Somali dudes. Serious question. No trolling

Well, that's what i call a double whammyAt this point she would be even lucky if a faarax consider her as a concubine

VixR said:

1) She has nothing to 'repent' from, and so the premise is faulty and naive to begin with.

2) A twice divorced individual with children from multiple marriages will generally have a hard time remarrying period, w/o having anythign to do with the ethnic background of said children. All this, ze children are black and arab hence why she is ineligible is fancy posturing, although highly amusing.

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While i do agree with the overall fact that generally speaking such individuals have a hard time remarrying , i don't agree with your concluding remarks. The ethnic background of the children adds another set of challenges for such individuals and this is the reality on the ground. The issue isn't simply about the fact she was divorced 2 times but with the men(ethnicity) she was married to iyo children born of such marriages.

A somali woman who has been divorced multiple times and has somali children will always find it easier to marry a somali man than her counterpart who has non-somali kids. This is true for all ethnicities from my observations. If the children's ethnicity didn't matter as you're implying then women like the OP mentioned wouldn't be complaining about this issue.

Ruunta aan isku sheegno as we don't live in a utopian world where people don't get judged based on their ethnic background.

SuldaanGuled said:

While i do agree with the overall fact that generally speaking such individuals have a hard time remarrying , i don't agree with your concluding remarks. The ethnic background of the children adds another set of challenges for such individuals and this is the reality on the ground. The issue isn't simply about the fact she was divorced 2 times but with the men(ethnicity) she was married to iyo children born of such marriages.

A somali woman who has been divorced multiple times and has somali children will always find it easier to marry a somali man than her counterpart who has non-somali kids. This is true for all ethnicities from my observations. If the children's ethnicity didn't matter as you're implying then women like the OP mentioned wouldn't be complaining about this issue.

Ruunta aan isku sheegno as we don't live in a utopian world where people don't get judged based on their ethnic background.

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There's no need to lie. On what basis is a Somali woman with two failed marriages and children from two fathers trying to marry a third time going to find it easier?

The element of their reaction to her ex-husbands' ethnicities is sparked by pure id from irrational rejection-based feelings centered around purity, racial and sexual. The rational aversion, the failure of two marriages and children from different fathers is the true core of the issue that prevails over the former. Hence, if this woman was with two Somali men prior and had children with different fathers, the answers would also be a big fat NO, and they would not marry her either, but the amusing posturing would be absent, bc their egos wouldn't be threatened.

ItsHanna said:

This is true but the Somali community is very judgemental she will be seen as "Used goods"

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They will see you as "used goods" the minute you lose your virginity.

VixR said:

There's no need to lie. On what basis is a Somali woman with two failed marriages and children from two fathers trying to marry a third time going to find it easier?

The element of their reaction to her ex-husbands' ethnicities is sparked by pure id from irrational rejection-based feelings centered around purity, racial and sexual. The rational aversion, the failure of two marriages and children from different fathers is the true core of the issue that prevails over the former. Hence, if this woman was with two Somali men prior and had children with different fathers, the answers would also be a big fat NO, and they would not marry her either, but the amusing posturing would be absent, bc their egos wouldn't be threatened.
They will see you as "used goods" the minute you lose your virginity.

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On an empirical basis i say, just a few days ago there was thread about a somali woman who had been married previously to 13 somali men in total. It's an exception but my point if that it's fairly common for somali men to marry women who've themselves have been married multiple times. i know of a couple such marriages where the women had been married 2-4 times before some even had 9 kids but they still got married. Have you ever had talks with somali women who're divorced & have non somali kids but want to get married to somali men ? if you ever get the chance ask them whether the ethnicity of their children plays a role in their efforts to get married again ?

I did concede and accept that it would be harder for such women but nonetheless this doesn't negate what i stated earlier that ethnicity of the children and men adds another issue all together. Are you trying to imply that there can't be a rational basis for rejecting them purely on ethnic grounds ? how were you able to make that distinction between what legitimately constitutes a rational and irrational aversion ? what criteria did you use to come to that conclusion ?

Assuming that there are 2 somali women divorced with children(kids from both fathers) and both of them have been married twice. The only difference between them is that one has somali kids the other non somali kids. Now both want to remarry again but to somali men who do you believe will find it easier or should i say which women will somali men consider ? will somali men reject them equally for the reasons you stated above ie kids from different fathers & failed marriages only ? will the ethnicity of the non somali kids not be taken into consideration as well ?

Waa runta that most somali men would reject such women but from the few men who would consider marrying them they will pick the woman who somali kids over the one who hasn't. This is my point, for them it's simply a compatibility issue & they don't need to know the inner reasons like in the OP's case whereby she hated somali men.

Let her marry an ajnaabi for the third time.

As if any Somali man is going to raise some dhegocas and dhagax children.

Imagine their uncle Lyron calling you from Kingston with a loud dancehall music in the background

RasCanjero said:

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If you scream into that hole, you would hear echo. Hello lo lo lo lo

no thank youshe got that immigration office siil my kids will come out mixed with 6 different races if I ever had a child with her

VixR said:

There's no need to lie. On what basis is a Somali woman with two failed marriages and children from two fathers trying to marry a third time going to find it easier?

The element of their reaction to her ex-husbands' ethnicities is sparked by pure id from irrational rejection-based feelings centered around purity, racial and sexual. The rational aversion, the failure of two marriages and children from different fathers is the true core of the issue that prevails over the former. Hence, if this woman was with two Somali men prior and had children with different fathers, the answers would also be a big fat NO, and they would not marry her either, but the amusing posturing would be absent, bc their egos wouldn't be threatened.
They will see you as "used goods" the minute you lose your virginity.

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Do you believe in what u type horta?

I would marry a Somali woman with multiple failed marriage and kids if her husbands were somali. I would not marry Somali woman with no kids who was divorced by a non Somali. Why? Because we like to keep the gudaafad out where it belongs. U venture out u stay out.

Why are you saying this isn't a problem when most guys explicitly said they wouldn't marry her because of her going out of her community twice?

You gotta stop lying adiga.

An acquaintance once said this about Somali girls who try to come back to Somali men: "We don't want second hand use".

I don't mind marrying a previously married Somali female with kids. I will not, however, go anywhere near a selfhating sea-cow with half-breeds toddling after her.

I see some are trying to deflect but no one has a problem with Somali sisters who are divorcees, as long as those kids are ethnic Somalis. Having kids from a previous Somali marriage is not the problem.

What's objectionable is the fact that you broke the social contract in our community by marrying and fathering the child of an ajnabi.

Actions have consequences, and any girl who marries out should be prepared to live with them.

One of my ayeyo's married 4 times, it doesn't seem like there was much of a stigma attached to divorcees back then. I do remember my dad though telling my brothers to avoid divorcees with children* and that its too much of a headache, maybe thats just bc of where we live now.

Adolf-Hitler said:

Do you believe in what u type horta?

I would marry a Somali woman with multiple failed marriage and kids if her husbands were somali. I would not marry Somali woman with no kids who was divorced by a non Somali. Why? Because we like to keep the gudaafad out where it belongs. U venture out u stay out.
You gotta stop lying adiga.

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Prince Abubu said:

I don't mind marrying a previously married Somali female with kids. I will not, however, go anywhere near a selfhating sea-cow with half-breeds toddling after her.

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Hoosjeed said:

I see some are trying to deflect but no one has a problem with Somali sisters who are divorcees, as long as those kids are ethnic Somalis. Having kids from a previous Somali marriage is not the problem.

What's objectionable is the fact that you broke the social contract in our community by marrying and fathering the child of an ajnabi.

Actions have consequences, and any girl who marries out should be prepared to live with them.

Why are you saying this isn't a problem when most guys explicitly said they wouldn't marry her because of her going out of her community twice?

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@VixR Nice try deflecting, a Somali divorcee with ethnic Somali kids and a Somali divorcee with half breeds are two completely different scenarios.

Somali divorcee with ethnic Somali kids do not have a hard time remarrying into the community, I have seen many of them remarry single faaraxs and it is a normal part of the Somali community. As you can see these Posters seem to also confirm my sentiments.

Come on now Ruunta aan isku sheegno

Divorce is so common in our community. Men don't seem to have issues marrying women divorced 4 or 5 times. Why should this lady be shunned for wanting to marry again? I doubt a lot of them would care but I I'm ngl the black kid will make it harder for her (its pathetic but unfortunately thats the sad reality).

Aria said:

Divorce is so common in our community. Men don't seem to have issues marrying women divorced 4 or 5 times. Why should this lady be shunned for wanting to marry again? I doubt a lot of them would care but I I'm ngl the black kid will make it harder for her (pathetic ikr, but unfortunately thats the sad reality).

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Why should a Somali guy marry her when she used to look down on them? If there should be any shame on anyone, or should be her for crawling back with all fours to the same people she hated.

If I hated Somali girls so much that I married out twice, I'd be too embarrassed to even want back in.
Xalimos waa cawro geed, they don't get embarrassed.

Also why will the black kid make it any more difficult for her than the Arab one?

Hoosjeed said:

I see some are trying to deflect but no one has a problem with Somali sisters who are divorcees, as long as those kids are ethnic Somalis. Having kids from a previous Somali marriage is not the problem.

What's objectionable is the fact that you broke the social contract in our community by marrying and fathering the child of an ajnabi.

Actions have consequences, and any girl who marries out should be prepared to live with them.

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Hoos

Not yet, that is only isolated to the two above, but now ask them, what about if her children are from a qabiil that is a rival to yours?

AussieHustler said:

Hoos

Not yet, that is only isolated to the two above, but now ask them, what about if her children are from a qabiil that is a rival to yours?

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I can only speak for myself, but I don't have a problem with it.

It is not uncommon in our community for siblings from the same hooyo to have different qabils, it is nothing new. They are all ethnic somalis at the end of the day.

You guys are really mean