You remind me of how i think.
We both like to question things a lot
I have written a thread on this topic feel free to read it.
Thread 'Aisha’s marriage.'
https://www.somalispot.com/threads/aisha’s-marriage.144774/
Whilst we need to take be cautious when reading hadiths of their validity
Hadith sciences has been around for over a 1000 years and is very mature at this stage.
Much of the groundwork had been done far beyond our time.
Just check the hadith’s validity or who is the narrators.
If its Sahih i just take it as truth.