Are you in touch with your exes?

[Shamis]

So you want a relationship with a guy but you don't want to be married is what I'm gathering here..

Its pretty odd to have a good relationship with your ex, most of the time you don't want to ever see their face again

Of course I want a relationship with him, we have kids. I just don't want a romantic relationship with him. We're still good friends though.

 

[.279]

What do you mean she can't find a better man

She said she tried but is only meeting saqajaans. 7/10 guys are that way. The guy is lacking a little but she said he's a good father and treats her right now. That's better than most men.

 

[Bernie Madoff]

Why would anyone want to keep in touch with their ex? If anything it should be kept really minimum contact but to be honest its best to cut it off.

 

[.279]

Why would anyone want to keep in touch with their ex? If anything it should be kept really minimum contact but to be honest its best to cut it off.

Did she not say they have children together?

 

[GlitzyCue_]

Why would anyone want to keep in touch with their ex? If anything it should be kept really minimum contact but to be honest its best to cut it off.

The children wdym cut it off

 

[Bernie Madoff]

Did she not say they have children together?

I was referring to her question on the title of the thread. I didn't really read her opening post

 

[GlitzyCue_]

She said she tried but is only meeting saqajaans. 7/10 guys are that way. The guy is lacking a little but she said he's a good father and treats her right now. That's better than most men.

True but he lowkey abused her when they were married
My motto is those types of people never change
She shouldn't trust his fake smiles

 

[Bernie Madoff]

The children wdym cut it off

I did't read her first post.

 

[GlitzyCue_]

I did't read her first post.

Horta why do you come into things like a know it all

 

[.279]

True but he lowkey abused her when they were married
My motto is those types of people never change
She shouldn't trust his fake smiles

I see you've been done wrong alot by ain't shit men huh?

 

[Bernie Madoff]

Horta why do you come into things like a know it all

Cause i am a know it all

 

[GlitzyCue_]

I see you've been done wrong alot by ain't shit men huh?

Umm no but I've seen people go through it and all it taught me was that 911 will always be in handy for me to use

 

[.279]

Umm no but I've seen people go through it and all it taught me was that 911 will always be in handy for me to use

Shid den

 

[VixR]

It seems to me you have it all figured out. Don't let ppl sway you. You know your life best.

 

[Shamis]

It seems to me you have it all figured out. Don't let ppl sway you. You know your life best.

Yes I'm happy to be divorced but scared of going through courtship and a new marriage all over again.

 

[VixR]

Yes I'm happy to be divorced but scared of going through courtship and a new marriage all over again.

Don't rush into anything. Take it slow and be methodical about it. Also just be aware of the challenges. You're right that most ppl are after sex, but I'm sure you remember that was true before you were married with children too. Now it's just the stakes are higher, so to speak, since as a mother you have children to protect.

 

[Ferrari]

You made the right choice for you and your kids if you felt it was best

She didn't even tell us why she divorced him, not that she has to.
how can u say she made the good choice?



@Shamis no, there is no point to keep contact with them.

 

[Mercury]

I've only had one ex and we're good friends despite divorcing. Unlike other Somali dads he keeps the kids half the time at his house and buys me flowers and chocolates every now and again. It was my idea to divorce and sometimes I wonder if I did I the right thing. Right now I'm coming across so many saqajaans who just want to sleep me when I was married to a gentleman and it makes me wonder if it was worth it.

I can userstand he's involved with the kids but flowers and candy?

 

[GlitzyCue_]

I can userstand he's involved with the kids but flowers and candy?

Why do you think that's weird mercury?

 

[Mercury]

Why do you think that's weird mercury?

Im just suprised lol never ever heard of a Somali that would do such a thing after a divorce it's a nice gesture tho