Don't let words here get to you young one. I'll quote Epictetus for you.a nation cannot heal with grudges part of my family was killed as well some were violated, but we must all forgive each other. My father was a 77 veteran and knew the man who did it but forgave him and left him to Allah. We can never heal unless we forgive each other.. i know somalis have a tendency to carry cuqdad with them deeply, but at some point for ur own health u have to let it go.