Genuine question:
Everyone on this forum is so extreme.Wallahi.
Disloyalty is avoidable however majority of "men" are too selfish to see the damage it does to their wife and kids. The only loyal men i've seen so far in my life are the once that a lot to lose than the woman their married to.a man can literally drive a woman crazy if she's not careful because she will always have a lot more ti lose than him including the kids she will have with him.
I agree with that analogy.
Two options. You either love her and value her enough to only stay with her as losing her is more painful or being with another is more important, so you divorce her.
A good portion of men are like this I however will forever remain loyal to my wife once I get married
What if she can't cover his sixual drive - does that justify giving him the opportunity to take an extra wife?
Really up to you and what you value. No point complicating things. Same with a wife with an amazing marriage, but her husband isn't fulfilling her sexual needs. Does she leave? Or does she find other alternatives like viagra, research ect.
Yes I think most often the women file for divorce if/when the husband can't sexually satisfy her.. And it's not even a haram reason to divorce.
Even with a second wife one can still have a good relationship with their kids from the first wife, it all depends on the individual and how they manage their time betwen the two families.
They actually don't. Many don't have that privilege especially if she has kids ect. Society isn't very forgiving to single mothers with kids with regards to finding another husband. Also, the orgasm gap between men and women is rather large. Less than 20% of women orgasm anyway as their perfectly functioning husband doesn't care to put effort in. I think you're in LaLa land, although society is now becoming more aware about female sexuality.
It seems like us men are not complicated as the women all we need is 5 minutes and we are happy for the rest of the day
This is some overly simplistic assertion.
This is a sign they are most definitely jilted with an axe to grind.
True
Often times people with adverse experiences with a paternal figure be it emotional or physical absence tend to have a negative view of Somali men. These are often the ones who uplift nimaan ajnabi vs Somali. Notice how they accord nuance to foreigners whilst not paying the same level of consideration to men from their community. All Abdis are deemed a monolith and grouped while Ajnabis are different and a function of their upbringing, values and temperament.
I actually agree with that.
Am GUILTY! Looool that’s one step of healing right? InshAllah khair but I can’t help but see dysfunction when I see a Somali men.
Often times people with adverse experiences with a paternal figure be it emotional or physical absence tend to have a negative view of Somali men. These are often the ones who uplift nimaan ajnabi vs Somali. Notice how they accord nuance to foreigners whilst not paying the same level of consideration to men from their community. All Abdis are deemed a monolith and grouped while Ajnabis are different and a function of their upbringing, values and temperament.
).Come on, We can’t act like these guys don’t do the same towards Xalimos
Often times people with adverse experiences with a paternal figure be it emotional or physical absence tend to have a negative view of Somali men. These are often the ones who uplift nimaan ajnabi vs Somali. Notice how they accord nuance to foreigners whilst not paying the same level of consideration to men from their community. All Abdis are deemed a monolith and grouped while Ajnabis are different and a function of their upbringing, values and temperament.
