, friends it might provide relief and put your struggle in perspective, which enables you tackle your problem head-on.

2. KNOW, that whatever you are going through, others might be in a worst situation than you.

Book a hugging session with me. $30 an hour

No thanks im good

Alhamdulillah sister, see you're getting better already. Remember @Basra 's second point and that people could be in such predicaments that they would take up @Doosowareer 's offer although the brother genuinely meant to help out.

Some light hearted banter will also do you good. Keep being @Happy_ despite the circumstances, it's really about your state of mind, less about the state of your affairs. A smile can give you effortless relief which is half of the equation the other half requires prayer and perseverance.

You got this abaayo, I'm sure of this and in sha Allah the burden will be lifted of your shoulders.

 

[Abdalla]

Only complain your sorrows and anguish to Allah.

Only in the remembrance of Allah does the heart find tranquillity.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

@Abdalla what did I say that was wrong?


Why Qashin me?

 

[Abdalla]

I made a special playlist and I put on that playlist and take a long walk.
I once took 2 hours walk without realizing.


I also listen to the Quran. I fall asleep listening to Surah baqarah.

Please know that every hardship will pass, there's a rainbow after every thunderstorm. Nothing lasts forever.

Are you seriously advising her to listen to YG and sing along my neega my neega?

Who do you call when you're feeling some type of way. Ungrateful

 

[Halimo-2018]

I am going through the same thing right now. It is so hard to be positive. I try to look at how far i've came in the past, i thought i couldn't go in anymore yet i did. As the saying goes This too shall pass. Try to look at people in worse in condition than you it will remind you to be thankful.Prayer and moderate exercise helps me . I make sure i look pretty and smell good by wearing my favorite perfumes. Don't neglect yourself. Don't over share your problems with people a lot of them are going through their own struggles some of them will be happy that your struggling too, this is sadly true.just keep swimming.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

Are you seriously advising her to listen to YG and sing along my neega my neega?

Who do you call when you're feeling some type of way. Ungrateful

Where did I say that she should listen to YG or music?

I made a special playlist and I put on that playlist and take a long walk.
I once took 2 hours walk without realizing.


I also listen to the Quran. I fall asleep listening to Surah baqarah.

Please know that every hardship will pass, there's a rainbow after every thunderstorm. Nothing lasts forever.

A playlist of Surah or duas. Where did I advice her to listen to music?

You can create anything and make a playlist, your age is showing adeer.

 

[Abdalla]

Where did I say that she should listen to YG or music?




A playlist of Surah or duas. Where did I advice her to listen to music?

You can create anything and make a playlist, your age is showing adeer.

Good comeback. As @Cognitivedissonance says, see you on the rebound

 

[Waaqo of Punt]

Good comeback. As @Cognitivedissonance says, see you on the rebound

You had to tag him. lol

 

[Abdalla]

@Happy sorry to slightly derail your topic, but certain members just irk me in the wrong way

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

@Happy sorry to slightly derail your topic, but certain members just irk me in the wrong way

Irk you the wrong way? You just wanted to start an argument and you lost

Take your L adeer.

 

[Waaqo of Punt]

Not much I can that's already said but the hard times come to pass, after you overcome you will be better than you were before.

@Happy_

 

[Bohol]

Read online forums (reddit & others) of people failing their exams or other hardships then you will realize your not the only 1 in that situation. It will cheer you up.

 

[Abdalla]

Irk you the wrong way? You just wanted to start an argument and you lost

Take your L adeer.

Lost to technicality